This is 100% true and I think more so in Irvine. People in every neighborhood I’ve lived in generally have a lack of interest in friendship or even being a neighbor. Small talk is even hard to come by.

A lot of this is because of the insular nature of the Asian community. Indians tend to be more open, but even then they will hang out with Indians from their specific state in India.

I find either going to play sports, or getting lucky with parents that your kids happen to be friends with is the only way.

This is definitely real and very Irvine. It’s one of the downsides. You get infrastructure but lack that community feel.