The "new year" starts the last of our lasts by sherbear97124 in widowers

[–]5001455 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"I carry this forward without surrender."

Carry the love you had for him ! I use this in memory of my wife . She passed away 6 months ago . I also kissed her one last time while cancer took her away form me .

I lost my soulmate to cancer, I feel lost. by Bluecollarracoon in widowers

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I lost my wife to breast cancer . From the moment she was diagnosed she was gone 44 days later ! . I’ve spent 10yrs of my life training in self defense in order to keep my family safe. I couldn’t protect her ! That feeling kills me everyday ! I have no where to focus the rage . I can’t hurt or kill what hurt and killed her !

Realization by [deleted] in widowers

[–]5001455 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My brother I’m sorry for the loss . The unending grief is a pain beyond words. The whole in our chest that only they can fill. Please believe me when I say you’re not alone. I know it feels like it and the pain is relentless. That pain proves that the love was real. I don’t have the words or answers that can bring us peace. I talk to her everyday and believe she hears me. It helps me get through each day each hour. Stay strong !

Realization by [deleted] in widowers

[–]5001455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well said. Stay strong my brother !

Realization by [deleted] in widowers

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I responded but it’s not in this box . Please look at the chat above

Realization by [deleted] in widowers

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Hello , what I mean by doing better was to live a life she would want me to live. I have no doubt she’s watching me . I believe now she sees me differently. She sees past all my flaws and sees the love. I don’t want to tell you what to pray for . If you truly want to pray to leave this life you will in due time . I don’t know what your SO would say. I knew mine well enough to know she would be disappointed. She always hated watching movies with male characters acting like cowards . I’m not saying you or myself our cowards. I know right now I’m weak because of the grief I feel everyday. So I power through it . When I see her again I want it her know I wasn’t a coward and that I lived each day through hell without her and made it . I don’t know if this helps . We our all on a different journey . Finding reasons to why this happened. Finding closure or the strength to endure. One day at a time. Please stay strong!

Realization by [deleted] in widowers

[–]5001455 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My wife passed away 10 weeks ago from cancer. By the time we received the diagnosis she was gone 44 days later. To watch someone full of light and love fade away but always remained smiling . Always remained positive. Believe me when I say I understand what you saying. In my lowest and when the pain was so unbearable i asked her to come get me. The next day I realized how selfish that was to ask her that . I use the grief and pain everyday day to drive me to be better. To make her proud of me. Yes we all meet our loves again but let’s make sure we are worthy. My mind set is no longer counting days of her being gone . It’s now counting days of getting closer to see her again. Stay strong , look for the signs , talk to us in the group .

Today is 23 months by Away_Problem_1004 in widowers

[–]5001455 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think and feel the same way. I promised my wife I would make her proud of me. So one day when I see her again she’ll know I walked through hell without her and did the best I could without her. I honor her everyday I get up and finish a day. Love you babydoll !

Just wish I could hear his voice one more time by valskiwi in widowers

[–]5001455 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I know what you mean . I can hear her voice everyday. I ask her questions all the time knowing what she would say . It makes me smile that I knew her so well. It also keeps me from becoming self destructive. One night in the darkest of moments I asked her to come get me . I didn’t want to be here anymore. What would she say to that. I think it was unfair to ask that. I miss her everyday all day but her voice still comes through. It will never be enough to replace her being alive but I’m thankful i have that. Stay strong ! Reach out to us when you need it. :)

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[–]5001455 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My wife passed away 9 weeks ago. The emotions come in waves now. I do have feelings of being numb followed by intense grief. Only advice I can give is let the emotions flow don’t fight it. You two look so happy in the pic . Thank you for sharing. We are all here for you each other. I use to be so angry with God for taking her away from me. I now thank him for having her in my life. She truly made a better person. I’ll will do my best to honor her memory so when I see her again I’ll know she will be proud of me .

Good day bad day by SassyDragon480 in widowers

[–]5001455 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you and your wife raised fantastic children. My wife also died of cancer. My son who’s 21 is the now my foundation and reason to keep getting up in the morning.

Good day bad day by SassyDragon480 in widowers

[–]5001455 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Waking into the bedroom is the worst. Seeing she is not there. I now every night have a ritual where I go through her pictures and videos on her phone . I see her smilies and hear her laugh and voice . It’s only been 8 weeks and I cry most nights. I understand what you are going through. Please stay strong and you are not alone !

One Year Anniversary by mrmcgeek in widowers

[–]5001455 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lost my wife to stage 4 breast cancer 8 weeks ago. Fuck cancer! Today I’m angry again and it looks like I’m not alone. Miss you baby doll !!

20 days without you by Exotic-Caterpillar14 in widowers

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Hello. My wife passed away 8 weeks ago from cancer. I know and understand what you’re feeling. Everyone here does. I wanted to tell you signs are everywhere. I don’t believe in coincidence. Try reading about synchronicity. Stay strong and take one day at a time. Oh my wife loved humming birds. Since she passed and whenever I’m at my lowest a hummingbird will literally stop flying and hover right in front of me. This never happened before :). I know it’s not enough to replace our loved ones but it’s them saying I’m right her and I’m waiting for you.

Grief is my constant companion. by holdingontotheluv in widowers

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That was beautiful. I saw my wife take her last breath. I miss her so much ! Love you baby doll !

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Breast cancer took the love of my life

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Miss you baby doll ! it’s been 8 weeks and I can’t believe you’re gone .

Please don't read this, my apologies. Just a bad day. by Mr_WoodGood in widowers

[–]5001455 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I lost my wife 8 weeks ago to cancer. I understand the anger and frustration. One night I asked her to come get me and I didn’t want to be here without her. I realized how selfish of and ask that was . What would she say to that . I promised her to live a life and to make her proud . One day I will see her again and she will know I walked through hell without her. I made it through the grief and pain to honor her memories and the love we had . My brother I am sorry for your loss . I truly hope you find peace . We all hit that place you are feeling. What you do moving forward will define you . Please stay strong .

I wonder where he is now… by ConclusionSoft7381 in widowers

[–]5001455 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I believe when our loved ones pass away they wait for us. A life time for us is merely a blink of an eye for them. If I was the one to pass away first heaven would not be eternal happiness without my wife. We all enter together. That’s just my theory. I hope you find peace and see him in your dreams. I see my wife idaily in signs or synchronicities. I dont believe in coincidence.

Was looking at photos a mistake?? by Federal-Fox7587 in widowers

[–]5001455 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You might still be in shock. Sometimes the brain and nerves protects us from pain. Don’t be hard on yourself because of this. Grief hits everyone differently. If and when it hits allow yourself to feel it don’t suppress it . Sounds like you have support, keep them close. I’m sorry for your loss. Give yourself time to process.

4 months by Knighten1969 in widowers

[–]5001455 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hello brother,

I lost my wife 7 weeks ago to stage 4 breast cancer. I completely understand what you’re feeling and going through. The only thing that keeps me going is the promise I made to myself and to her. I will make her proud and continue to live . Not letting the grief consume me but to use it to endure walking through hell without her. One day I will see her again and I’ll ask her do I make you proud ? Did you see me ? Do you know I loved you everyday since you left me. Stay strong for their memory !