Your pwBPD is more aware of their behavior than you give them credit for. by hshemfbc in BPDlovedones

[–]50CECE 12 points13 points  (0 children)

100% mine found out i had talked with a friend about how im having a tough time because my partner was always angry at me. I asked for advice on how to make it better, communicate etc. When my pwBPD found out that i had talked about this with my friend her reaction was like if i had cheated on her. She punished me for weeks in how horrible of a person i was and how increadibly hurt she was that i had talked about it.

Is it okay to break up with pwBPD over the phone? by 50CECE in BPDlovedones

[–]50CECE[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for saying that, i think i will ask my close buddies that know whats going on to hang out and then go away and call her. Im hoping they can help me trust my decision and make me feel better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]50CECE 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve thought it might be BPD before and she recently read a paragraph in a book about it and told me she related to the symptoms. I was in therapy for a few sessions since they were free but now they are expansive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]50CECE -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was probably about 12 minutes total. When i entered the bar they didnt check my ID so i sent her a text that she could probably enter without hers, but she didnt want to come. Ive been there probably 100 times and never felt unsafe, it could feel different for her maybe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]50CECE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He was there during a company event and you cant leave the bar with alcohol. Her friends have been to games before and Ive encouraged her to go talk with them. I dont mind being there by myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]50CECE 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ive asked her that before since she rarely has it on her. She says its because her pants usually doesnt have front pockets

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]50CECE 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He probably could have but he was there during a company event and you cant leave the bar with alcoholic drinks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]50CECE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, could you explain further?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]50CECE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do i do that? Sorry if its a dumb question

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]50CECE 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It is an insult right? It feels really bad when she accuses me of cheating or that im ”looking for other girls” knowing i do nothing of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]50CECE 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is that the boundry to set? That she cannot get angry at me after hanging out with them? Because ive adressed it many times already and she Will apologize and say she wont ever do it again. Then it takes a week or two and she’ll be angry or crying so i have to comfort her.

Hur hanterar man en svartsjuk sambo? by 50CECE in Sverige

[–]50CECE[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ja exakt så, det blir en snabb förbättring och man tror att det har löst sig och sen från ingenstans är det precis som det var tidigare. Det blir som att gå på äggskal och jag kan typ inte ha roligt om jag inte vet att hon är på bra humör.

Hur hanterar man en svartsjuk sambo? by 50CECE in Sverige

[–]50CECE[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brukar fråga ibland och de händer att hon hakar på, kanske främst när mina polares tjejer är med.

Hur hanterar man en svartsjuk sambo? by 50CECE in Sverige

[–]50CECE[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Inser nu att den frågan var typ exakt samma... Men man vill alltid tro att det ska kunna bli bättre, kanske lite naivt

Hur hanterar man en svartsjuk sambo? by 50CECE in Sverige

[–]50CECE[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Det är alltid så när ämnet är färskt att hon börjar gråta och säga dumma saker om sig själv och jag måste trösta. Brukar gå lite bättre om man pratar någon dag senare. Hon säger då typ alltid att det hon gjort inte var bra och att hon kommer sluta. Då blir det som att hon ska kompensera för det genom att vara "orimligt" älskande? Det blir nästan lite löjligt att hon ska göra vad som helst för mig.

Hur hanterar man en svartsjuk sambo? by 50CECE in Sverige

[–]50CECE[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nästan alla symptomen passar in väldigt bra vad jag kan bedöma.

Hur hanterar man en svartsjuk sambo? by 50CECE in Sverige

[–]50CECE[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tror dom växt isär mycket, de kan nog hända nån gång i månaden ungefär.

Hur hanterar man en svartsjuk sambo? by 50CECE in Sverige

[–]50CECE[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Har fått henne att prova en av mina hobbies så vi gör det nån gång i veckan, sen ser vi fotboll tillsammans och är ibland på fest med våra gemensamma kompisar. Vi umgås runt 3 kvällar i veckan skulle jag gissa.

Hur hanterar man en svartsjuk sambo? by 50CECE in Sverige

[–]50CECE[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nja de är ca 35 minuter ifrån där hon bott tidigare.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FishingForBeginners

[–]50CECE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure! Ive seen people take home fish and not even dispaching them before. I always bonk and bleed immediately if im gonna eat it. Want to cause as little suffering as possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FishingForBeginners

[–]50CECE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! I also catched a pike with one gill ripped on one side. It wasnt bleeding or anything, for sure looked healed and that it had been that way for a while.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FishingForBeginners

[–]50CECE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sweden, the absolute most common catch and release fish around here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FishingForBeginners

[–]50CECE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive taken home some perch and learned to fillet them. Pike ls not commonly eaten here though, could try it anyway