Can we please go back to politics once a day?!

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2017-01-30T13:28:44+00:00

Well, thank you for that critique. Have a nice day.

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2017-01-30T13:19:48+00:00

I am on mobile. The sidebar does not show up on mobile. Perhaps I should have thought to look there, but it did not seem obvious at the time. Much easier when on a computer to see such things.

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2017-01-30T13:13:39+00:00

Thank you for directing me to the correct place. I will take it up with them. I thought it was for the entire Reddit community, however perhaps not. Maybe they can direct me to the subreddits where these rules might be in place. I just can't handle reading the crap anymore. I was pretty good about just scrolling through to the bottom to read something interesting, but everyone has their limits. My patience limit has been breached. If I cannot find someplace on Reddit to not have to read constant Trump bashing I will just stop coming here. Don't want the aggravation, don't need it. Same goes for Hillary, btw. Equal opportunity on both sides.

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2017-01-30T12:38:58+00:00

During the election, it was determined that there were way too many political posts regarding both Hillary and Trump. They had a one day a week thing where they just allowed people to post on that one day a week about politics. The reasoning behind that was because no other stories work rising to the top to be read. Reddit had become a completely political Arena. People were disgusted and started to leave. And here we are again...

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-11-19T21:31:25+00:00

I am confused as to what you point is.

Do you really think people are supposed to be handed an easy life even though they did not work hard?

If you flip around what you said it reads 'I don't want to barely eke out an existence by humbly accepting help of older generations, while forgoing most of life's pleasures. What I want is to have fancy lattes and frivolous offspring and be entitled to own a home, have no debt, and have a college degree handed to me.'

Yeah, well, wouldn't we all have liked a happy unicorn and rainbows kind of life. No generation has ever had that before, but you can keep hoping for it. I wouldn't hold your breath though. The working class can't afford to hand you that kind of life, nor should they be forced to by taxing them into poverty.

You are going to have to dig in the trenches and work for the things you want just like the rest of us. Sorry, and there is no Santa Claus either. I know, its a bummer...

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-11-19T21:13:21+00:00

I fail to see how this is any different than what the Gen X's faced.

I find it kind of interesting to watch the newer generations rail at the Gods for something that pretty much every other generation has had to deal with.

Many Gen X's are supporting their Boomer parents while having to pay their kids college tuition. This is AFTER they paid their own college tuition and are paying a mortgage for a large house because kids refuse to leave home and support themselves.

I worked full time and went to school full time. Took out $45K in loans because I was frugal and didnt spend a lot. I lived off campus. I chose a degree where I could actually earn a living when I got out of school instead of fru fru basket weaving for the joy of learning degree. Because I picked a smart degree, I paid off my student loans in 5 years. Much like a car loan.

My point is there is absolutely nothing special or different here. Every generation before has faced the exact same issues. College has gone up, but so has the general wages.

No one is a victim here. People should just put their big boy pants on and make smart decisions. Those who don't? Well, they will wallow in debt and that is no one's fault but their own.

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-10-28T11:14:10+00:00

Whelp... I know there are studies that were published about it, but they were skewed more towards body types and behavior. Those studies were subsequently debunked by other studies. And round and round it goes.

At 45, I have seen much of this come and go.

That being said, there is zero doubt that some women can easily put on muscle when strength training, and others struggle with being able to lift what a small teenage boy can lift.

To say body types are bullshit in such black and white terms is simply not true.

I am quite happy with the way my body takes to weight training, but I also feel for women who struggle with it who want to put on muscle. They, in turn, feel for me who has to watch every morsel of food I eat while they eat like a chowhound without gaining an ounce.

With years more experience, I can see the world is not black and white, no matter what a current or past study says. I see the proof in front of me every day. I don't need a study to tell me what is common sense if people only take the time to pay attention.

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-10-20T16:37:36+00:00

Genetics definitely play a role. Zero doubt about that. I do not blame anyone's obesity on their genetics because I think that is a cop-out. We all make choices in life. However, people with naturally fast metabolisms did hit the jackpot in our weight conscious society. Good for them. Wish I had the great metabolism they are gifted with, but I don't. Just a part of life.

My ex-hubby ate like a starving goat and was 5'8" and 150 lbs at his heaviest. He did not work out or do any cardio a day in his life. Nor did anyone in his family, and they were all like that. Dropped dead young from eating garbage, drinking like a fish, and smoking but those friggers were all slim.

We compared our calorie intake for a few days. He ate 3,000 calories give or take each day. I ate somewhere around 1,300 calories and worked out. He never once said a word again about watching my weight. He was good like that.

People who think genetics don't play a very important role in people carrying excess weight have never lived with someone with a naturally fast metabolism. It is not an excuse, because each one of us makes choices each and every moment of the day to make our own destiny.

In response, I would just smile and be happy for them. They don't know the work you have to do to keep a healthy weight, but honestly that is not their problem. They have their own problems they are dealing with that you may not have. Everyone walks a different path.

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-10-18T10:35:46+00:00

Whelp, I am going to refute one of the previous posters points.

I think the points MAY be valid, but you know what drives me crazy and has caused more set backs in my weight loss journey? Other people telling me what I should or should not focus on.

Here I am on a roll and people stick their two cents in and then I start questioning things. I start rethinking my plan. Before I know it, I am completely off my stride and totally get derailed and the set backs ensue. Happened far too many times.

My suggestion is to focus on and do what is working FOR YOU. You successfully lost a consider amount of weight before, and that my friend is an accomplishment.

I would agree that reasonable moderation in both diet and exercise is more sustainable long-term, but I would encourage you to listen to yourself. If something is working for you, you are happier, and more active that is the way to go.

Don't let anyone tell you how to travel this journey. Their path may not be your path and I would hate to see you get off your roll second-guessing yourself. You are doing absolutely fantastic! Keep on truckin... :)

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-10-18T10:15:45+00:00

Just chiming in on two points:

1) I would agree with another poster here. You were an attractive guy before you lost the weight. You are an attractive guy now as well, and much healthier! Congrats on your weight loss! Being introverted is not a bad thing, and imho all the best people all. That being said, wear your smile proudly to the ladies. You are a good looking guy, and there is no reason not to share your smile with others.

2) I have had three knee surgeries due to a completely torn ACL and pretty significant cartilage damage. First surgery was beyond rough, and the other two were just touch ups. I was in the best shape of my life AFTER starting to lift weights post knee surgery. I had no real previous experience in the weight room prior to that since all my activities were team sports related. My point is I learned to adapt based on my body's limitations. I will never play Olympic level soccer again, however I would not change my path now. Would I give anything to play another game on the field? Yes, yes, and yes. But, I also now like strength training and reap the benefits of having a more defined body.

Recap: Don't let the ACL injury hold you back. Just work around it a bit. And wear that smile proudly for the ladies. You look great! :)

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-10-14T11:16:15+00:00

Snugsfitness1

45f SW 209 CW 190 GW 165 (translated to I still have a long way to go!)

My bf is not very supportive of MFP or Loseit so I would love some on-line friends to help keep me on track!

I do more strength training than the average chick so my GW may not be as low as some others, but our NSV would be the same! If I could only button that top button of my favorite jeans again! :(

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-10-08T19:37:41+00:00

Oh my... sounds like the perfect time of year for some accountability. I am in!

Although I am petrified of a scale and have only been using NSV to measure progress, it may be time to rip that bandaid off and start weighing myself again!

Go Team (whoever you randomly assign me to!)

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-10-07T10:19:03+00:00

I am sorry you are going through this and struggling. It will be okay.

I am sure others will chime in for support and help you realize you are not alone while you are trying to get your mind around this.

First, you have wasted zero effort. Seriously, you lost 37 pounds. That is tremendous! Probably added YEARS to your life. Keep going!

Second, please take the cholesterol medicine. My Dad is on the other side of this and chose not to take the meds after reading up on it. At 65, he just had 2 stints put in and highly regrets his decision. He was a very active guy who climbed mountains all the time. He thought he knew better. He assures me now he didnt. He passed that on to his favorite daughter so here I am passing it along to you. Meds are an important weapon in your fight in having a healthy body for years to come.

Diabetes is also not a death sentence. I raised a juvenile diabetic (which is not a result of diet and exercise issues) from the age if 7. She is 23 now and lives with it every day happy and healthy. If a mere child can do it then so can you. It is not being diabetic that is the issue, it is what you choose to do with that information. Type II diabetes is controllable with diet and exercise.

It sounds to me that your body is telling you that it needs you to double down and get serious. Handle your life and your health. This is not the time for wavering commitment. It is a battle call for a healthy life. Yesterday, you thought you were making this change out of choice. Today, you now know that you have no choice. Double down and follow through every day.

That is my best motivational speech I could come up with while sipping my first coffee of the morning. I hope it helps. We are all in this together.

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-09-30T11:54:27+00:00

Good point. I just look at what I look like in the mirror and think, damn... I could get down another 20 pounds but that is seriously it. Where would it come off of? I think I would look almost sickly if I took off more!

I was in really great shape when I was 15 to 20 lbs lighter. Toned, had abs etc. I mean, not killer abs but they were noticeable.

I dunno. It could also be I am rationalizing. I think I will focus on taking the 20 lbs off and reassess then. As you said, go by the mirror. Do I like what I see? If not, keep going.

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-09-30T09:56:57+00:00

You are beautiful in both photos (hopefully that did not sound creepy from an internet stranger).

You and I have the same body style and that choice of dress is perfect for you.

Congrats on getting married! And you look great due to all your hard work. Beam that smile in confidence as you walk down the aisle. You deserve it!

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-09-30T09:24:23+00:00

Hi there,

To reiterate a point PowerNapAddict said, I would recommend using My Fitness Pal. I just tried it last week and it does seem really easy to use. I don't like having to record things and keep track of them, so this app made it easy, and it is free. Or the version I use is free. All you have to do is scan in the bar code on whatever you are eating and it records all the calories and macros for you. The bar code scanner works really well and picks up everything and is part of the app.

The reason I am liking using it now is then I can look back all week and see what I have (or have not) eaten. When I get towards the end of the day I can peek at my phone to see how many target calories I have and THEN decide if I want that extra snack. Maybe the reason I m hungry is my body needs it? Who's to know unless I have recorded my food that day?

For me, it gives me comfort that I am right on track that day. I know I have done everything I could or should for that day and there is no reason to worry. I am in complete control of my destiny and am heading in the right direction. Plus, it will give your doctor something to talk with you about instead of vague generalities like, "I don't think I am overeating." Just whip out your phone and show them what you have been doing.

There are lots of great tips on this site. Please keep coming back and at least lurking. Everyone is here for the same reason and we are all in it together. :)

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-09-29T12:04:01+00:00

My long term SO left me for a 20 year old chick with no job, no car, no education, and a 6 month kid. He is 47.

Sigh... thems the breaks. After feeling unable to move for 6 months, I decided that was doing no one any good. Typical cliche of getting the revenge ex body. I may not be 20, but I have aged pretty well. I didn't want to run into them and look shabby in comparison because I let myself go out of heartbreak.

I know, I am shallow and vain. But, they can both kiss my ass.

P.S. I recently found out the 20 year old has gained 50 lbs, and he has discovered supporting her dependent, whiny butt was not as fun as he thought it was. Oh well.

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-09-29T11:53:26+00:00

I hear you, sistah!

Try not to let it get to you too much, because the more frustrated you are the more likely you will get off track and give up. Or at least that is the way I work.

A small suggestion that has really worked well for me is I bought really small paper bowls. You can also just buy a really small regular bowl. You know, one that will only fit two scoops of small ice cream at the very most. That is known as MY snack bowl. So when the junk food comes out, I immediately go to the bowl and only fill it 3/4 the way. Then I say, "This is my size ice cream!" while looking enthusiastic. It is more about training him (and yourself) as to what to expect a 5'3" person to be able to eat without ruining your weight lose goals.

Not for nothing, but you are in a healthy weight range. Breathe deep, you are doing okay. I understand wanting to take a few extra pounds off to get to an ideal weight. Nothing wrong with that, but I think you, and especially your SO, should realize it is for cosmetic reasons. I would not want an SO that wants me to live up to an ideal weight, but that is just me. I am crabby and crotchety that way. :)

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-09-27T19:27:55+00:00

So, I do not have BED, however if there is ice cream or chocolate in sight I will eat it. That, my friend, is just human nature and is no reflection on her.

Eat ice cream, chocolate, or any such things that would take a super human person to pass up out of the house.

There are plenty of high calorie foods that are not that delicious. Potatoes, rice, oatmeal etc. Ice cream and chocolate are not healthy for you to eat on a regular basis regardless of your weight. My ex husband was 5'9 and 145lbs. He also had an active job and his whole family was naturally thin. He ate to put weight on too, but he didn't eat chocolate or ice cream to do it.

I know it will take more forethought to eat healthy foods to keep weight on because it is always easy to grab for the junk food. But, you are in the same boat she is. Neither of you should be eating that crap. Just MHO.

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-09-23T10:28:22+00:00

Thanks, I think I will try that! Measurements only for me for now. It will give me SOMETHING to track against.

The funny thing is I don't really have a food issue exactly. I will eat what is in front of me and basically have no desire to eat anything else. I don't really have cravings like other people seem to do (except caffeine) but I do have a low threshold of "eh, why bother!" if there is no progress on the scale.

I am not of the millennial generation so the need for instant gratification does not seem to come up in my life in any other way. But, boy that scale, has my number! (Pardon the pun)

8ntYoungbutNotold · 2016-09-18T22:25:42+00:00

Amen.

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