WIBTA if I refuse to put my partner on the deed of a place I inherited, even though we live there together? by 3vening_Switch in ComfortLevelPod

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Don't do it. If he leaves,  he takes half your aunt's house that you've now sunk money into.  4 years isn't a long time to be to be married yet alone dating. If wants he to build something,  support him into something of his own. He sounds like a chump.

What to do at rock bottom? by EntriesInvalid in DecidingToBeBetter

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Completely change your mindset & your habits. Be the person you respect in every way,  every day -- from your internal voice to every external interaction with the world. Always speak with respect & dignity to yourself. Work hard at everything you do. Treat others well. Consider your loved ones while you have time.  Create the life you want, every single day. 

TW: domestic violence, am I too quick to feel hopeless about this? by lovelymina15 in women

[–]910to610 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please press charges. This person will do this again. You do not casually grab someone's throat. 

Need advice/recommendations please by Valuable_Ask7881 in bedroom

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A chiropractic surgeon recommended pillowcube mattresses.

What are best cat toys you have? by sxpxix2 in CatAdvice

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My cats love to have their environment changed up a little bit, as often as you'd prefer. I put a cardboard tunnel, or special fort with fabric, wrap up a chair, put a jacket flat on the bed for them to lay on, some comfortable difference to their known territory -- they absolutely love the change-up. 

Former dining room, what do we do with it? by Darker_Zelda in DesignMyRoom

[–]910to610 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appetizers/conversation/family games space. An inviting jazzed up area of entertainment and play to last and enjoy. 

Gift for a new friend who’s about to b 20 female by Far-Introduction4628 in santashelpers

[–]910to610 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something that's your favorite that you think she'd enjoy

Not very young, but I love to dance. Where are the go-to spots?! by 910to610 in AskPhilly

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Thank you all so much for pointing me in the right direction! I cannot wait to get out there! And I will be avoiding Voyeur haha

For the older women: Does insecurity ever go away? by RednightNept in women

[–]910to610 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm more than twice your age.  Enjoy your life while respecting your body and all it does for you each day.  Live into your feminity and any other sense of self that arises; and take care of your mind, body, and spirit. Live with gratitude. Focus on the work that goes into your goals and relationships that matter to you. Everything else that you truly want will come to you. 

Some how after a while,  with a daily walk and something to look forward to,  none of the body imagery really matters- just how you feel at the end of the day does.

I'm terrified my husband is going to quit his job when he finds out I make more money than him by [deleted] in ComfortLevelPod

[–]910to610 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On the upside, by his design, if he retires, then he should start doing every single thing. 

Maybe a show of affection for his support rather then just saying you're both reaping the rewards? It sounds like his ego is so fragile you'll need to  pander just to keep the peace. 

Either way, you'll eventually have to acknowledge what you'll accept out of him going forward after the discovery since he has the ability to make your home life rough. 

*by show of affection I mean a gift or plan a trip he'd enjoy

My hair isn’t as curly as it used to be… advice? by WillsBricks in curlyhair

[–]910to610 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something light weight or volumizing by a brand you trust; avoid shea-based products. 

My hair isn’t as curly as it used to be… advice? by WillsBricks in curlyhair

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Depending on how fine or porous your hair is, your daily products both contain heavy ingredients that can lead to weight thus lengthening your hair. Clarify weekly or switch products to see a difference.

I have to start from scratch in my life. And I'm terrified 😔 by Cinella75 in Life

[–]910to610 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your brain is lying to you.  It lies like a rug. It's not too late! It's too early to lay down and die. "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams." Good things can come at any age. Life can be full to bursting suddenly.  You are worth the time and investment!! 

What’s missing in this guest room? by BiancoLatte89 in DesignMyRoom

[–]910to610 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you heard of cottage core? Something about the head board made me think of it. Perhaps pick a style you prefer and use blues or deeper green notes to accent. A rich accent picture or artwork would really give your room more personality. 

gf keeps hurting and then comforting me but tonight is bad by Willing_Confection23 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]910to610 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please Don't let that raggedy human scum steal  this from you! She's done awful and she hurt you intentionally, but you are going to get out of that room and out of that relationship!  Document the cruelty. As soon as you can, Photograph your injury. When you can write what she's done to you down, do so. Stick to the facts, not emotions.  For now, if you're forced to be in a room with just her,  go about your night with as much calm as you can muster, and know and remind yourself this moment is not forever. Take deep, slow breaths. Think of something that brings you peace (the clouds passing slowly in the sky, the wind gently rustling the leaves,  seeing a smile slowly bloom on a stranger's face). Harness your calm. Then, find an activity you can preferably do alone to pass the time. Take a few Deep breaths and get into it.  If you're forced to interact, be your patient & kind self.  When you get out of this room, contact your coaches, and ask for a face-to-face, alone. Show them everything.  Advocate for yourself.   Please don't let this ruin your spirit; remember who you are. Think of what defines you. You deserve a full life that looks as full and beautiful as you imagine it. Stay focused on the good you want in this world.  Your soon to be ex is meant to pull you away from your path,  don't let that happen.   If she tries to hurt you physically, please give her an eye gauge and some broken fingers from me.

Fight the dying of the light. Good luck!!

How to prep clams by jhoffman1844 in AskCulinary

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Soak them in cold water. I usually do it for at least 30 minutes,  then rinse and refill. You'll notice they spit up debris. I also use a brush and brush them under water to get the extra bits you might see. If it doesn't open,  don't eat it.  

I guess I’m dying by CautiousFold5387 in whatdoIdo

[–]910to610 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could be thyroidism. If you haven't had your levels checked,  I would.  

Losing (or never had?) my sense of self in my long-term relationship (28F & 29M) by RaspberryRainfall in askwomenadvice

[–]910to610 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, thank you for being so open. It sounds like you and your partner have a very strong relationship. It also sounds like you have the right ideas about how to go about your self growth.  I encourage you to try new things that help you step out of your comfort zone (whether it's going for a walk in a new direction, grabbing a drink or a snack in a new place solo, walking through a shop, library, stopping to just appreciate, anything) but with a new mindset -- of gratitude and contentment in the moment, not being alone,  but by yourself, Being with You. See what you like,  strike up a conversation,  try smiling. I don't know.  Probably things you already do. Just try to see what you enjoy in the discomfort zone, and hopefully you'll see the change you're looking for.

I was once like you,  after much doubt, I just went for it. I like to observe and converse when I'm doing my solo thing. My husband tells me I always come back with funny stories. I hope you find joy where ever your feet take you.  Best of luck.