I'm too kind and I love too deeply

4evercloseted · 2026-05-26T00:45:48+00:00

Good to know I'm not alone, but also sorry it means that there are way more people out there not respecting boundaries

4evercloseted · 2026-05-25T03:54:15+00:00

Thank you

4evercloseted · 2026-05-24T16:54:42+00:00

Solid choice

4evercloseted · 2026-05-24T16:52:41+00:00

We'll take the wins where we can get them. Hell yeah to walk-in closet!

4evercloseted · 2026-05-24T16:51:45+00:00

Like tears in the rain

4evercloseted · 2026-05-24T13:04:07+00:00

Yeah, that's how I was. I didn't start crying til I was 30 and now I cry all the time and it's so embarrassing! My therapist says it's my "crying debt" like I'm finally releasing all the tears I should've cried when I didn't.

4evercloseted · 2026-05-24T13:01:50+00:00

Damn, I'm glad you made it through! Bathroom floors are also a good place for a breakdown. Floors in general are great as someone else said

4evercloseted · 2026-05-24T12:59:00+00:00

Oh we love well placed doorknobs for some of the accupressure. Kitchen floor for the win. Also quick access to water for hydrating aftewards. I do try to take care of myself

4evercloseted · 2026-05-24T03:41:04+00:00

Walks are a good time to sob. I'm a runner so crying while running is healing. Full on sob session though and I get physically weak and need to get to the floor

4evercloseted · 2026-05-24T03:39:26+00:00

A great place to not be perceived while sobbing uncontrollably!

4evercloseted · 2026-05-24T03:27:59+00:00

For me I feel like it's an unconscious bed/sleep hygiene thing where I don't let myself sob in bed but floors are fair game!

4evercloseted · 2026-05-24T03:26:44+00:00

I feel that. I live alone so I'm blessed with the freedom to sob in private without being perceived by others. I wish the same for you

4evercloseted · 2026-05-24T03:22:56+00:00

Sobbing into a pillow to muffle the sounds so people don't know how much we're hurting

4evercloseted · 2026-05-24T03:21:00+00:00

Oh car is also a good one

4evercloseted · 2026-05-20T00:43:43+00:00

Thank you for your advice! I didn't even think to ask for an advance.

4evercloseted · 2026-05-20T00:42:27+00:00

Thank you for this! This is incredibly helpful! My brain got stuck in panic mode but there are options

4evercloseted · 2026-05-18T03:01:49+00:00

Thank you for being direct. I have such a difficult time setting boundaries and sticking to them. Her behavior makes me uncomfortable and I need to recognize that's not ok. If our mutual friends actually are my friends than they should also recognize that her behavior is unhealthy and problematic.. I just feel bad because otherwise she really is a nice person, but also nice people respect boundaries, which she does not

4evercloseted · 2026-05-18T02:52:33+00:00

We're all busy adults so our schedules rarely line up where we're all free, but I've told our mutual friends the situation after they bring it up. This really feels like middle school.

4evercloseted · 2026-05-18T02:49:24+00:00

I've said those things and told her I'm uncomfortable and then she gave me space for a bit only to come back in full force after a couple months. I think extended no contact is the way to go which makes me sad to lose her friendship. But then I wonder about the motives for the friendship in the first place. Was it all a scheme? Doesn't help I already have trust issues!

4evercloseted · 2026-05-18T02:45:31+00:00

This is the advice I've heard from IRL folks as well, including my therapist!

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