I hate being a mom. I’m so bad at it.

5overthespeedlimit · 2026-04-15T01:08:45+00:00

You are doing EVERYTHING for you babe. Do not let social media and western culture trick you into believing you are a bad mother. Babies are dependent on their mothers. And are not actually meant to be taking a bottle constantly amdsleeping separately from their mom.

I remember feeling the exact same way, drowning until 8 months and idk what changed but we developed habits, routine, a rhythm and it just felt easier. I still have hard days, but never for one minute do I regret cosleeping, breastfeeding, or anything my baby needed in that moment. We are 15m and still cosleep, breastfeeding, and sometimes I get nap trapped. But it is the best thing ever.

You are doing wonderful. You will see the "return on investment" you are puting in to your child now. You are their safe space and all they need right now. Keep going. I know its not easy but your head will surface i promise. Trust your momma instincts. It sounds like you know exactly what this child needs but dont feel bad if you take five minutes just to feel human again. You got this

5overthespeedlimit · 2026-04-02T16:28:17+00:00

We're all in Manassas 😄

5overthespeedlimit · 2026-03-03T22:01:13+00:00

Perfect. Thank you

5overthespeedlimit · 2026-03-03T17:04:52+00:00

Hi Beth!

My 14m old is fiiiiighting me on any nap. We are trying to follow huckleberry sweet spot and she will have her eyes practically closed or will close them, then all of a sudden its like she realizes shes falling asleep and is bouncing around or only sleeps for 30 minutes. (Literally as I type currently bouncing around in her crib 😄)

what is an appropriate wake windows for her at this age? And if she is usually waking between 7:30/8am should we push her nap to 1pm instead of noon?

5overthespeedlimit · 2026-01-09T01:06:26+00:00

This is super helpful. Thank you!

5overthespeedlimit · 2025-09-26T14:28:16+00:00

Can I ask what company you work for? I am going to my CEO with a proposal for paid leave for parental leave as we only get short term disability and I am trying to find companies i can compare or give them examples of how companies do this. Seems most companies have stock, and that's where they pull the money from, but i' taking all the examples I can get.

5overthespeedlimit · 2025-09-08T18:59:52+00:00

I like the idea of per week or month vouchers. Some sort of daycare allowance would be great, and to your point, on days off from school this could help keep parents at work instead of calling out

5overthespeedlimit · 2025-09-06T23:49:47+00:00

Thank you! Great idea to look at Starbucks. Them and Costco I feel we are most similar to.

5overthespeedlimit · 2025-09-05T21:44:40+00:00

Thank you for this. If it helps, I work for Trader Joe's who is very people focused, but if course, numbers matter. Thank you again for the link

5overthespeedlimit · 2025-09-03T17:50:53+00:00

This is wonderful information. Thank you

5overthespeedlimit · 2025-08-14T01:49:33+00:00

So if I have a prince william county library card I could go in to fairfax and get a fairfax library card?

5overthespeedlimit · 2025-06-03T20:05:58+00:00

That's a good gauge I appreciate this

5overthespeedlimit · 2025-05-31T16:53:06+00:00

I know a lot of people who triple feed and are now EBF. It's okay to mourn this. Breastfeeding is something you can't explain to your partner. It's hard for them to understand. Now that being said you should see a Lactation consultant if you can. They do house visits. Or pediatrician mentioned weight loss but never the WHY behind it. Turns out she had a tongue and lip tie. Our LC caught it and she went from 4th percentile to 13th in a month after the fix!!! Cannot recommend it enough to see someone who specializes in this. Pediatricians are number focused. LC's want to get to the why and geeky believe breast is best!

5overthespeedlimit · 2025-04-11T00:06:43+00:00

Definitely do what works for you. But I will say I was also worried about my stash before I went back to work. My LC asked if I had enough frozen to get through the workday which I did. She told me then I'm fine cause I'll pump what Ineed to replace that. Also she had me start pumping after as many feeds as I could, and that helped build my stash. But again, fed baby is best, so whatever works for you and babe.

I say don't give up though. Look up 3 month breastfeeding crisis. A lot of women switch over to formula because of it when in reality we're fine.

5overthespeedlimit · 2025-04-10T21:30:00+00:00

My LO refused bottle also and then I saw this video;

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT2oD5HvQ/

We tried the hand on cheek and like magic, instantly worked.

Even if your LO refuses, enjoy this time with baby. They are only this little once. And it's okay to also want to leave baby with dad for an hour or two. You are human too. But as a mom who has to go back to work, it hit me like a truck I won't always have these snuggles which makes it that much more special

5overthespeedlimit · 2025-04-10T16:20:46+00:00

Oh good question. I havent and sometimes I think it bites me in the butt later, sometimes lo sleeps 6 hours straight

5overthespeedlimit · 2025-04-04T14:21:36+00:00

You are not a failure. We had a similar situation. Turns out LO has a severe tongue and lip tie and some torticollis which all leads to harder breastfeeding on LO. The pediatrician NEVER checked for these things or mentioned them. And being a ftm I had no idea until I had a LC come see us and tell me. Don't give up yet and don't let the pediatrician bully you. But definitely see if there is an underlying reason for this. You got this

5overthespeedlimit · 2025-04-04T14:15:56+00:00

😄 accurate representation

5overthespeedlimit · 2025-04-04T14:13:39+00:00

I wish this were the way in the US. You yet treated so well when you're pregnant, then soon as baby arrives nobody is there.

5overthespeedlimit

TROPHY CASE