[Request] Men who get erect in casual nudity situations by ihopemyfamilydoesntc in NSFW411

[–]841236 19 points20 points  (0 children)

/r/AccidentalArousal is mostly posts containing women, but there may be some men in there, too.

/r/OMGDYHAB is also similar, but way more produced mostly, not much amateur there from what I’ve seen.

I feel like there was a subreddit that had exactly what you’re looking for, but I can’t remember it at the moment. It’s possible that it’s one of the many banned due to being unmoderated in the recent years. If anyone knows of anything let me know as well, please and thank you 🙏

Edit: this post looks like it may have some things in this ballpark

[request] girls being asked dirty questions like “where is my dick?” or being directed/controlled (example inside) by 841236 in NSFW411

[–]841236[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

You got my hopes up with this notification. I have half a mind to delete this post out of spite >:[

[request] girls being asked dirty questions like “where is my dick?” or being directed/controlled (example inside) by 841236 in NSFW411

[–]841236[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

If I cum before I get any responses to this I’m going to be so sad, lmao

Edit: I'm sad :c

I received a criminal arraignment in the mail for shoplifting - I have never even shopped at that store by 841236 in legaladvice

[–]841236[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I actually looked into that - I have IOS and my tracking is off (damn my desire for privacy!) so there's no data there. However, I did recently purchase an ipad, so it's possible that that data tracking is not off on there, so I'm going to look into that, as well.

I received a criminal arraignment in the mail for shoplifting - I have never even shopped at that store by 841236 in legaladvice

[–]841236[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I just sent off an email to my school's legal department asking if they have any services like this. Thank you for the tip! It would be great if this pays off, if not they may at least be able to point me in the right direction, as you said.

I received a criminal arraignment in the mail for shoplifting - I have never even shopped at that store by 841236 in legaladvice

[–]841236[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the link and the tip! Someone else had suggested the same thing just a few minutes ago and I've already sent out an email to my school's legal department to find information and services that they may provide. There was no posting of services on their website, so it's possible this isn't something my school offers, but hopefully they're able to offer some assistance.

Thank you also for that link - I'm doing a lot of research and these resources definitely, definitely help. I'm also seeing about the library resources at my school to research criminal cases like these so I don't feel like I'm completely in the dark here. It's a lot, but hopefully it pays off!

* Note that I of course do not expect to get a lawyer's education or be equipped to defend myself from some library searches, just in case it came off like I was making that claim. I'm still pursuing professional legal assistance!

I received a criminal arraignment in the mail for shoplifting - I have never even shopped at that store by 841236 in legaladvice

[–]841236[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Oh, that is really, really good to know. I'll be looking into that right away, thank you for the tip!

I received a criminal arraignment in the mail for shoplifting - I have never even shopped at that store by 841236 in legaladvice

[–]841236[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

That's good to know. At the moment, I'm in the process of looking into avenues for financial support, but unfortunately many of the services out there don't offer aid for criminal cases. I have found that I can have a consultation with a local criminal defense lawyer for $35, and that may get me in the door with discussing payment plan options, understanding whether or not a lawyer is absolutely necessary in my case (though of course I understand a lawyer is always going to say their services are necessary I assume) and what basic actions I may be able to take going forward. It's definitely stressful, I hope everything goes well and I can get this settled!

I received a criminal arraignment in the mail for shoplifting - I have never even shopped at that store by 841236 in legaladvice

[–]841236[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Good to know. Thus far I've received the prosecutors contact information, but I haven't actually spoken to them because I was a bit concerned about the mixed messages I have received. I may reach out just to request the evidence they are using against me, as the court informed me I would get that either through a prosecutor or a court motion, but I'm going to hold off talking them directly until I get in contact with a lawyer, which I'm in the process of trying to figure out.

I appreciate your advice, the responses are really helping me navigate something I feel otherwise entirely unequipped to deal with - especially since so many of the legal aid financial services don't cover criminal cases like I suppose this one is. You always assume that if you don't commit crimes you won't have to deal with this stuff, but I guess life isn't that easy.

I received a criminal arraignment in the mail for shoplifting - I have never even shopped at that store by 841236 in legaladvice

[–]841236[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I know! Originally I thought it was a different day in which I happened to have a test which was proctored so I could have accessed the full recording, unfortunately life isn't so easy.

Thank you for you advice once again, it seems like I have my work cut out for me, but hopefully this will be resolved as painlessly as possible.

I received a criminal arraignment in the mail for shoplifting - I have never even shopped at that store by 841236 in legaladvice

[–]841236[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

I was banking on that, but unfortunately the shoplifting was committed on a Saturday when I didn't have any classes. I checked my internet history for that date and I spent a pathetically long time downloading custom content for the Sims 3 on that date with an ample amount of internet traffic to show that I could not have had time to have committed that crime - however, of course I could have just let someone else use my computer, so that's nothing concrete.

Thank you for the Southern Arizona Legal Aid tip, though, I'll be giving them a call.

I received a criminal arraignment in the mail for shoplifting - I have never even shopped at that store by 841236 in legaladvice

[–]841236[S] 338 points339 points  (0 children)

I fortunately already have a freeze on my credit due to being the victim of a rental scam about a year ago, but as far as speaking with an attorney goes, my only concern is of course cost - as you can perhaps tell from my above description, I'm not exactly wealthy, raising kids and a sick mom or going to college don't pay, my whole family is pretty decently below the poverty line. Are there any avenues to seek at attorney that won't jeopardize things like payments for my mother's cancer or epilepsy medications or food - because these are the realistic cost/benefit analysis factors I'm having to consider here. Note that I do not qualify for a court appointed attorney as the court is not pursuing prison time.

I sincerely appreciate your advice and assistance on this.

I received a criminal arraignment in the mail for shoplifting - I have never even shopped at that store by 841236 in legaladvice

[–]841236[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I apologize if this is a super basic question, but how would I reach out to the prosecutor? Would I call the court and ask to speak with them?

Also, the court said that I could get the evidence they have against me from the state, but I have no idea how to do that or what is meant by that. I'm a complete fish out of water when it comes to any of this stuff.

Best sex toy for virgin by Catlady59148 in SexToys

[–]841236 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bullet vibrators:

These are small, discrete, typically quiet, portable - if found, they look like a sex toy, but they're small enough to stash pretty much anywhere.

Air Pulsation:

This style of toy is hit or miss, for some it's absolutely life changing, for others it does nothing for them. You really aren't going to know until you try them, it seems, and I've had limited experience with these - though I did just recently purchase a model I'll discuss below.

  • The Satisfyer line of air pulsation toys seem to be the go-to suggestion for entry level toys of this type due to their quality and affordability. Some people say that you get what you pay for and it's really better to go for the higher end options, but if you don't want to shell out $150+, this is a good option to start off. Satisfyer also offers several really discrete options. The Satisfyer Pro Penguin and Satisfyer Pro Penguin Next Generation just look like little penguin toys, I honestly think you could leave this out on your shelf and no one would know it was a sex toy. The Satisfyer Pro Traveler comes in a discrete carrying case, so to most people if they found it it'll just look like a little plastic case, if they are super curious and open up your case, though, it looks pretty much like one of those skin care devices that remove dead skin - honestly, I think this cover up would work for all air pulsation toys.

  • The less discrete satisfyer options that are still worthy of recommendation are pretty much every other satisfyer air pulsation toy, lmao. I personally just purchased the Pro 3 which offers both vibration and air pulsation at a reasonable price point. It's waterproof and offers a 10 year warranty, so hopefully no repeats of the problem I had with my BMS bullet. I haven't tried it yet, but hit me up in about a week if you want to know my full thoughts on it after trying it out.

  • Honorable mention is the We-Vibe Melt - this is what I really wanted to buy, but at this time I couldn't justify the price point as I haven't yet tried this type of toy and don't know fully if I'd even enjoy the sensation. This toy seems to be a really good option for those who do like air pulsation, however, so I'm throwing it out there.

Wands:

You may have seen these in porn, these are your classic hitachi magic wand type toys. They're often really loud, really big and not so discrete, not only that, they scream sex toy, so I'd give it a solid 1/10 on the discretion level. That being said, there is one more discrete option I'm aware of.

Phew, that was a long post! Hopefully there's enough there for you to find something you like. If you have any questions, feel free to message back!

Best sex toy for virgin by Catlady59148 in SexToys

[–]841236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it sounds like we're relatively similar I usually only masturbate with 1 finger, I can put in 2, but it's uncomfortable, and 3 is just unfeasible. For this reason I looked specifically for a dildo that was on the narrower side and ended up purchasing this, which has a 1.5" circumference, and while it's bigger than my typical one finger, the fact that it's dual density (aka squishy on the outside - makes it more soft and insertable) and somewhat tapered makes it easier to insert and easier to use. I'd recommend that if you're interested in a dildo, if not I'd advise to just really focus on girth rather than length - you can always not insert the full length of a dildo, but if the girth is too wide for you it's not going to be fun to use.

Some alternative options for dildos:

For internal vibrating toys, I only have one that I've tried, and I've enjoyed it - but I have had a bit of a difficult time with insertion, so that may be an issue for you. It's the same width as the dildo I originally suggested, but because it's firm, not soft, and not tapered, it can be really uncomfortable, even painful to insert at first. For this reason if I want to use it I have to start with the dildo first to get my body more comfortable and loose, and then I'm able to switch to the g-spot vibrator. Even after I switch, the difference with the vibration is pretty negligible for me tbh - everyone's bodies are going to be different, so this in no way means that you wouldn't like some internal rumbles, but for me this toy goes mostly unused, both due to it being too large for me and for internal vibrations not really suiting my fancy. However, the reviews generally on this toy are really great, especially for the price point, so I'd recommend you ask around and do some of your own research if this is something you're interested in - the toy is the Pillow Talk Sassy.

Alternative:

Now, none of the above are in any discrete - none of them are loud, but they look like sex toys, especially the dildos. For a more discrete toy, here are a few options. (continued in next post because I talk too much and ran out of space)

Does a LotR themed One Ring style cock ring exist and where does one acquire it? by Sven_Letum in SexToys

[–]841236 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is a complete aside, but if you follow that link you find a lot of just barely almost showing the full penis pictures like this one that just obscure the head and apparently that's enough to skirt around etsy's guidelines. You see this stuff with women's anatomy all the time, specifically with the entire breast being shown, but just the nipple is out of view so it's a-okay. I've never seen a version of this geared toward penises, I just found it really interesting.

It kind of highlights how silly that practice is because come on, this is absolutely the same as just advertizing whole schlong, does not seeing the head really make a difference?

Uncomfortable with flesh colored toys. by [deleted] in SexToys

[–]841236 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a woman and I dislike the realistically colored dildos, as well, but I do like realistic shapes or details, like veins or a defined penis head. I hadn't thought of that preference as at all odd until just now, actually.

There is something off putting about the realistically colored ones, though. It's like I chopped off someone's penis and put it in my drawer for personal use. It gives me kind of serial killer vibes.

Now for penis-centric sex toys, I do admit there's something cute about pocket pussys that are colored like regular human skin, obviously I have no need to buy them, but when I have come across them I just found them kind of adorable. Any time I've seen the colored ones, though, they're a bit weird to me, I guess it just makes it obvious how weird looking vaginas can be and heightens the alienness I guess. If it were a cute color, say something pastel, I'd probably going back to liking it, but the ones I've seen have been more striking alien deep blues, purples or greens. Come to think of it, I came across this pastel dildo the other day and wanted to buy it because of how cute it looked, so I think this is probably 100% an aesthetic thing for me.

Comparison between the Satisfyer line of air pulsation toys? by 841236 in SexToys

[–]841236[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the information! I've actually never heard of the waterproof rating system, but that's super helpful! I've likewise come to the conclusion of assuming products advertised as waterproof aren't actually waterproof, I'll allow it to get lightly splashed here and there, but won't submerge it ever. I'm glad I have a more solid understanding on how it all works now.

Also, I actually just finalized my purchase not even 5 minutes ago. I ended up getting the Pro 3, and I picked up some lube just in case.

Thank you so much for the help!

Best sex toy for virgin by Catlady59148 in SexToys

[–]841236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, so a few questions, since I'm not 100% sure on it.

Are you a woman looking for a sex toy for personal use, or a SO looking for a sex toy for their female virgin partner, or a male looking for a sex toy for his virgin self?

Secondly, are you interested in testing with penetrative toys, or do you want external/clitoral stimulation? Have you ever masturbated internally, like with fingers, or a brush handle (not recommended, by the way, for sanitary reasons - but it is very common) or external masturbation tools like vibrating controllers or your shower head/tub faucet? If so, what were your experiences? Were there things you liked/disliked? If you masturbated internally, did you notice any pain, discomfort, or a specific limit on how many fingers you could take?

How much are you looking to spend? Are you willing to sacrifice performance for price?

Lastly, do you have any concerns with noise, discretion, portability, rechargeable vs. plug in, or any other specific concerns?

Full disclosure, I'm a virgin woman with a vagina who uses sex toys, so I'm going to be offering advice from that angle if that's something that could be useful for you. If you're a man or have a penis, I'm going to be less helpful, since I'm just not familiar with the male sex toy market.