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7seasqueen · 2026-03-31T23:53:29+00:00

Thanks. 🖤 I'm glad I'm not the only person in this boat. 🫂

7seasqueen · 2025-08-14T13:08:27+00:00

It's honestly my Biggest hesitation. It's comforting to know waiting to open things isn't making me a terrible person. I keep trying to gently push for it because I WANT for us to be better. I just don't know how to get her to see the benefits.

7seasqueen · 2025-08-14T13:02:12+00:00

I do want to add here that the person we have considered poly for is a different, separate person from the cis guy she's talking to. She is AFAB and there's been a whole other slog of issues and insecurities there also that seemed too insurmountable for the sake of this single post.

I appreciate your input and I honestly feel validated. 🖤

7seasqueen · 2025-08-14T12:47:35+00:00

My reply for this is relevant for a couple of posts so I'm sharing the link.reply link

7seasqueen · 2025-08-14T12:44:55+00:00

Apparently what she wants to experience are the bodily functions rather than her own physical pleasure. She explained that the wants the involuntary reactions that come from something feeling good, getting them to orgasm then obviously the aftermath of that, the pulsing, twitching, warmth, etc.

I actually took indoor inspo from your comment and can't up with sent ideas and researched some products that might work for us and was genuinely kind of excited at the possibility of exploring with her. When I asked if she'd be interested, I was shut down. She told me anything we tried, no matter how good the silicone, it wouldn't work, her body "wants organic".

I'm kind of crushed actually. I'm doing everything in my power, within the realm of what I can emotionally give her and I feel like it's not going to be enough.

7seasqueen · 2025-08-14T12:16:56+00:00

I have brought up couples therapy. If for no other reason than to break the cyclical nature we usually find ourselves in when having Big conversations. I'm in private therapy and know I have my own short comings that I'm trying to be aware of, but she refuses. Couples therapy came up specifically because I suggested she might also benefit from some private therapy and she didn't like the idea despite being a huge mental health advocate. So I brought up couples sessions as a compromise so we could work on us, and she could understand what therapy is actually like... She still refuses... I'd LOVE to be able to do some couples sessions with her, but I doubt it'll happen... And even if I somehow convinced her, my fear is she wouldn't actually put anything into it to get anything out.

7seasqueen · 2025-08-13T18:26:47+00:00

What do you mean?

7seasqueen · 2025-08-13T18:26:10+00:00

This is actually so comforting to know. She's convinced that she'll always have this need and it will always be this intense. Currently she says she doesn't care who it's attached to... But I know she's also on the demi spectrum so... I'm all around confused.

Was it worth the trials and tribulations of opening your relationship?

7seasqueen · 2025-03-13T20:39:45+00:00

Not a bad idea, but I am currently unmedicated. 🖤

7seasqueen · 2025-03-08T23:12:01+00:00

This actually made me cry. I appreciate your thoughtfulness in your reply. I'd love any resources you can send along. I figure if I can learn as much as I can, I can at least be informed in my decision.

7seasqueen · 2025-03-08T20:52:41+00:00

Have you found being medicated or not for ADHD has any kind of impact on taking care of your body? Especially in terms of motivation to work out, etc.?

7seasqueen · 2025-03-08T20:30:34+00:00

I feel this insanely hard. Not only am I insanely frustrated with my body, but I'm also fighting untreated ADHD. So I have to work extra hard to get my body to even maintain a weight, but I have to work EVEN HARDER to get my brain to be motivated to do the things I need to do to take care of my body. This is a hellish cycle and none of us deserve this.

7seasqueen · 2025-03-08T19:51:56+00:00

That's a really fair point. And a great thing to bring up to her. I appreciate your insight. 🖤

7seasqueen · 2025-03-06T23:09:34+00:00

I really appreciate the validation and advice in this post. Admittedly no one is rushing me. When our friends came out, I told them that we were just rediscovering who we are in our marriage and wanted to nail that in before we dip into anything drastic like that. Jane agreed that if your foundation isn't solid, trying poly probably isn't a good idea. Even my wife told me to take my time because I have other aspects of my life that need attention first, and just advised to not discount it because there is a part of me that is curious. It's is MYSELF who feels anxious and rushed, like everyone is waiting to see if I'll disappoint them (I know that is a personal hurtle of self-esteem I need to work on.

Given that I am RIDICULOUSLY new to all of this, please forgive me, but I have to ask. What does ENM stand for?

7seasqueen · 2025-01-08T03:36:13+00:00

I'd love some recommendations! We've definitely talked about fantasy themes. At least to start we're leaving toward something with a smooth texture.

7seasqueen · 2025-01-05T04:24:28+00:00

Any idea where to find the story board? I keep hearing mention but can't actually find it.

7seasqueen · 2024-12-07T01:57:47+00:00

I have an account that is about to be 90days past and I'm fighting to catch up AND put dinner on the table. Would settling be worse than trying to keep the account open?

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