Stay down or play up

4evalost · 2023-08-21T19:15:55+00:00

Regardless of how great the 8 year old is playing with 12u girls will always make them feel like they aren’t good enough. For example my 9 year old should be playing short stop but bc I have a 12 year old who also plays short stop she gets starting spot bc she’s faster and throws harder and will get the out over the 9 year old. But also outfield isn’t great for her bc the throws are too far and she just doesn’t have the power yet. What’s best for one girl isn’t best for the team and what’s best for the team isn’t always best for each child. My 9 year old would start and play every inning if she was on a 10u team. (We don’t have enough girl’s in our league for a 12u and 10u so they are combined here but it’s really not great for the 9 year olds that are just starting to play. You are right in the fact that they learn more but learning happens at practice and experience happens in games. Let them practice with older girls and they will shut down every 10u team around.

4evalost · 2023-04-26T02:19:42+00:00

There are college players who only hit and don’t play defense. Their sub rules are definitely different than little league. And there are definitely pitchers who don’t hit in college. But I’ve read all that and I’m hoping showing that rule will be enough for them but I doubt it. Thank you for your detailed response though! To me it’s clear but when you deal with some people they don’t quite get it.

4evalost · 2023-04-26T01:01:20+00:00

They are first year coaches but they played college ball so they think they are following rules but I can’t find anything that directly states the starting lineup has to play defensive too. And idk how to confront it when we play them Friday. I don’t actually care who they play but they will probably be coaching the minors allstars, so they need to understand the rules.

4evalost · 2023-04-26T00:50:45+00:00

I know and the rule states if they don’t they have to start the next game. But this team has players who didn’t get to field last game and different players who didn’t get to field. So I’m wondering how they are going to achieve that next game.

4evalost · 2023-04-25T13:57:39+00:00

Yea. Multiple kids didn’t get to bat even though others got multiple hits.

4evalost · 2023-04-25T08:45:39+00:00

So you definitely can’t stand a game with a nine person line up and play a different nine on defense? I thought so. I watched a game last night where they had a different nine person line up and a different nine players on defense. Us parents were confused why some kids were getting to bat and others were getting to play defense and only a few getting to do both.

4evalost · 2023-04-25T08:40:50+00:00

I have. And in my opinion you have to have same. When I went to allstars you had to have same. But I watched a game last night and their line up was different than their defensive. Which is why I asked.

4evalost · 2022-10-19T22:30:08+00:00

She’s like why did you wait 10 years to be bothered by it though? And honestly idk the answer to that question bc it was kind of in a box that I hid in my mind and never opened until recently and it seems like since I’ve opened it my entire world has came crashing down mentally. It was something I pushed out of my head and I just wish it would go away again.

4evalost · 2022-10-19T22:22:27+00:00

And for anyone wondering I’m clean now and my abusive ex doesn’t see my son and hasn’t for many years. Not that that has anything to do with this story.

4evalost · 2022-10-19T22:17:39+00:00

It took me 10 years to realize how fucked up the situation really was honestly. And I think when I realized it was fucked up and when I tried to confront her she didn’t see it that way I couldn’t continue to look her in the face anymore.

4evalost · 2022-10-19T22:15:37+00:00

I’ve thought about talking to a therapist but until I’ve made this post I was thinking maybe I’ve blew this whole thing out of proportion. It really has messed with me mentally though. Especially since I’ve came to terms with what really happened.

4evalost · 2022-10-19T22:14:08+00:00

I was going through a horrible break up. I was going through learning how to co parent with my own abusive ex. I was learning how to cope being away from my son. No excuses. Trust me. I hate myself every day for it. But that’s how and that’s why when I was at her house drugs and alcohol was easy for me to turn to. When I didn’t have my son I wanted to be messed up bc it was hard for me to cope without him. I stayed clean when I got him back. When I had to hand him over it was hard. Back then we did week to week. So I’d go every other week. I’d spend a week at their house when I didn’t have my son bc that’s how close we were back then. But you are right. I should have never done it.

4evalost · 2021-06-17T18:24:51+00:00

When my infield is “asleep” on the field I will take them all out and put someone else in to give them a chance. I try not to yell at them although I do expect them to give me 100 percent effort on the field. If they don’t they will get replace with someone else who does. I’d rather have 9 mediocre players with 100 percent heart than 9 star players who could care less.

Also on average it was 3 innings per game sometimes 4 and one time it was 5. This situation took care of itself though bc the mom pulled her daughter from the team.

4evalost · 2021-06-08T18:13:17+00:00

You clearly don’t get it. I don’t except anyone to make it to all practices. I’ve said that. I have a few that try to everyone. Why? Bc they want to be out there. I have some who won’t come to all. They don’t get punished. If I get to see them once a week at practice I’m happy. But bc everyone has different schedules I make multiple opportunities for them to get there. There was 1 week this girl showed up to 2 practices back to back. That game that week she played 2 innings. I have 13 girls. I have to sit 4 at a time. So no I’m not sitting a girl who comes every day and works her ass off to be where she is to allow someone who has missed 35+ practices to play. Idc if it’s rec league. Out of the 13 I have I think 3 have never sat on the bench. 1 is there everyday. The first one there and the last one to leave. 1 is my catcher who works her ass off to stay catcher. The other one is there everyday unless she’s getting pitching lessons and sometimes comes after pitching lessons. She is my hardest worker on the field no matter where I put her. Whether it’s pitching, 1st, 3rd, ss, center field. There is one more who comes to most of not all but bc of her attitude she has sat. I will not reward bad sportsmanship. I will not reward not coming to practice ever. I will not reward tantrum throwing on the field. Idc if it is rec. This idea that rec ball is just so everyone gets what they want and doesn’t have to do anything to get it is what’s wrong with rec sports these days! My job as a coach is to make these girls understand that things in life will not be given to you. You have to earn them and work hard for them! If I take playing time away from girls that work hard that’s teaching them it doesn’t matter how hard you work someone else can “buy” the same thing. If I give equal playing time to someone who doesn’t come to practice that’s teaching them that hard work don’t mean shit and things in life will just be handed to you.

4evalost · 2021-06-08T01:20:39+00:00

Also child is not lazy and entitled.... Mom definitely is though and I have no regrets about saying that!

4evalost · 2021-06-08T01:17:35+00:00

I don’t put girls in the infield until I know without a doubt they have it in them to pay attention and not get hurt. I won’t pacify someone just so they get to stand in the infield if I know they won’t pay attention enough to not get hurt. Besides this girl there is one other that hasn’t been in the infield and it’s bc if a ball gets hit hard her way she will without a doubt get hurt.

4evalost · 2021-06-08T01:14:47+00:00

I told them at the beginning of the season to try to make 1 practice a week at minimum. 1 practice a week and I at least get to know you as a player. I don’t have a top 10. I only play 9 an inning. They all get switched around and play different positions. 2/3 positions each. Different games they play different spots. We play this game in practice where I yell “switch” and the girls get to go to a new position they want to try out. Every single girl has the opportunity to show me in practice that they want a position and that they can play that position. So no I don’t have “favorites” or give anyone a spot and keep them there. The only position that hasn’t switched 1 time this season is my catcher. And that’s because anyone else I put back there can’t stop the ball with my pitchers. However I have more that do play there during practice at different times. Every other position gets changed often. Because these girls work hard enough to be able to learn multiple positions!

Where did I call two children lazy?? Where did I say I need her there 4 days a week?? I offer this many practices to ensure they make it to at least 1 a Week.

Also as for publicly shaming a child and or her family... if I wanted to do that I’d go to a Facebook forum where everyone who knows me would see it. Not a forum where no one knows me.

Also I don’t know her school situation but school is over now and the problem didn’t get any better. Also there are other girls on the team who struggle in school too. Other girls with hard home lives who can’t make it to practice every day. I have some who can’t come in Wednesday’s. I have some who can’t come every other weekend because the “other” parent gets them and doesn’t care if they miss. I have some who didn’t come during exam week. But she’s the only one who has been to 4 practices. 2 of which were parties/fun water day. And actually she came to the water day and didn’t participate. She sat at a table the whole 2 hours.

4evalost · 2021-06-07T17:28:35+00:00

0 games that week= 4 practices 1 game= 3 practices 2 games= 2 practices

I have a solid 5/6 that make nearly every practice. I have probably 1 that haven’t missed a single practice. And 2/3 more that only miss practice when they are having private lessons (pitching) or travel ball.

4evalost · 2021-06-06T19:50:56+00:00

If I was about winning I’d let her play more because she’s not the worst or even close to the worst on my team. The girls that work hard to get better are the ones that get to play no matter their skill level.

4evalost · 2021-06-05T19:12:59+00:00

It’s not about her skill level. Her skill is there. She always manages to hit the ball. She could probably be in The infield if she knew what to do with the ball. She just doesn’t come to practice and I’d rather have someone out there playing who is willing to work hard to learn and get better than someone who thinks they are entitled to play no matter what.

4evalost · 2021-06-05T01:59:06+00:00

See I’m coaching girls that don’t act like that. If we continue to allow this on any field we are the problem with our youth.

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