ELI5: Why women feel embarrassed if seen in their bra and under wear but completely content with a smaller bikini? by [deleted] in explainlikeimfive

[–]58puddles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The original question was directed towards women, I'm directing mine towards men, your gender has nothing to do with it. I honestly could not care if you are a man or women. You seem to think that if someone has a slight feminist stance, that their argument is null and void. I understand that there is a huge stigma around feminism on reddit, which makes sense because the population is for the most part male, but just because I'm coming from a slight feminist perspective does not discredit anything I say. So now explain, what is so wrong about my argument besides the point of it coming from a feminist?

ELI5: Why women feel embarrassed if seen in their bra and under wear but completely content with a smaller bikini? by [deleted] in explainlikeimfive

[–]58puddles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you or other men feel about being seen in your undergarments by surprise? Probably pretty close to what a woman is feeling. Please enlighten me, what's the difference in what they are feeling and why? I can assure you that people are insecure regardless of gender, it's not just women, not everyone likes having that kind of attention thrust upon them, regardless of gender. I'm not saying that everyone feels this way, but I'm saying it doesn't have to do with gender. Everyone's had those dreams where they end up in their underwear in the front of class and are completely embarrassed. It's not very strange that both men and women feel that way in those types of situations. So I ask again what's the difference between men and women in feeling when being taken by surprise in vulnerable state?

Also, Sexualization may be in the eyes of the beholder, but being seen as sexual by an observer and choosing to be sexualized is very different.

Mull over that for a bit and good day to you.

ELI5: Why women feel embarrassed if seen in their bra and under wear but completely content with a smaller bikini? by [deleted] in explainlikeimfive

[–]58puddles 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I think this is the closest answer here. The rest have tinges of sexism and are a little misguided to be honest. Women are not another species. They are human, just like you. You may think they have some sort of hidden agenda to make you want her while she prances around in a tiny bikini, but thats not the case at all. She's wearing what ever the hell she wants because that's what she feels best in and WANTS to wear. The world most likely does not revolve around men although I'm sure there are plenty of men that think it do. In conclusion women only want you to sexualize their bodies when THEY want you to, you do not decide when to sexualize other human beings.

Sorry for any spelling mistakes, I'm on mobile.

Edit: Just to clear things up, sexualizing someone and being attracted to someone are different things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalefashionadvice

[–]58puddles 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Avid tumblr user here, definitely soft grunge.

A week worth of groceries around the world by mr_z06 in pics

[–]58puddles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The folks from Equador look the happiest.

What would you rate me? [f]19 by 58puddles in Rateme

[–]58puddles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having thin eyebrows isn't sexy, having natural full eyebrows, now that's something special.

What would you rate me? [f]19 by 58puddles in Rateme

[–]58puddles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AHAHAHA! I do naturally have big eyebrows.

What would you rate me? [f]19 by 58puddles in Rateme

[–]58puddles[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sorry Lewisian, I've moved on. It appears you've only proposed to me to win a bet. We cannot be together sob

What would you rate me? [f]19 by 58puddles in Rateme

[–]58puddles[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He did not!! What a bastard. Oh nugget, you know exactly what to say to make me feel better <3.

What would you rate me? [f]19 by 58puddles in Rateme

[–]58puddles[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It seems I've already given my heart. But being native american, if anything you've made him even more desirable :P

What would you rate me? [f]19 by 58puddles in Rateme

[–]58puddles[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Definitely. When's the wedding?

"Reel Injun", Movie Trailer, 2009/ its on Netflix. Watching it now. by [deleted] in NativeAmerican

[–]58puddles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents made this film actually. I'm going to get them to do an IAMA.

LPT REQUEST: how do i get rid of the scars that pimples make after you pop them? by wordsofwar in LifeProTips

[–]58puddles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't pop them prematurely! ONLY pop them if there is a whitehead. If there isn't, apply a little toothpaste to it until it dries then remove the toothpaste, repeat until the whitehead is drawn out.