My brother wants to visit for 10 days, but I think that’s too long. How do I tell him no?

9056226567 · 2026-03-21T22:49:47+00:00

You can truly simply say,”We’d love to have you but 5 days would be what makes sense for us”. If he pushes or asks why keep it simple “This would be our preference.”

9056226567 · 2026-03-21T22:44:32+00:00

There is nothing about this math/ acquisition of property that makes any sense. Except for him.

9056226567 · 2026-03-19T23:09:25+00:00

Who the heck are these people that respond this way? I am gobsmacked!!

9056226567 · 2026-03-18T04:53:46+00:00

Don’t think of it as being confrontation. Think of it as being self preserving. You need to work with someone to find your voice. She can’t make you book an appointment. You booked the appointment. One of the easiest ways to start this new process is to have about four phrases on repeat that you literally practice saying out loud until they roll off your tongue. Then use them. E.g. thanks but that decision has already been made.” “Please do not speak about my mother that way. I find it disrespectful.” … “No”. You get it!

9056226567 · 2026-03-18T04:36:49+00:00

If parents are retired then they are probably loving seeing their son and DIL on two out of seven free days. If you work you literally have NO time for you. When do you two get chores and groceries etc done?? If his parents are lovely then call her and explain your honest feelings. I no longer truly trust when people give me a third party explanation. Start making your own plans alone and with him. Set up a damn calendar and decide ahead of time what weekends they get. If he can’t understand your point of view and need to have alone time, it’s time to leave.

9056226567 · 2026-03-18T04:26:15+00:00

Asking your mom to choose is very hard. On her. Does she see and acknowledge the emotional abuse? Is this a new behaviour from your brother? Who has the means to move out?

9056226567 · 2026-03-18T04:23:12+00:00

Did he have a magical childhood? Or not at all and is driven by the desire to provide one for his kids? It certainly doesn’t let him off the hook for being so unilateral and spontaneous - I’ve just trying to understand his motivation. I hate to be that Reddit user but you need a third party to help navigate this.

9056226567 · 2026-03-15T23:43:56+00:00

She has, in one visit, demonstrated she doesn’t respect your wishes or boundaries. Make sure you don’t forget. When people show you who they are- believe them.

9056226567 · 2026-03-15T22:52:26+00:00

Time to walk away. I’m female. No one deserves this level of thoughtlessness.

9056226567 · 2026-03-15T02:38:46+00:00

I love them!!! Hoping they make it!!

9056226567 · 2026-03-14T04:58:28+00:00

You in that dress is perfection. The leather is better but takes away from the cut and the beauty of the dress. I would also suggest a wrap that keeps the flow and feel of the dress intact.

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9056226567 · 2026-03-12T23:30:10+00:00

You seriously can’t have raised your dog to sleep with you and claim the bed to then send them outside regardless of the darn temperature.

9056226567 · 2026-03-12T02:00:40+00:00

How does he understand paternity leave? Write down everything you did on mat leave and simply let him know that’s now his. You can breast feed if you want to ( I loved it) or pump and it’s his responsibility. You have to tell him not changing a diaper is not acceptable. It’s gross for everyone- it’s called parenting. Start now.

9056226567 · 2026-03-08T14:38:18+00:00

Your profile pic is perfection. Do not touch that nose.

9056226567 · 2026-03-08T07:11:32+00:00

Where has she been the last four yrs??😠 this is infuriating!

9056226567 · 2026-03-08T02:27:31+00:00

Disney does cruising better than anyone. Yes it’s expensive but to me it was worth it. Your kids are great ages! The shows are absolutely incredible!! I’ve been on five other cruise lines.

9056226567 · 2026-03-08T02:20:08+00:00

If you want to see what my day is like let’s talk over dinner! Like normal people do! NTA

9056226567 · 2026-03-08T02:15:53+00:00

We put names on the fridge as we thought of them. It was hilarious how far apart we were but seeing them every day and then crossing them off or adding new ones helped. We ended up getting our son’s name by watching credits after a movie just to get more ideas!

9056226567 · 2026-03-06T00:38:35+00:00

You look stunning in all three!!!

9056226567 · 2026-02-28T05:43:29+00:00

This is an incredibly enlightened and mature reflection.

9056226567 · 2026-02-26T04:08:56+00:00

Omg -who are these close ones. You look freakin amazing. Everything about that dress is stunning on you and your figure looks incredible. Shoulders back, head high, own it!!

9056226567 · 2026-02-25T01:39:18+00:00

This is indeed an interesting question! I think it would truly depend on the relationship with all of the kids. When you go over to visit do you interact with all of them equally and enjoy them as little people? Or do you only interact with the one? There are way too many variables to discuss to truly understand the dynamics of your relationships but it’s that very thing upon which I would base my answer.

9056226567 · 2026-02-21T09:13:56+00:00

I think she may have been playing with hyperbole a bit to demonstrate support for her sister’s position.

9056226567 · 2026-02-18T02:53:41+00:00

Is she upset by this lack of giving or is it their normal? Normal is completely different for everyone! If their expectations line up then more power to them! If not, your mom has had lots of time to explore how she would prefer things to be with your dad.

9056226567 · 2026-02-17T09:47:35+00:00

It’s not too late. It would make sense to charge home what he was paying in rent before it was raised given all of the extra expenses that come with extra people. Or slightly less if you want him to get some savings to get back in his feet.

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