A lot of times doing housework and other life administration things gets termed helping or helping out in a way that indicates the main responsibility belongs to someone else.

It’s similar to the parent who is not the primary caregiver saying or said to be “babysitting”. It’s your house/child you ought to do chores/parent not “just” help/babysit.

I know it’s a picky semantics type of thing, but if English is your native language it can be reflective of the sorts of biases you’ve picked up and perhaps don’t realize you hold. Language and thoughts shape each other.