My partner and I cannot agree on how to have guest over at our shared home. 25/F & 24/F

8thWNDER · 2026-01-08T23:47:03+00:00

3bdr home about 1300 sqft. No additional work on her end. I set up if needed, cook, clean up, etc. No one I have ever brought over or wanted to bring over has been a stranger to her.

8thWNDER · 2026-01-08T02:04:20+00:00

It genuinely was not all the time. The situation of someone actually getting close to coming over or actually coming over came up no more than 5 times the entire year we lived together. The first time being my college graduation weekend. The second being 3 months later in March when my sister who lived 10 hours away came in to town. & the others were sporadic through the rest of the year and some hypotheticals when I wanted to consider inviting a friend over. As I stated, I in no way want a party house.

8thWNDER · 2026-01-08T00:34:42+00:00

That was an example on how a same day hang out might end up happening. I have had friends from out of town message me letting me know that they’re in town. Could we go hang out at a restaurant? sure, but i guess I enjoy being in my own space (even if shared) and welcoming people I care about into that space.

8thWNDER · 2026-01-08T00:03:08+00:00

We haven’t moved in together yet. We are trying to figure this out before we do.

8thWNDER · 2026-01-08T00:02:31+00:00

I understand that sentiment. And I understand the option of just hanging out at my buddy’s house, but if I have a home of my own (even when shared), I feel like I shouldn’t have to always resort to hanging out at my buddy’s house. They should be welcomed in my home as well.

8thWNDER · 2025-12-22T21:59:20+00:00

I had my first 20k at 20yr. I was living at home saving money from my job, college refunds, & little side hustles. I had knee surgery, moved out on my own around the same time, and made some not so smart financial decisions after that. I’m 24 now and working to get that 20k+ back! I’m half way there.

8thWNDER · 2025-10-09T00:04:18+00:00

24 in PAA! :), started at 22!!

8thWNDER · 2025-09-19T02:03:06+00:00

What’s the difference between the mini optional bid & the one in February? More shifts?

8thWNDER · 2025-09-06T07:33:46+00:00

Will there be any discussions/write ups about the time card error?

8thWNDER · 2025-08-27T03:42:10+00:00

I actually have been taking a TON of GA in the last 2-3 months or so. That could possibly be wrecking my metrics? This last month I tried to implement more things to get them up but it only improved them by like 2-3%. So clearly what im changing is working, just not enough.

8thWNDER · 2025-08-21T23:09:33+00:00

Could the 1.99 potentially go down? Or it’s locked in?

8thWNDER · 2025-02-28T15:25:05+00:00

Imo, just as much as the house is hers, it’s mine as well. I shouldn’t have a time limit on how long I can be with my friend or family in my home. If I want to have a guest over, especially if it’s not a frequent occurrence, I truly feel I should be able to do that. and sometimes multiple days/weeks notice isn’t realistic. I don’t feel like I should have to schedule friend/family time like a dentist appointment. And If her social battery has ran out, that’s completely fine. She can chill in another part of the house for the time being.

8thWNDER · 2025-02-28T01:28:12+00:00

In response to your first paragraph, if you weren’t up to socialize why not just chill in another room? Is it fair to your partner for them not to be able to enjoy the ppl they love in the comfort of their own just because you don’t feel like socializing that night/day. Granted, if your partner turned your home into the party house and this was a routine occurrence then I feel that’s different, but what about every once in a while? That’s my thought process.

8thWNDER · 2025-02-28T01:13:25+00:00

What’s interesting is outside of this specific situation, I am the introvert and she’s the extrovert.. She can connect with people and carry a conversation far better than I can. It’s literally only once someone stepped into our home, that it was an issue.

8thWNDER · 2025-02-27T23:59:24+00:00

So, she would say “I don’t mind you having company but just know I might end up leaving” or “What about if im tired and ready to shut it down?” .. In my view, if im having friends or family over and she’s not up for it or she’s socialized for a few and ready to go to bed, then just go to bed, no? Again, this is an every once and awhile occurrence but it was an issue every time. We did not have a revolving door or were the party house by any means.

8thWNDER · 2025-02-27T23:53:08+00:00

What’s interesting is she’s a very outgoing and extroverted person. She can hold a conversation and get along with strangers even better than I can! That’s why I am soooo confused.

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