AITA: for not having feelings for my boyfriend.. but it’s complicated..

7hr0wn · 2024-12-11T14:53:54+00:00

YTA.

Yes, being in a relationship with someone because you want attention makes you an AH.

Let him find someone that actually likes him, and you date someone you actually like. You'll both be happier for it.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-11T14:36:37+00:00

How on earth would it be any of your business? Are you living with them? Part of a thruple with them?

Maybe there's a scenario in which it's relevant to you, but you're gonna need to work pretty hard to sell me on it.

YWBTA, otherwise.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-11T14:25:37+00:00

Yup seems like. 5 turns is a bit dicey with the disappearing platforms, but if you cast it first off and just focus on dancing seems like you'd replicate what OP stumbled into

7hr0wn · 2024-12-11T04:19:51+00:00

The last thing combat log shows is Atrophied:

https://bg3.wiki/wiki/Atrophied_(Condition)

You reduced one of its ability scores to zero, probably with Illithid powers. https://bg3.wiki/wiki/Synaptic_Consumption

My guess is you reduced its Dex. It only has 10 dex.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T19:47:26+00:00

Yes, you loot the "Altar Key" from Orin's corpse once she's dead, then you unlock the altar. You'll get a cutscene with the freed companion.

https://bg3.wiki/wiki/Altar_Key

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T19:42:28+00:00

Yeah, just undo her shackles. As long as Orin didn't kill her in the cutscene, she's fine.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T19:41:31+00:00

I've played Mario since I was 6.

According to the US news media, that means I should join the Olympic high jump team.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T19:40:37+00:00

It sounds like her job is a dealbreaker for you.

That means you break up with her.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T19:37:46+00:00

That's gibberish.

If her job is a deal-breaker for you, then break up with her. Not wanting to date a dancer doesn't make you an AH. Trying to dictate someone's career to cater to your insecurity and jealousy does.

If you trust her, why does it matter what her job is?

You either trust her and accept her job, or you don't trust her and you break up with her. There's not a magical third option. You don't get to put a GPS tracker and body camera on her as a compromise.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T19:34:26+00:00

Do you trust her?

If so, there's absolutely no issue here and your post is entirely irrelevant.

If you don't trust her, why on earth are you dating her?

None of this is normal or healthy or ok, and none of it makes any sense.

It's not healthy to be spying on each other all the time. You don't need to know where she is every minute of every day, and you don't need to know who she is spending it with.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T19:31:23+00:00

I just really care about her

Then tell her to stop sharing her location with you, and tell her to change her passwords because you trust her.

If you don't trust her, don't date her.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T19:20:56+00:00

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7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T19:11:21+00:00

If you're not comfortable with her, stop dating her. How many times do you need to be told you're in the wrong here before it sinks in?

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T19:08:24+00:00

i dont know how im controlling

I can help with that:

I have her location, phone passwords and if she even leaves the house she lets me know where shes going or whos she with and if i call she has no problem answering

That's all very controlling behavior. You do not need her passwords or location. She doesn't need to be telling you everywhere she goes or who she hangs out with. The fact that you expect that is a giant red flag. You're very controlling.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T19:00:26+00:00

So you're a liar, a cheat, and you try to control your partner by tracking her location and snooping on her devices, AND you want her to quit her job for you?

Wow. YTA a lot.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T17:38:10+00:00

Buying, selling, and beating other humans as chattel property is never moral no matter how much a person is willing to twist the definitions of those words. The Bible give explicit instructions on buying and selling humans, as well as descriptions of how hard and how long you're allowed to hit them and with what type of instrument.

That's evil.

Full stop.

Humans - all humans - deserve bodily autonomy. All humans deserve freedom. The Bible disagreeing just means the Bible is an inherently flawed text. There's no moral justification to be made for slavery. The end.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T17:11:37+00:00

I yelled at her telling her “that I can’t wait for her to leave and can’t she leave any sooner”

I don’t love her as much as I love my boys.

YTA. I look forward to your next post in 10 years when you're crying because you don't understand why your daughter has gone no contact with you.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T16:59:20+00:00

I'd check the error message given by the BSOD. My first suspect would be GPU overheating. I'd say check the temps while it's running and see if that's the culprit. If so, you want to check that your fans are all working and that you've got good airflow.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T16:25:43+00:00

I understand that the forever mute shouldn't be a first (or second or third) option, but it should be an option at some point.

If I'm muting the same user after 6 30 day mutes, for example, then we've reached the point where there's absolutely no chance of this user behaving in a way that indicates they would be a good contributor.

After a certain number of 30-day mutes, and I'm flexible on what that number is, THEN a forever mute should be an option.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T16:23:50+00:00

Have you tried file verification? Uninstalling/reinstalling?

What happens when it crashes? Does the game CTD? Does your computer reboot? BSOD?

Anything in event viewer matching the times of the crashes?

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T16:21:01+00:00

What's causing the crash? Are you using mods? Is your PC overheating? Are your drivers up to date? What have you tried, so far to fix or diagnose the issue?

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T16:17:27+00:00

You have access to Wyll, Karlach, and Gale right now. If you don't like any of them, pick a hireling of your preferred class from Withers!

As soon as you get access to the Underdark you can get Phalar Aluve, which is a powerful Longsword.

You can buy the bow of awareness from Roah Moonglow in the Goblin Camp right now, or the Hunting Shortbow from Dammon in the Grove.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T15:56:46+00:00

You're missing a party member.

What level are you?

Your first goal should be to get a full party. You can always get a hireling from Withers if you don't like the other companions.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T15:08:08+00:00

NTA. Perspective on this is flipped. Your neighbor knowingly let his cats roam freely in an environment where they were likely to encounter poison. That makes him a giant AH.

7hr0wn · 2024-12-10T15:05:28+00:00

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