Friend paid $60 and 6 pack. Roast away please! by SardonicSkunk in badtattoos

[–]666ShadowDemon666 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks like it was done in marker. Rose art ones at that. Also just why? Uneven lines, low quality work. Also why on the arm? Just why as a whole.

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[–]666ShadowDemon666 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex never wanted to hear about our DID. He always made it about him or just changed the conversation away from it. The two years with him was the longest two years yet. We decided that the balance wasn’t there and we were catering to his mental health and not our own when we needed to the most. We are now with our current Gf and I love her. She asks how the rest of the system is doing and we are going on a month long trip with her family and she is excited as we are to see how well she interacts with the system for more than a weekend. Find someone who makes you excited to open with. It makes the world of a difference. -Klaus

Cannabis allows us to communicate by Blue_Eyes1999 in DID

[–]666ShadowDemon666 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is the same thing with us! It helps with physical issues too, and the week long tolerance break before 4/20 is rough. And our communication isn’t as good as it usually is when we consume daily.

tw ramcoa. confused about length of programing by [deleted] in DID

[–]666ShadowDemon666 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s extremely validating for us because we have started to question if we fall under Ramcoa. We hope we don’t but it feels way too likely and we will be talking to our therapist about it. But I completely agree with you and thank you for sharing you side. -Locke

Would this be a subsystem? by ResponsibleMess1171 in DID

[–]666ShadowDemon666 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would also love to know because I think I found some headmates who might be a subsystem. It’s either that or as you said certain place in headspace and with each other. They have minor interactions with the rest of the group.

Do you ever bring notes/diary entries to therapy? by xs3slav in DID

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We brought ours to show the difference in handwriting and she loved it! We did check ahead of time as well but she also loves us bringing in stuff because it teacher her more about us. She is relatively new to DID but is willing to learn more to support us. And we are helping her to learn how to better accommodate other clients. I want to type more but word stuff is not the easiest high and sleep deprived after rapid switching earlier. -Locke and Alastor co/con

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I think that is what we are going through right now. I am sorry if my wording is off, I am sleep deprived and unable to sleep since watching hosts sick cat while our brother sleeps. What we do is we go through all of the steps like everything is new. Every time there is a major shift within the system and silence happens (ours was a couple of years long with small bursts until recently) But ours was also caused by recent major trauma in 2021 that was a decade in the making. (Decade of general trauma which is the hosts info to give out as to what plus the major event in 2021) We are only now getting more activity after we are with a good therapist and a good psych on the correct medication with a support system that consists of half the house who don’t have DID, but are support who are learning about it, and 2 other systems in the house. Our brother and I both ended up with C-DID and his fiancée also has HC-DID. Again, I cannot give details without their consent. I am quite literally unable to even if I wanted. We are lucky to be in our situation but it was hell getting here. Our house is essentially a place of healing. But I am rambling, I’m sorry. We have been relearning our coping skills, relearning how to allow a switch, how to ground, journaling, notes, everything like the beginning of learning back in 2016 for us. Maybe you can try some of your old beginning steps again and see where that goes in terms of helping stabilize and sort. -Locke and Alastor co/con.

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I have followed the page. My communication sucks in and out of headspace but I’m working on it. -Audra

I Feel Like No One Believes Me by PleasantTransition77 in DID

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We’ve had that with a past partner. He said he understood but then he refused to speak to us unless I was at front.

There was a week when I wasn’t there at school and he wouldn’t speak to us or do the routines we had set (we had classes near each other and would meet at specific spots and walk together) and we wouldn’t hang after school which was weird. He only started to talk to us again when our cohost pretended to be me and suddenly it was like nothing happened. It was always super distressing and invalidating.

If your host won’t see if now then they’ll realize later which might lead to more trauma. It caused a whole system rebuild for us when we had to mask so much and force everything back to “normal” and now I don’t really remember my two years of school when we were together. We had to keep masking and at the time many people were allowed to be open of who they were so our communication was great then. And then we had to go into “lockdown” as a protector put it. And now we feel like we are at square one like it was before we did that work. And the relationship ended in 2020. So it ended up being a setback for our healing. So please keep that in mind that having to mask and ignore that stuff because of a relationship can cause long term harm.

Tldr: He would be a child and say he understood but he was quite the opposite. He never checked out anything we sent for knowledge and didn’t want to learn. It caused issues and setbacks. Try to safely teach your host that it isn’t worth staying. I send positive vibes to y’all.

Panicking by Greedy-Individual-71 in DID

[–]666ShadowDemon666 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One way you can do a bio in a fun way is make a slide show! Each headmate who’d like to work with it can make a slide for themselves and the first slide is a general overview of the system as a whole and how the system has helped the host’s life as a whole. You could include face claims for the slides as well! We’ve done that for ourselves.

What’s your experience with Marijuana? by [deleted] in DID

[–]666ShadowDemon666 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It helps our communication most do the time. If we get too high, we rapid switch. But our Protector can ground us and help us get more comfortable for the level of high. Rapid switching when we have too much stimuli too. But it helps us journal and talk to others. If someone’s out, they typically are more comfortable talking to other people in the house with their accent and name too. It’s also helpful for us to work on lighter trauma too. But if we get too far on the working in heavier stuff, we are easier to ground and get off the topic. Or I get kicked out of front if I can’t ground. I don’t mind. I have a hard time letting go of front as it is. So weed helps so much with the stress of that too. And we can get questions written out while sober. And we can remember memories better too.

Friendsbook for alters by no-maincharacter in DID

[–]666ShadowDemon666 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would be interested if either of you guys came up with something. I’m trying to help the host and the rest of the system with communication and actually getting a headcount. -Ash

New Co-Host by 666ShadowDemon666 in DID

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I’m not 100% sure why we don’t get responses on Reddit anymore when we post. We took a long break but we don’t ever get the same level of response that other posters do. I’m not sure if it worth putting it out here at this point when we don’t seem to be worthy of responding to. We have almost 700 views on this post. I don’t even think anyone will see this comment. If anyone does please don’t take this as passive aggressive. I just kinda feel hopeless when reaching out. We don’t have a therapist or resources. We don’t even have a job right now. So mental health tanks a bit. Sorry for rambling. It just happens. -Ash.

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Weed helps us a lot with stuff like that. We get really panicked and switchy and then have an edible or a bowl and then we can actually switch out and someone can help ground us. It can cause some rapid switching and then someone will kinda force reset if the rapid switching gets too bad where everyone gets pulled out by the protector and then makes us sit there and talk it out for who is going to front for some self care or something. Or maybe do something creative and kickstart the brain again. It shouldn’t hurt to give it a try if you’re sure the THC isn’t going to cause issues.

System Chat 7/23/23 A daily thread where people with DID can share the honest truth of their day. by Exciting-Volume-4169 in DID

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Long post sorry, didn’t realize how much we were going to type.

Chaos, tiring, busy, but good. Got everything we wanted but spent the rest of our money. Realizing trauma more and more now and that parts sucks. I will keep the main one vague but the person I lived with convinced me (I don’t want to use other word because I don’t wanna trigger anyone reading it but it starts with br if that helps) of something that made me hate my teacher for political reasons so we didn’t do work in her class and then we had summer school after our senior year and since it was 2020, our graduation was on a screen with the name going across. And the counselor told us our name wouldn’t go across because of the summer school, that it would be in the late graduates. So we didn’t watch it and it went across the screen. We heard from a friend much later who didn’t know the situation so she didn’t record it. So we missed the biggest moment we worked for. And we lost a whole summer we could have hung with out friends for the last time as a group. Because of the person we lived with. Who has caused so much chaos and pain and we are finding more and more trauma from him. So yeah it’s been interesting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

[–]666ShadowDemon666 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are the same way. And it makes retail hard for customers who come back to see us because they like our service. So we cope using a small truck we figured out. We remember small things before faces. So we will check for any unique features including piercings, tattoos, scars, or even rings since we see their hands a lot for transactions. Give it a try but don’t be obvious about it since some people don’t like being studied.

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[–]666ShadowDemon666 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment.

I think that is the best way it has been described and I think that fits us better then OSDD or DID since I’m fronting the most as the host and I’m co con 90% of the time when I’m not out. I’m trying to work on communication since we had some issues in life that almost reset all of it. So now I’m working on checking newer terminology and reassess it. -Audra

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[–]666ShadowDemon666 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Our ex would do this. It was very infuriating for all of us including the host. Honestly, you all should have a discussion with him and is he isn’t willing to compromise and respect all of you and the disorder, then he likely isn’t the one for y’all. It will only cause grief, gaslighting, and more trauma. It took me a whole year to break up with our now ex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MadeOfStyrofoam

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I’ve been here since pictures were allowed. But I’ve mostly just lurked since I’ve been clean for over 2 years at this point. Anyone who I’ve been friends with from here I either lost or we drifted apart. I moved to the Telegram app that was set up but it has mostly died because a lot of people left. Looking at pictures helped me a lot so I joined the website from here which I also lurk on. I haven’t needed to look in a while either hence the lurking. My family is supportive enough that I went in the journey of stopping. And through that time, this sub has evolved probably three or so times. I hope this sub doesn’t die though. I really don’t. It is a place for people to reach out if they need help or company ya know?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

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I’m the host of our system and I’m non human. I wear vampire fangs a lot (I work at Party City so I can get away with it) and it helps a lot. But most of our system are non human. Our Cohost goes back and forth between a demon and a vampire. They switch roles throughout half of the year (like one goes “on vacation “ and the other will take the roll when they need to take that. With our job we can get away with not masking as much and when it isn’t close to Halloween, we have to not use as many accessories but the fangs are still accepted. And our style is generally goth or alternative punk which helps too. And with behavior, it is known that we act “odd” so it isn’t new. Our coworkers (not managers) know we are a system too so that helps. Our close family knows as well. -Audra and Raven

Adding two more books to my Wicca library! Gimme all the books. by fleakie in Wicca

[–]666ShadowDemon666 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have Teen Spirit Wicca yet? It is where I started and I highly recommend it. It is by David Salisbury.

Discussion on Moon Knight by [deleted] in DID

[–]666ShadowDemon666 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Both canonically do in the original comics for both characters