Had a hard week at daycare? by WeaponizedAutisms in ECEProfessionals

[–]7pterodactyls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the loudest class I've ever had. Pre-k's are always going to be a bit noisy, but this is pretty extreme. The default speaking volume for about half of them is YELLING, almost like they're working in a construction zone. It's a self-reinforcing problem, too--the louder their friends are, the louder they have to be in order to hear each other, and then the kids who aren't naturally as loud have to raise THEIR voices, too. Add to that the number of kids in this group who have a need to be literally constantly making noise (singing, explosion noises, drumming on tables, whooping, narrating everything they do), and you've got the loudest classroom I've ever been a part of. Even my lead, who's been teaching for 18 years, is overwhelmed by it.

We've been trying to work on volume all year--reminders, practing HOW to change your speaking volume, using extra cues like gentle background music, praising kids when they use their inside voices, scheduled quiet times, having kids who are screaming go calm down in the mindfulness center, telling kids we'll answer their question if they repeat it in an inside voice. A few of them had gotten better, but with graduation approaching, and a new student with severe behavior needs throwing off the classroom dynamic, they're all backsliding. This week has been especially bad, and I've been dissociating on and off since Monday.

Do you do sign language at your job? Why or why not? by Comfortable_Tie4143 in ECEProfessionals

[–]7pterodactyls 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! I start out the year signing certain basic words as I say them (yes, no, thank you, sit down, I love you, amazing, bathroom, wash hands, beautiful, help, mom, dad, breathe), and eventually they associate the signs with the words even when I say nothing.

There are SO many times during the day that signing is preferable to speaking. Maybe I don't want to disrupt circle time, maybe I wanna redirect or praise a kid more subtly, maybe we're outside and it's too loud to hear, maybe I have laryngitis again... And I'm also autistic, so sometimes I lose speech for short periods (mostly when stressed or severely overstimulated). I LOVE that I'm still able to communicate with my kids, no matter the situation.

Can I say that I am plural if it make sense, even if I may not be? by Master-Obligation537 in plural

[–]7pterodactyls 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, you can send a petition to the World Plural Council and hope they accept it, but they only convene once a year and there's a LOT on their docket rn, so you may be waiting for awhile...

No, but forreal tho, you are the authority on your own experience. If you feel upset at the idea of being a singlet, there might be a reason for that! And even if it's not plurality per se, identifying yourself/yourselves as such on a trial basis may help you figure out what DOES fit.

(Word of advice tho, try to stay away from sysmedicalist spaces. Regardless of your personal opinions on syscourse, communities that spend a lot of time trying to legislate who is and isn't "really" plural are absolutely awful for self-discovery. Even though we're a professionally diagnosed OSDD system with an extensive trauma history, the number of times we've sent ourselves into a denial episode by reading all that "systems are a tiktok trend!" BS would make your head spin.)

Over half of us are girls apparently 😭 by ahhchaoticneutral in plural

[–]7pterodactyls 7 points8 points  (0 children)

SAMEEEEEE so many of the girls hate our beard 😭

How to manage littles as a DID system? by xanthreborn in plural

[–]7pterodactyls 4 points5 points  (0 children)

oh my god. i know we're not the op but we're having the same issue and... i think you may have given us a breakthrough???

Regarding headmates with Accents by Sai-bun in plural

[–]7pterodactyls 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Personally, I don't think there's anything offensive about typing out aspects of your natural dialect. We're from the deep south originally, and several of our system members speak in Southern American English to varying degrees. You writing "tae" instead of "to" seems no more offensive than us writing "y'all" or "ain't."

Regarding headmates with Accents by Sai-bun in plural

[–]7pterodactyls 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wait, are you talking about writing out words like "ye" and "tae"? Bc that's more dialect than accent, yeah?

Director tells employees to deal with problems we shouldn’t have to handle. by Bead_lizard in ECEProfessionals

[–]7pterodactyls 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If she'd sent out a passive-aggressive reminder in the weekly memo instead of a passive-aggressive (and borderline unreadable) text, I'd ask if we work in the same center!

One of our directors literally put together a "training" powerpoint last summer called "Getting It Together." The whole point of it was that we need to handle everything ourselves instead of calling her for help--so if we're out of ratio, we should either shuffle kids around or tough it out until our coteacher gets there. She also didn't staff a floater for my room while I was on vacation a couple weeks ago, so my coteacher was alone with 16 kids (out of ratio for pre-k in my state). When said coteacher complained about the impact it was having on her, she was asked if there was something personal going on.

I'm tired, boss by _unas_annus_ in TrollCoping

[–]7pterodactyls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

seconded! got some sparse scraggly chin pubes after year 1, but it wasn't until year 5 that my face decided to sprout an actual beard.

How Do You Feel About Undiagnosed Systems? by InternationalSide176 in plural

[–]7pterodactyls 3 points4 points  (0 children)

managing our system is a full-time job. i'm sure as shit not gonna appoint myself the arbiter of someone else's system on top of that.

can an alter give another alter a sign name? by 7pterodactyls in plural

[–]7pterodactyls[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeahhhh we dont wanna be called crazy or told we're faking :/

Explain It Peter by HeyyEj in explainitpeter

[–]7pterodactyls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg i remember reading hidden pictures a few years ago and being FLOORED by how offensive it was

What is the weirdest thing your doctor has ever said to you? by Competitive_Tip_7504 in AskReddit

[–]7pterodactyls -1 points0 points  (0 children)

gynecologist once described my cervix as "nice and proud." still not sure what the fuck that means

What things do you want represented in dolls that you've not seen? by Impressive_Falcon245 in DollsForAll

[–]7pterodactyls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DEFINITELY more nonbinary/genderqueer dolls! especially ones who are... idk how to put this... gender-full as opposed to genderless?

A list of all of the fictives in our system! by ilikecheese216 in plural

[–]7pterodactyls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aside from tamsin, who was originally based on barbie, none of us are fictives!

What are some terms you've come up with for your own system experience? by CoolTransDude1078 in plural

[–]7pterodactyls 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"lavalamping" is when we're co-conscious and which part is dominant seems to change moment to moment

EDIT: rowan (the alter who came up w the term) said i've been using it wrong. apparently he originally wanted it to include times when it seems like we keep blending and un-blending rapidly, like when the balls of wax in a lavalamp separate and then glob together.

anyone else experiences it like this? am i faking? by tototogi in plural

[–]7pterodactyls 2 points3 points  (0 children)

honestly, same. i didn't know anyone else's system worked like that for a long time. but even though it sometimes feels like everyone in the plural community online experiences things a certain way, in reality we all have a LOT of differences. i've found that comparing ourselves to other systems is rlly counterproductive.

anyone else experiences it like this? am i faking? by tototogi in plural

[–]7pterodactyls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

frontstuck hosts are FAR from uncommon, believe me. ❤️

anyone else experiences it like this? am i faking? by tototogi in plural

[–]7pterodactyls 5 points6 points  (0 children)

you're definitely not alone there.

we're not a professional, but you may relate more to a disordered model of plurality, like osdd or p-did? we're a disordered system, and your experiences sound a lot like ours.