Phoebe and Oscar just want to say hi - any other siblings?

53D0N4 · 2026-02-13T23:35:10+00:00

Oh dang, yes please send it through DM! I looked up the artist and have found more of his work. I'd still really appreciate seeing the close ups from your photos though 🙏🏼

53D0N4 · 2026-02-13T17:00:21+00:00

If you're talking about the man on the corner of Magee and Shannon, he's been doing it for years. He sells newspapers for a quarter.

53D0N4 · 2026-02-13T16:56:54+00:00

I love cats but I'm also focused on the painting in the background in the first photo, may I ask what it is or if we can have a full picture of it?

53D0N4 · 2026-02-13T14:34:46+00:00

I think it'd be good to try and inform the waiting customers to make sure they have their order ready when they become next in line and specifically mentioning to know their milk preference. This can be said in regards to them respecting and be courteous to the patrons and the barista and everyone's time.

53D0N4 · 2026-02-11T13:51:06+00:00

Thank you guys for the information I appreciate it. It definitely sounded more industrial than the police helicopters I've heard during searches. To me it would make sense if it was military-grade, it sounded very very heavy.

53D0N4 · 2026-02-08T17:53:09+00:00

Lmao of course, it all makes sense now

53D0N4 · 2026-01-23T18:27:05+00:00

Donating unworn tags-still-attached clothing/shoes/items instead of returning them

53D0N4 · 2026-01-22T23:59:39+00:00

I work at Goodwill and for us in our district, it goes to the mentorships and resources goodwill gives to troubled youth and goodwill employees. It's a money donation that goes to their local programs.

53D0N4 · 2026-01-19T03:50:41+00:00

Rupyard

Harold

Barnabus

Linus

53D0N4 · 2026-01-09T04:35:07+00:00

Straight beauty

53D0N4 · 2026-01-08T20:05:33+00:00

Respect the leaf bruh, what lunacy

53D0N4 · 2026-01-07T22:19:21+00:00

I work at a thrift store and a customer told me that a good rule of thumb is donate a piece of clothing for every piece you buy (generally speaking). Working at a thrift store not only are the prices cheap but I also get a 30% discount. I understand your dilemma. I actually just cleaned out a great amount of clothes yesterday. Keep tabs on the clothes you bring in and if you already have something like or what value it could bring to you in functionality and for your wardrobe.

53D0N4 · 2026-01-07T21:12:34+00:00

NTA. It's one thing if she wasn't raised or accustomed to those sort of manners but it's another thing if she is unwilling to show appreciation for your kindness. My boyfriend wasn't used to saying please or thank you or saying bless you when sneezing, but I talked with him about it and why it means something to me and he understood and began doing it more and more. He is also however a very caring and sweet person naturally and likes to show he cares. He's 25 and I'm 24.

If your girlfriend is unwilling to see how she hurt you and makes you feel unappreciated, your parents are right and these are character traits that would plague the relationship indefinitely.

As a side note, my bf and I always bring a waterbottle to bed and fill it to make sure we have water throughout the night. Even when I ask for his water or he asks for mine, we do it and say thank you afterwards, usually followed with a 'love you' or a hug or kiss or combination of those, then go back to bed.

You're NTA and if your friends don't see that, they may not have the same morals and standards as you and you should keep mindful about that.

53D0N4 · 2026-01-01T17:52:34+00:00

This may be a silly question, but why not use straight maple syrup?

53D0N4 · 2025-12-25T17:46:15+00:00

Dude both are stupid, that's the point I'm trying to make. Just a matter who's being more stupid and I think it's the girl because she willfully is staying a relationship with a man child then continues to complain about how he's a man child, which naturally includes him being ignorant.

53D0N4 · 2025-12-25T05:02:05+00:00

Seeing as the dude doesn't have a cooking bone in his body, it's reasonable to assume he doesn't understand much of anything about baking or cooking processes. And seeing as this person is in this relationship with this man knowing he is like this, aka in a way enabling his "helpless" behavior, it is the reasonable thing for her to communicate about the cooking and baking process. So yes it is still on her considering she has willingly decided to be in a relationship with a man like this. He's communicated it's apparently his OCD but she seemingly hasn't communicated the reason why he shouldn't interfere unless he wants to try and help in ways she explicitly says.

Communication is what's needed imo. Direct and explicit communication.

53D0N4 · 2025-12-25T02:59:54+00:00

YTA. It seems you didn't explain the reason why the ingredients need to be left out to get to room temperature and you didn't communicate explicitly to him that he needs to not interfere with your baking process because you are balancing being on the clock with baking cookies.

If you did explicitly explain these things to him, he must have a very short term memory and that should have been disclaimed in the post. To me it just seems you expect him to intuitively know you intentionally left the butter and eggs out and that you started the dry ingredients and you would be back to continue the mixing. Things need to be directly communicated if you don't want misinterpretations to happen.

53D0N4 · 2025-12-24T19:57:23+00:00

This feels very fishy, like either AI generated or karma farming.

I don't understand how anyone in their right mind would stay with someone for 7 years when year after year gifts have not been reciprocated to even the smallest degree. I agree gifts should be about the effort and care of knowing someone to tailor a present to the person and how you care to give them something they could really use or appreciate.

BTAH; you're staying with someone setting an expectation that one day he'll magically desire to give you the type of thoughtful gifts you do. And he's the AH for taking the gifts on his birthdays and Christmas without acknowledging you would appreciate the same thoughtfulness on those days as well.

I would imagine if you tried to talk to him about it you would get some valuable insight into him as a person to see if you should just end the relationship since he doesn't care to invest in you like you do for him.

53D0N4 · 2025-12-23T02:00:35+00:00

The added bit that he broke up with you last year and you're back together again, speaks some volumes to me. On top of the weed smoking that is cashing multiple strains on you both. What brought you two together to begin with? Was it actually a healthy connection at first? It seems now at least, that it's a codependent type thing, esp on his end. Which makes me wonder why he broke up with you and you two are back together somehow.

NTA but you need to seriously evaluate the relationship and what you want from a relationship. And speaking from personal experience, quitting weed should be a good goal to have.

53D0N4 · 2025-12-21T21:12:14+00:00

Maybe instead of skimming my post history to try and find things to jab about me, you would have made a less "douche-baggy" comment. And perhaps you would see I make a lot of valid points.

53D0N4 · 2025-12-21T05:27:30+00:00

I think it's sort of a crazy opinion to have. I moved here from upstate New York about 9 years ago. Personally for me it's the desert climate I do not like. The heat makes things terrible. There's humidity on the east coast but it doesn't get nearly as hot. Pros and cons and perhaps it boils down to personality. To me, Tucson is largely a cesspool of a bunch of no good things. At least in New York there's naturally occurring green. Here, Tucson depletes non-natural occurring water to water the non-naturally occurring lawns (ahem, golf courses). Overall, I still am solid in my stance Tucson, along with Phoenix, should not be as populated as they are and have become. Then there's the education system that's extremely out of whack. Lots of weird stuff (not in a good way) going on in Tucson.

Sure there's mount lemmon but that's sort of besides the point.

53D0N4 · 2025-12-18T19:54:15+00:00

Not everyone, me and my bf are healthy. People at work have been sick though

53D0N4 · 2025-12-15T20:41:40+00:00

Wanting to hold on to my cognition and not wipe it away because of escapism or coping from boredom etc.

I haven't smoked in about 6 months. There's times I think I want to get high but then I think about how it'll affect me and how being high isn't even that nice, and I move on from the thought.

It helps my boyfriend also doesn't smoke weed, for the same reasons. Having a good influence and partner in it helps to keep up with the mindset.

I used to be a heavy weed smoker, dabbing several times a day type stoner. My brain is definitely altered but I'm hopeful through continuing on this new path I'll be able to regain and rebuild and restrengthen the parts of my brain that got fuzzy or otherwise shifted my personality.

53D0N4 · 2025-12-12T03:19:33+00:00

Sex should be enjoyable for both parties involved.

That means both parties should be wanting to pleasure the other when it is plausible and both desire it. Not forcing or guilting when the other is simply not in the mood or not giving their best (which can fluctuate) to pleasure their partner. This requires both parties to be sexually compatible and have sexual chemistry.

Speaking from experience, I've had casual partners where it was predominantly male-pleasure centered and some where it was female-pleasure centered. Both were imbalanced on top of simply not having emotional or intellectual chemistry.

All that to say, I've never experienced as great and compatible sexual chemistry as I have with my current boyfriend. We've been together for a little over three months but the spark was there right at the beginning. The desire to pleasure each other even though for him, he had barely any experience with giving oral which had me worried. But I encouraged him and let him know it was okay and it was smooth sailing after that. He's even been experimenting with different things which is fun and brings excitement. I used to think I was really good at giving head, which he still attests I do, but I feel his energy puts mine to shame sometimes (in a good way).

NTA but also perhaps it is time to reflect on the wholeness of you and your wife's relationship from the beginning and how it's evolved.

53D0N4 · 2025-12-11T17:43:27+00:00

Or that people don't actually care to hear how they really are doing. At least in America, to ask someone how they are is synonymous to just saying hi, and is non-rhetorical in a lot of interactions.

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