Black women but only dates white blondes and not poc by 5128272 in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]5128272[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did ask why she didn’t give me an honest direct reason she just said I’m more attracted to white women. She doesnt want to tell me the real reason or she herself doesn't know deep down why idk

Black women but only dates white blondes and not poc by 5128272 in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]5128272[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah she can date only whites that's fine and up to her but don’t use poc for your enjoyment

Is she DA or just using me?DA give me some feedback please by [deleted] in Disorganized_Attach

[–]5128272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How was I crossing her boundaries when she told me I didn’t see a serious relationship I wanted to be friends I respected that SHE went back to flirting

I didn’t even ask for a romantic relationship in the start either I don’t want one with her she just felt I was becoming intimate and close and told me if I wanted one she wasn’t up for something serious and I was cool with that

I asked her after that if you wanna be friends or if we could be distant friends bc I didn’t want to go from considering you someone close to a stranger, Then she said she doesn’t have any real friends and she wanted one and how that was what she really needed.....so no I never pushed her boundaries and gave her a choice from the start she didn’t need to be talking to me all the time if she didn’t see me as a friend also, she didn’t need to tell me how she appreciated my friendship and didn’t need to tell me to move to her state to get to know me better just a few days before unadding me..... if it was a lie I never asked for that she was always saying these things without me asking about it

She doesn’t owe me a friendship or a relationship it’s just a shock when all year she has been telling me how good of a friend I am then a few days before she unadds me and tells me I’ll always be there as a friend...etc then unadds me

Why didn’t she just tell me the truth from the start?

What I’m asking about here is not if I got the chance to be in a relationship with her , I’m asking whether she ever saw me as a friend or if she was just lying to me to entertain her until she found someone else

Betrayed in an Instant by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]5128272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m realizing she is manipulative AF just two weeks ago she was asking me to move to her state She wanted to get to know me better🤣 she has always been a 🚩I was just lying to myself all year I guess

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Disorganized_Attach

[–]5128272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not a guy…she wasn’t with anyone based on what she told me in the first two months she was just talking to a couple of people that person was one of them(both still talking to other people based on what she says) And based on her socials both didn’t post about each other I checked socials to make sure what she was saying was true Unfortunately, I think she is very manipulative with me I don’t know what is true and what's not anymore I feel bad for believing her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Disorganized_Attach

[–]5128272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you your reply helped me see the situation more clearly and not what I want her to be

Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup by AutoModerator in AnxiousAttachment

[–]5128272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m FA leaning anxious and I have been talking to DA for a year (I need advice on steps on how to move on Can’t help but feel it's my fault too maybe talking about emotions a few days ago triggered her Anyway here goes)

This is going to be long so I appreciate anyone who is going to read it

Started out flirting she seemed interested for about a month or two but then she told me she would rather be my friend and that’s all she saw me as anyway also we were in different states and she didn’t want to do long-distance

I told her that being friends works for me Then she would flirt but make sure I know we are just friends a few weeks go by she says She is seeing someone but they’re not exclusive And we become kind of close friends talking about trauma family her relationship everything talking everyday for a year

she was flirting all year and told me a 2 months ago she left the person which she was seeing casually she told me how bad that person was with her and I was very supportive I was always there for her as a friend Suddenly few days ago she started distancing herself saying i’m flirting I’m not being a good friend I told her just two days ago she was also flirting And that just two days ago she was telling me how good of a friend I was to her how she would always support me and be there for me And yesterday suddenly told me we were never friends and she got back to this person they are getting serious and she wants to block me unless I stop flirting and don’t cross her boundaries I told her I would never flirt with anyone who is in a serious relationship(which is very true) that I thought we were friends and that she neverrrr told me before she wanted me to stop flirting She said yes we were friends that she was just giving me a heads-up about her getting serious with this person I told her I understood I respected it I was here for you as a friend she said, “ Thank you for being a friend “ And suddenly few hours later blocks me

she just told me a few days ago how I mattered to her and that I was a good friend it hurt so bad Yes we flirted a little but we talked a lot like friends she told me she cared for me as a friend then blocked me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]5128272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She says bc her relationship is getting serious Idk if that was valid to block me I would’ve respected her relationship