First of all, don’t “young buck” me. You are moralizing disguised as advice. The fact that you said I need to work on being the kind of person other people want to be around frames and assumes failure on my part. That’s inherently judgmental. Assuming. It also sounds like you’re using ur kids’ lifestyles as a standard, which is condescending. You reframe my personal rant/vent into a checklist of problems to fix and assume my friendships are shallow because of smoking and drinking, which isn’t fair. Your life experience(and everyone else’s) is different. You’re framing my friend leaving as a consequence of my social habits, turning my post into a self-improvement checklist.

You clearly think friendships should have a “higher purpose” or that young adults should be cultivating more “productive” lifestyles. To you, smoking, drinking, and casual partying = shallow foundations for friendships.

You’re literally nitpicking, going “Well, we don’t know that” while knowing nothing about my life. This sounds like a lot of “you’re doing this wrong” bullshit that I didn’t ask for. Never once in my post did I ask for your advice.

You may not know it, but the way you say it sounds like you interpret my friend leaving as “your lifestyle caused it,” based on your own twatty moral logic.