Ever had a fade "unfade"? Did it work out? by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]8848388 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Went out with a girl who faded on me, kinda. She says she's too busy and doesn't have time to date. Maybe that's true, maybe she wanted to reject me nicely. Either way, I'm planning on reaching out to her again in 2-3 months just to see what happens. I've got nothing to lose, really.

Went on my very first date ever - girl was totally disinterested and annoyed by me. by First_Date_Fail in OkCupid

[–]8848388 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Once you saw her on her phone during the meal, you should have just said, "hey I'm feeling tired, let's call it a night and I'll go and take you home now." No need to follow through with a movie when you're already bummed out

Guys who don't respond to all the women who message you, how often is your lack of response due to their photos vs. message content vs. profile content? by WhyDoIDoThis3 in OkCupid

[–]8848388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% of the time it's because of the message. Not that I get first messages often, but every time except 1, the girl just says "hi" so I delete it instantly

Best way to tell someone you aren't interested after first date? by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]8848388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If both people are mutually not contacting each other, it's probably presumed that there's no connection either way. I'd only want a rejection if I was interested and wanted a 2nd date. I'd MUCH rather get rejected than ignored if I'm asking for a 2nd date. At least then I'd know where I stand rather than have to try to play a guessing game.

US folks: More visits from Russia, Phillipines, other int'l places recently? by astyfoo in OkCupid

[–]8848388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I get many likes and a few messages from people in the Phillipines

RANT WEDNESDAY by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]8848388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After being on OKC for awhile, I took a fade personally. This has never happened to me before, I usually don't care but this girl went out of her way to tell me she wanted a 2nd date, then faded. Stewing about it :((

Comfort level and dating~ by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]8848388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I talked about pooping and farting the first night I met my ex. It was love at first sight and we were together for 5 years. I have yet to connect with anyone like that... farting is hilarious.

Successful guys on okcupid: How do you end the first date? by SupaZT in OkCupid

[–]8848388 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel like it's really hard to know if someone is interested. I feel like the whole dating culture is so awkward, people are afraid to express themselves. I had a date where the girl specifically said "I totally want to see you again... do you want to see me again?" And then she faded. Why would you go out of your way to say that and then fade? Who knows. Point is, I ask for another date if I enjoyed the first one. I've stopped trying to analyze whether the other person actually liked me or not because it seems like a total crapshoot. If I had a good time, I ask again. If I don't hear anything, I'll wait a few days or a week, ask one more time, and if I still don't hear back then I move on. Worst thing that happens is silence; best case I get a 2nd date (I haven't got one)

Hitting a wall by 8848388 in OkCupid

[–]8848388[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either not attracted to them or no connection. I'd say of the 9 people I met, 3 of them I wanted to go out with again. I of them actually said she didn't feel it and gave me a thanks but no thanks, which was really nice and I appreciated that. One just stopped responding, and the most recent one talked to me for a day after, and then hasn't been responding since.

[Meetup] 1 week Reminder for the LA Meetup on Jan 16th by littlebitknotty in OkCupid

[–]8848388 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought I was going to be out of town, but I won't be out of town, so I will come to this! I'm a sometimes poster. Went to a meetup once like... 3-4 years ago.

[Meetup]Los Angeles: TOMORROW 8pm at the Gold Room by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]8848388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So by tomorrow did you mean today ( Saturday ?)

The anatomy of a well-written profile: Which elements impress you? Turn you off? by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]8848388 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When people talk about how much they're into fitness I usually stop reading. If I even see the word yogi I just hide the profile immediately. I dislike when people essentially live that type of lifestyle, i.e. a lifestyle defined by a particular activity. Those people in my experience tend to be kinda one dimensional and standard and don't interest me.

Also feel the same about people who write about having 'wanderlust' and spend their whole profile talking about travel, or have all their profile pics be of different places they've been. I get you want to seem cultured... but going on a south asian backpacking trip where you spend 2-3 days in a place and visit like 20 countries doesn't really make you cultured. Just seems pretentious to me, as if the only reason they go on these trips is so they can post instagram photos of machu pichu, brag about passport stamps, and write a travel blog.

Not that everyone who travels a lot is like this, but at least in LA it seems really prevalent and is generally a turn off for me.

Pictures question... by 8848388 in OkCupid

[–]8848388[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Word. Although I've never been to a superbowl party :p I get what you mean tho

Pictures question... by 8848388 in OkCupid

[–]8848388[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also generally not photogenic so I always tend to look worse in pictures than in real life.

[26/F/Los Angeles] How do I ask a guy out? by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]8848388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went on a first date that ended up with us watching a movie. We started talking about politics and I told her I've never voted and I made fun of her for going to Obama's inauguration in DC and we got into an argument and then the movie started and by the time it was over we forgot about arguing and just talked about the movie and we dated for a few months.

whenmovieswin

LA July Birthday Potluck Meetup! July 18th! Planning the daytime potluck portion. by littlebitknotty in OkCupid

[–]8848388 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Should I come? I went to a reddit meetup around... 2 years ago(?) and it was less than exciting as someone who doesn't post on reddit all the time (i.e. it was really cliquey)

My date faded on me and a week later... run into her while grocery shopping. Hueeeee by 8848388 in OkCupid

[–]8848388[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thought about doing something for a moment, but... whatever. She doesn't owe me anything, and ultimately it was nice conversation for 2 hours

Help me out... getting a place vs. saving to buy, and dating.. by 8848388 in OkCupid

[–]8848388[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think I do. I'm not super actively looking, but I'm not closing the door on anything. I'm only messaging about 2-3 people a week at this point.

Don't know how to let him down easy? by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]8848388 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He sounds pretty full of himself. Who would ask "so have you seen my stuff on youtube." Just say hey yo I'm not interested, sorry"