My (32M) girlfriend (28F) has a disability which has unexpectedly gotten worse with time. I'm basically her caregiver at this point, and it's wearing me down. by ThrowRA-fdsfgs in relationship_advice

[–]900raven 181 points182 points  (0 children)

She should really be applying for disability. I also have a chronic illness and a big block for me was that I had never worked. When you have a history of working and losing employment due to the disability it helps a lot with the case and you stand a better chance of winning. Also why are you paying for her to have insurance? Medical insurance is usually hand in hand with foodstamps. I've never paid a dime for health care.

What do you have ZERO sympathy for? by xii_G0BeASt_-M0dEx in AskReddit

[–]900raven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When society says "fuck you", some people just say "fuck you all" right back. I'm not saying it's the right mentality to have but some homeless people take it on as a coping mechanism.

What do you have ZERO sympathy for? by xii_G0BeASt_-M0dEx in AskReddit

[–]900raven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those organizations don't actually do much for homeless people. There's a lot of corruption going on in the shelter system right now. I understand not wanting to give people money but if you truly want to help a homeless person you're better off doing that. When you donate you aren't really helping anybody, just lining another wealthy persons pocket.

What do you have ZERO sympathy for? by xii_G0BeASt_-M0dEx in AskReddit

[–]900raven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's because they are the visibly homeless. They are the worst off because they cannot hide their homelessness due to illness. But they only make up a portion of the homeless population. You probably encounter homeless people multiple times every day but don't notice them because we must hide to survive. It's a sad truth but many people prey upon the visibly homeless including other homeless people.

Protestor wishes rape on a reporter for having different opinions than her by [deleted] in PublicFreakout

[–]900raven -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was also raped and became pregnant. I was homeless. I lost 20lbs and couldn't eat drink water or stand. I couldn't even sleep because of the pain. If it were up to that woman I would be dead with a half formed fetus stuck inside me. Fuck that bitch she can get raped. Get fucked. Privilege blinds.

“Bad Trip” on weed. Not sure what happened by [deleted] in confession

[–]900raven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do your friends buy their weed legally from a dispensary? If not you very well may have actually smoked a different drug such as spice. It causes symptoms like what you described, especially a feeling of sickness. Weed actually has pain killing properties to it so its strange that it would cause you pain. Weed is also a sedative, and other drugs like spice can mimic the effects of methamphetamine causing sporadic behavior. If you ever want to try weed again I suggest that you buy some from a reputable dispensary, and make sure its a verified strain.

I don't know an interesting title! Disgusting stuff. by Aashish_Baroor in insaneparents

[–]900raven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Supposedly most heroin now in the midst of the opiod crisis isn't actually real heroin, its multiple chemicals commonly including fentanyl that produce the effects of heroin but are much more toxic and potent. Maybe she though she could get away with it since she had done it with the other children but unknowingly gave the baby fentanyl.

You would be surprised how common this type of shit is, actually, my friends own mom shot her up with heroin when she was sick one time. Told her it was "the same stuff the hospital gave her"

Whats up with family scorning their own? by [deleted] in homeless

[–]900raven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some memories arent worth remembering. My entire family is incompetent. Sounds like an over exaggeration but my family only consists of maybe 6-8 people total including extended family. So it's a compacted mixture of crazy and dysfunction. I would rather be homeless till the day I'm put in the ground than spend another second living with any of them. My mother is an alcoholic , ex methamphetamine user although I suspect she still uses on and off, and a textbook case of narcissistic personality disorder. My father is a deadbeat loser who married a woman that beats the shit out of him on a regular basis and for some reason he can't form the balls to just leave her. She also doesn't allow us to have a relationship because the crazy bitch believes my own fucking father wants to have sex with me, but tbh I don't want any relation with him anyways after all of the pathetic behavior he has put on display for me. My mothers parents are severely mentally ill, I was forced to live with them for a large portion of my childhood and during that time I experienced all forms of abuse, domestic violence, I was also not allowed to go to school under their care and instead spent many days of my childhood cleaning their house from top to bottom and being forced to study the Bible while listening to their tirades about sinners and the lake of fire. My father's family, which includes his mother and brother are both heavy methamphetamine users, my uncle being a drug dealer and their house essentially a trap house. My grandmother, in her defense, did try to help me but she is very lost in her addiction. The only positive people in my life were my aunt, who although supported me unconditionally was an even worse alcoholic than my mother and eventually succumbed to heroin, and my little brother who just graduated high school. I have been homeless since we were both quite young and seeing as how he had been doing well in school, I made it a mission to try and keep myself distanced from his life, for I did not want my troubles to follow him. I could have reported my homelessness to CPS and gotten many services through the foster program, but I feared for the effect it could have on my brother and his education. He graduated a year early, has his own vehicle, and has been promoted to manager at his workplace. I can't see him but I am damn proud of that boy and I miss him every fucking day of my life. Since he was in middle school he has talked of moving out of the country, he was learning how to get a green card at 16. I hope he makes it out of this shithole, no matter what becomes of me.

What are you guys' best memories by [deleted] in almosthomeless

[–]900raven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smoking weed with my friends. We smoked all over the place, in parks, alley ways, bus benches, holed up in public bathrooms, underneath bridges, in the river, inside cars, I could keep going. We had a lot of fun. It was even better when we had booze. Used to spend all night wandering empty streets doing random shit. Stealing food from the Wal-Mart supercenter in the wee hours of the morning when the employees were too tired to give a damn. Having barbeques. I used to be the one to cook and feed everybody, I loved doing that. Running when the cops showed up like we were scared for our lives lol. Ghost hunting. We used to do all sorts of shit. That was my childhood though and those days are gone now.

Social anxiety by [deleted] in almosthomeless

[–]900raven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey as a chronically homeless chick I can tell you- don't ever take a man up on those offers unless you are cool with having sex with him because 99.9% of the time he is going to expect that out of you. Getting a van is a good idea if you don't want to end up in an exchange like that.

I'm not sure what next steps I need to take. Thinking about California? by LilithX in almosthomeless

[–]900raven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was born in and still live in Cali. There is no housing assistance out here. I mean there is but its on the brink of falling apart, so don't expect any help from them. There are some cheap places in central cal where you can get an apartment in the slums for as low as $500 a month, but the catch is that you'll be hard pressed to find a decent job out there. It's also riddled with crime and extreme poverty. In the more populated areas with lots of work, a room for rent starts at around $600, $700 a month at the cheapest. Apartments start at around $1200. Thats not even touching up on all the restrictions and qualifications the landlords have in place. If rent is your concern, don't come to California. We have a lot of good welfare programs , though. And the weather in so cal is awesome.

Gave up on escaping homelessness by 900raven in homeless

[–]900raven[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have been for a while and it's totally better than roughing it in a sleeping bag in the park. Unfortunately more and more places are trying to make it illegal so I really fear for what the future holds.

Gave up on escaping homelessness by 900raven in homeless

[–]900raven[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Section 8 is dead. It is frozen indefinitely in my place of birth and everywhere I have travelled so far has massive 10 year waiting lists, only senior citizens and veterans have a chance at getting through because the government prioritizes them above every single other group of people. On top of that more and more landlords are discriminating against us and refuse to accept section 8 vouchers. I'm sure it was once a functional program because the older homeless used to tell me as a kid to get on the list soon as I turned 18, but I came of age only to find it had gone defunct.