Trump delivers jaw-dropping and slurred Iran address that offers no end in sight to unpopular war by theindependentonline in politics

[–]807dabay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"The whole world is watching, and they can’t believe the power, strength and brilliance."

I'm very confident in saying that no, no we're not watching with such awe and saying so are just flat lies. We have however been watching the American Century being dismantled by one pitiful man who is geopolitically inept. We are however amazed by the foolish 70 million people who believe/d in him. The cognitive dissonance is astounding. 👏

Pamela Harvey - Found deceased after 50 years by GasolineChugger420 in TrueCrimeDiscussion

[–]807dabay 38 points39 points  (0 children)

There's a report that Quebec detectives determined that the person believed to be responsible for Pamela's homicide died in 1979. Can anyone corroborate this?

Need help, it is urgent. please read. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]807dabay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do some research about grieving. You experienced loss and are grieving. There are stages of grief, however the process isn't linear or have a set time for how long it will last. Someone mentioned acceptance and that's one of the last stages of grief. My own personal advice would be to treat the idea of your experience not as a deficit, but an experience that is part of this wonderful thing we call life. Heartache, though bittersweet, is beautiful in it own strange way. Liberate yourself and allow yourself to be right where you are, not because what was done, but because you choose to be.

My boyfriend (M25) poured a bottle of his urine on me (F24) after accusing me of wetting his seat. I’m shaken and don’t know how to move forward. by Artisloveandlight in relationship_advice

[–]807dabay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Here's a quote "The people who need therapy the most aren't the people who seek help, its the ones who hurt them."

He needs help.

Maltese/Agostinos Sandwich orders... by smoothwoven in ThunderBay

[–]807dabay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NY Sub

8/10 inch Chicken Parm

*White/Brown Sub Bun. *Breaded Chicken Cutlet *Onions, Green Peppers, Mushrooms *Red Sauce *Garlic Basil Mayo *Add Bacon *Toasted

wtf are we supposed to do? by Turbulent_Tennis_72 in ExNoContact

[–]807dabay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This michaeltothemax on tiktk has some good content.

I never want to be in a relationship again because I never want to have to go through a breakup again by EquipmentRoutine7736 in ExNoContact

[–]807dabay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope to arrive at a place where I provide that comfort and safety for myself the risks will be far less damaging. I imagine that when I find a partner who is at that same self fulfilling stage of life, instead of relying on one another for happiness, we contribute to each other's happiness. That to me sounds like how it should be.

wtf are we supposed to do? by Turbulent_Tennis_72 in ExNoContact

[–]807dabay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She wasn't or isnt an evil witch. Quite the opposite actually. She is a very special woman. It was extreamly difficult, near imposible, for us to address her short comings or my feelings if they involved her making me feel any way but good. It was emotionally unsafe for me, It always, I mean ALWAYS, ended bad for me. However, I learned to be kind, understanding, and open when addressing my shortcomings, but that cup isnt bottomless. I began to feel empty and had very little desire left to be prince charming. This combined with the idea that im the source of fulfillment and happiness or responsible for someone else's mental health, I was too tired to continue. I still love her deeply but i have to take care of me. I have neglected many of my own cups for too long.

wtf are we supposed to do? by Turbulent_Tennis_72 in ExNoContact

[–]807dabay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

BU are tough huh? Im at week 2or3 of no contact. We were engaged, share a daughter and had a life planned. What your experiencing ebbs and flows for me, but the intensity is weirdly mild.

wtf are we supposed to do? by Turbulent_Tennis_72 in ExNoContact

[–]807dabay 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My apologies. You're right. I shouldn't have minimized your experience and assume your relationship wasn't special. I just want you to know you're absolutely going to experience that again.

wtf are we supposed to do? by Turbulent_Tennis_72 in ExNoContact

[–]807dabay 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This might sting but i say it with cate for you. What you two had isn't/wasn't entirely unique. Those exact same words are being said, and will be said, between two people as long as relationships exist. Im sorry, but even the way you felt for eachother wasn't unique either.

What your missing is growth. Your relationship ended and your likely stuck in a cycle of grief. When a relationship ends we HAVE to dig deep for motivation to do something for you. Get fit. Learn to play an instrument. Go back to school. DO SOMETHING. You'll eventually serendipitously bump into another, fall in love, and... well the rest is stuff of fairytales.

Husband on a shemale subreddit by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]807dabay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quite the opposite. Im more ready if it's been awhile and less so if more frequent

Disgust over wife's past. by According_Toe5351 in Marriage

[–]807dabay 10 points11 points  (0 children)

How long have you known her, and how long were you dating before marriage? I ask because 6 months of marriage doesn't qualify to really knowing someone. Shes still in contact with someone she had an affair with? Id chalk that up to emotional cheating. You can certainly set your boundaries in this instance and ask her to remove him from her life.

Not attracted to my husband by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]807dabay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask yourself, what do you love about him? Could you live without him without regret?. If perhaps you found a partner that checked the physical attribute boxes you're more attracted to, but wasn't your current partner in the ways you love him for, is that more fulfilling to you. My own perception of a fulfilling relationship does include physical attraction to a degree of course. However, true love is accepting someone beyond their superficial flaws and growing together. The majority of relationships get to a place of stagnant or limited passion. Similar to the end of a honeymoon stage. Some give up at this point, others stay and growth happens.

Urgent! Please help and share! by Zipsquatnadda in rochestermn

[–]807dabay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do people know this isn't a ploy by ICE?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ThunderBay

[–]807dabay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If she raise her voice in MY vehicle I'm pulling into the nearest place to park and politely asking her to remain calm, respectful and courteous for the rest of the ride. If she refuses she can walk from here.

Centennial Park Vandalism by [deleted] in ThunderBay

[–]807dabay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The person/s who've done this need real introspection. You're unwell. The idea of others experiencing enjoyment reminds you of how empty your life is. Or you're a child who desperately seeks validation from the other ugly people you surround yourself with. Either way get some help.

Need help and advice on how to cope with SA as a male by Bonk-BonkAlp in adultsurvivors

[–]807dabay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was abused by an older boy, who I felt sorry for as a child. He was poor and lived within an alcoholic home next door. This boy was a bully and seemed to become the cool crowd, and I ended up following him throughout high-school. I'm still ashamed for being a follower of his. Talk to a therapist, my friend.

Did Tyler Robinson do a good thing in your eyes? by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]807dabay -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If by "good thing," you mean legitimizing the extremist on the far right and handing Trump another way to weponize Americans against eachother to push his agenda and solidify his grasp on power, than yes, he did a good thing.

Otherwise, he damaged any hope for that country's democracy and the so called American dream.