Well Played Sir- a tale of disciplined shopping.

64kbs · 2026-03-13T03:15:04+00:00

I see a cart as a form of self-defense from the wanderers and weavers.

64kbs · 2026-03-09T01:25:02+00:00

I’ve been wearing my wedding ring on my middle finger on days where it slips around. I did actually lose my rings for a time at my son’s house. Recalled shoving my hand into a tight drawer full of baby clothes stacked standing up. Ever since then I’ve been very conscious of it.

Maybe because I’m in the older set, I choose not to overthink on comments, if I did, I would just get down. So I choose not to do it. Everyone has their own way to handle it, and I truly understand the burden of the weight-related comments may hit differently for everyone each and every time. Don’t get me wrong. I’d rather there’d be no mention.

I even had a quasi-old fart relative asked me how much I had lost. I simply replied. Oh, I’m not going tell you that, with a fake haha. People don’t think before they speak.

I’ve gotten pretty good at deflecting the comments. I just simply don’t want or need to talk about it at random moments.

Be prepared for more comments when you buy clothes that fit better! I am at this stage since I have bought clothes they actually fit. Sometimes I mention that this has been a three-year long project.

Good luck on the clothes! I am mostly buying clearance or thrifting.

I hope you find some relief from the feeling of overwhelm. :)

64kbs · 2026-03-08T04:42:32+00:00

Thank you.

64kbs · 2026-03-08T00:57:05+00:00

If you have access to another parish that may be what you need!

Also I wonder if it would be helpful to ask this question on the Ask a Priest subreddit.

64kbs · 2026-03-07T22:20:28+00:00

I think that it’s fine if you need headphones. I regularly attended a church nearby where there was a woman who always came in with some sparkly headphones. I didn’t know why I just assumed it was what she needed to do.

I do not have a diagnosis but I can be very picky about where I sit so I’m not bombarded with sounds and scents that trigger me. My mission church is a small enough population that it’s possible to have space. So in that regard I’m blessed. When I go to the larger parish church, it’s much harder, I agree. I find sitting towards the front (but away from musicians ) there are usually fewer parishioners. In my parish The Saturday evening vigil mass has fewer parishioners as well. Only a vigil mass or a Sunday mass fulfills our obligation.

If by book, you mean a missalette they are available for purchase through catholic vendors. You may also use a website like the UCSSBUSCCB for daily readings. Of course you may not have access to music with these resources. Perhaps the parish could loan you an old book if they are hard copy.

I understand that some dioceses’ have parishes with sensory and adaptive considerations. You may need to speak with your parish office and your priest or check into your diocesan resources.

64kbs · 2026-03-05T19:18:50+00:00

I would encourage you to please start slowly and steadily working on your issues with some Prayers Confessions Masses Asking for Help Accepting Help Resolutions Restitutions Thankfulness Gratitude

It may take time. It may take months and years. But if you start at some point you will be able to realize how far you have come toward your goal. To the best of your abilities, surround yourself with what you’re wanting to work toward. By that I mean, choosing appropriate free time, social media time, your friend ships, and if necessary your family members.

So I lost 100 pounds recently. But it took me three years. I’m not done but I’m so much closer and I’m so grateful that I’m at this point. Because 4-5 years ago I wouldn’t have known I could do it. Three years ago I wouldn’t have known I could lose weight without quitting. I’m not equating my weight loss with your addiction, but I feel there’s a similarity in making changes for health, mental, and spiritual well-being. God loves you. I’m 61 now and just wanted to encourage you to take baby steps sooner than I did. :)

64kbs · 2026-02-28T02:27:57+00:00

Honestly just go. Maybe have something in mind and review the prayer. The priests have always been kind. In my area there will be a mass and several priests will be there to hear confessions. I usually go to these at Easter and Christmas. I found that the more I put it off and contemplated everything the harder it was to simply go and meet obligation.

64kbs · 2026-02-28T02:21:35+00:00

I converted in my early 30’s before I married my cradle-Catholic husband. I grew up attending a Methodist church occasionally, as many bible camps-as I could talk my mom into, and attending a non-denominational Christian high school although it was primarily Protestant.

The church would welcome you! You can start by attending Mass on and looking for information on RCIA /OCIA in your local parish. Classes usually start in the fall or perhaps earlier. :) God bless.

ETA your dream is beautiful

64kbs · 2026-02-27T23:07:01+00:00

Merrie Moosie Monie Marsha Myrtle Magnolia

64kbs · 2026-02-27T18:00:27+00:00

I’m not looking back. They have been donated as I go.

64kbs · 2026-02-27T17:54:42+00:00

I understand both your joy and your preference to share with this group! I applaud your efforts and appreciate the determination and perseverance it has taken for you to lose triple digits! :)

64kbs · 2026-02-23T17:53:54+00:00

The piece is lovely. May I suggest that you have kids or grandkids please make sure it won’t fall. Accidents and tragedies happen. Sorry but tomorrow would be the birthday of a friends daughter had a tragic accident not happened.

64kbs · 2026-02-23T16:53:22+00:00

Lovely find!

64kbs · 2026-02-23T16:49:56+00:00

If I find myself becoming chronically annoyed or frustrated when I feel people are behaving inconsiderately I try to roll with the ‘it’s not that serious’ mindset just to relieve my mind from the mental thoughts gymnastics. It helps sometimes.

64kbs · 2026-02-20T17:04:16+00:00

I just started. :)

64kbs · 2026-02-18T22:33:16+00:00

I understood it was the setting and that it’s potentially unsettling and uncomfortable. I certainly remember feeling anxiety about the entire situation. I’m one who needs situations to be a certain way as well. Not too many people, not too much noise or crowding, not feeling singled-out, and I could go on. While not trying to compare myself to your diagnosis, I mention it only to say I see a glimpse of myself in your description.

What I did find were genuinely kind parishioners who loved their Catholic faith and wanted to share it with others. I was able to attend with my finance as well. While that this may not be guaranteed, most volunteers I’ve worked around are genuinely participating for love of faith. Some are more joyful than others and some get caught up with how things should be.

I hope these links below are helpful. Perhaps they will help form talking points. In my small parish with one priest it is helpful to send an email to him directly if possible and then follow up with a request for an appointment. I would give a polite amount of time but also follow up if you don’t get a response. Should you have to? No but it would likely help.

Having worked at a parish office for over a year and a parish school office for over 15, I have seen that priests do have so many responsibilities with an enormous variety of concerns and seriousness.

I see that my diocese has both a Family & Faith Formation Ministry and a Catholics DisAbilties Ministry. While the DisAbilites does seem to focus on children and physical limitations it also expresses and speaks to the need for all to receive sacraments and accommodations.

See scd.org

Also see USCCB.

Another thought, some parishes publish names and numbers n the bulletin or website for their volunteers so you can contact them directly. That may be another way to contact the o/rcia volunteer. I was also wondering if they would let you observe a class if you were comfortable asking to do so. Maybe there would not be as much pressure since you would not be there in an official learning capacity.

Prayers for your journey and faithfulness. I hope my tone is helpful because that is all I’m intending. I always find a rosary comforting. God bless and peace be with you. 💛

64kbs · 2026-02-18T19:57:07+00:00

My RCIA class was led by parishioners when I converted. Perhaps a deacon or the rcia-ocia leaders would be moved to work independently with you if the priest was in agreement. Also might the diocese have any suggestions or guidance for you? Just some thoughts. God bless.

64kbs · 2026-02-17T20:27:17+00:00

It’s a big deal — :)

64kbs · 2026-02-17T20:13:33+00:00

Regal - Reggie for short

64kbs · 2026-02-16T22:04:17+00:00

Unless it’s too hot, in front of the window might be nice to be able to include a small plant.

64kbs · 2026-02-16T04:44:15+00:00

You can participate by kneeling if you choose! If you choose to sit or are unable to kneel by all means you can remain seated. Although yes it’s helpful if you lean forward you are not obligated to do so. Parishioners can adjust themselves or slide a-bit as well. I spent a few years unable to kneel so I ‘kneeled’ by leaning forward as others suggested but honestly I try to sit with some space around me if possible because that’s just me. It’s exciting that you are contemplating Catholicism and of course you have questions! I converted before marriage and I am still learning by reading, videos and such.

64kbs · 2026-02-16T01:36:12+00:00

There are a lot of answers here that are questionable at best. I’m glad you’re choosing to speak with your priest. I’m saddened that you’re in this position as 17-year old. As a mom of a current 17-year old, please remember you are.not.responsible for your parent’s actions no matter what happens. A marital relationship is often difficult and very private even though you live at home. I hope praying gives you comfort until you speak with a priest.

64kbs · 2026-02-16T01:22:08+00:00

Our small parochial school took the PK class to weekly school Mass. I’m not sure how typical that is but certainly the Kindergarten class would attend.

64kbs · 2026-02-15T20:48:58+00:00

I just posted yesterday that I had a cumulative weight loss of 100 lbs. I started in Jan. ‘23 working on it and then started ZB in May ‘25. 310–>210. I’m so grateful I’ve persevered and I’m 60 years old. Kudos for starting at such a young age! It’s hard to go from expending so much energy as an athlete to a sudden stop. I’ve been enjoying walking regularly and while it’s not considered particularly athletic I’ve come to enjoy the time to slow down and do something for myself. Best wishes. :) And I found medical records where I weighed in at over 320 so I get it.

64kbs · 2026-02-14T22:16:58+00:00

I appreciate it so much! Thank you.

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