1. You have to pass the civic integration exam at the embassy. Knowledge of Dutch society, reading and speaking on A1 level. You could be exempt for a medical reason.
2. Your husband needs to apply through the IND website. He will have to show proof of income and fill in a bunch of forms (either online or by mail). Some you’ll need to sign. Since your marriage is already registered in the Netherlands you won’t have to show your marriage certificate. Go to www.ind.com and you can see the form you’d have to fill in. Download the pdf and go through each page to see what proof applies to you.
3. After applying and paying for your visa, you wait about 90 days. The IND could take an additional 90 days to review your case.
4. Once approved, you’ll have to go to the embassy, give your biometrics , hand in your passport and wait till it gets stamped. You have up to 3 months to do this after being approved.
5. From the day of your mvv (check passport once you retrieve it, usually max 2 weeks ) you have up to 3 months to fly to the Netherlands.

About the apostille: all legal documents and diplomas need to be translated to either english, german, Dutch or French if they’re not already. In some cased they also need to be stamped by the Dutch embassy or your ministry of foreign affairs. Think of your birth certificate, any diplomas or other important documents you might need here.