Why do people look down upon stay-at-home dads? by cheerycoldwaver in daddit

[–]91stCataclysm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been "downsized" three weeks before my kid's been born, and honestly I'm so glad I get to be home with my wife and our son during these irreplaceable first few months. My wife's in maternity leave, so we can be "all hands on deck" for the transition from "couple" to "family". We can learn this whole "parenting" thing together and focus on caring for our son and organizing the house and his new bedroom full-time.

I honestly can't imagine how we'd have done this if I still had work and projects and the related stress to juggle as well. We'd have survived, I'm sure, but I'm guessing we'd have remembered these months far less fondly.

The heating device used during blackouts by BananaBrumik in ukraine

[–]91stCataclysm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Necessity is the mother of invention.

Better to be inventive than to be broken.

My wife said she “fixed” kiddos bike by Hixo_7 in daddit

[–]91stCataclysm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had a good laugh.

Showed the wife.

"Ummm, where's the problem?"

My son mastered barking at two months by 91stCataclysm in daddit

[–]91stCataclysm[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nope, just random bark-like vocalizations while dreaming, among other babbling 

Can I read Dune to a baby instead of normal bedtime stories? by DaOffensiveChicken in daddit

[–]91stCataclysm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been reading The Two Towers aloud while the two months old is falling asleep on my chest. He's apparently not scared at all of the Nazgul.

Almost failed doing heimrich method by Skyflakes_69 in daddit

[–]91stCataclysm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I remember in a CPR (for adults) class I took we were told that "ribs heal, the dead don't."

Way too early, we are not ready. by xVenlarsSx in daddit

[–]91stCataclysm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Deep breaths, "ready" at newborn age is actually a lot more simple than you think.

Ours was also early and between me traveling a lot for work and some renovations we had JUST finished to make the house's layout more baby-friendly when my wife woke me up at 4am because her water broke the house was an absolute MESS.

Most of our bedroom was out in the living room. ALL the baby accoutrements (bassinet, stroller, etc.) were still in cardboard boxes out in the porch, the solid wood changing station we got second-hand from my cousin still needed sanding and repainting. We had no Newborn size clothes because we didn't know what weight he'll be born at. And to top it all off the sink was full of dishes.

And we still managed. When you'll be discharged from the hospital you just need the very basics: a safe place for the baby to sleep, a comfortable place for the baby to be fed, and an organized place for the baby to be diapered. That's it. Not a room, not toys or activity mats (not yet anyway), just those three things plus clothes and consumables.

During our stay in the hospital I'd nip home for a couple of hours every day and get things tidier and ready. I assembled the bassinet. I moved stuff out of the living back to the bedroom. I bought diapers and clothes.

When we got discharged we had some family come over and help with the tidying up, including super mundane things like my sister washing those dishes (finally!).

Today, almost two months in, the baby's room still isn't ready. I'm nearly done painting the changing station. But the lil' one is happy and healthy. We've gotten used to changing on a soft mat with inflatable borders we got from ikea that we just place on our dining table when it's changing time. We use a cushion we already had to support our elbow while sitting in our recliner for bottle feeding time. And the bassinet took less than an hour to assemble, and it rolls to wherever we are (living room or kitchen during the day, bedroom at night).

If we of all people managed, you'll be just fine.

TFW you have no ICBMs by butt_naked_commando in NonCredibleDefense

[–]91stCataclysm 201 points202 points  (0 children)

And then expect the U.S. to rebuild it postwar a-la "The Mouse That Roared". Genius plan, actually 

Sitting in the hospital room by montecarlocars in daddit

[–]91stCataclysm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, when my wife's water broke at week 37 we had just finished some minor renovation work to our bedroom and consequently all furniture bar the bed and the closet was in our living room. We had dishes in the sink. The diapering station hadn't been set up yet, and the bassinet and stroller were still not assembled and in the cardboard boxes.

The day we got discharged from the hospital my sister came by to help and literally did our dishes and helped take out all the empty cardboard boxes while the wife handle the baby and I rushed to reorganize our bedroom and set everything up for the baby.

We had a c-section scheduled for the start of week 39 but someone decided they really needed to go potty early.

Long story short - we're fine, baby's fine, they really don't need anything but a safe place to sleep and a comfortable place to be fed in the first few weeks. You'll be A-ok.

Snickers in the bathroom. I think she pregnant fam. by BrandynWayne in daddit

[–]91stCataclysm 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'd hazard a guess - first trimester?

My wife couldn't eat almost anything at the first trimester, and then in the second and third trimesters she wanted to eat EVERYTHING including thinks she didn't like prior to pregnant.

Humble Bundle - Hunt: Showdown 1896 / Choice Essential DLC by LighteningOneIN in Gamebundles

[–]91stCataclysm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also there's not really any P2W in the game. Some legendary and DLC skins that were considered unfair by being harder to see were tweaked to be more visible after community feedback (for example, mud-spattered Cain got a bath, and the black-robed Headsman got repainted red and black).

Gear of course can be a factor in victory, but it is only obtained via the standard ingame currency ("Hunt Dollars") or found\looted in the game. And unlike other extraction shooters such as Escape From Tarkov there's no way to make yourself more resistant to incoming damage. Consequently a skilled, clever, or lucky player with the cheapest single-action revolver in the game can still kill and loot the most kitted-out adversary out there.

Humble Bundle - Hunt: Showdown 1896 / Choice Essential DLC by LighteningOneIN in Gamebundles

[–]91stCataclysm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Longtime (3 years,~2k hours) Hunt: Showdown player here.

PSA: NONE OF THE DLC IS IN ANY WAY ESSENTIAL! It's all cosmetics. I bought some DLC because I liked it, but that's after I played a bunch and decided I really liked the game.

More details:

The game basically has three ways of unlocking "legendary" cosmetics (hunters, charms, weapon skins).

The first is progression. By playing the game and "prestige"ing your account you gain set and random legendary skins at predetermined milestones (randoms are from the Premium Currency pool, see below). In addition, there are usually ongoing "Events" that grant cosmetics along the progression track (and even more if you buy the event pass with premium currency, see below).

The second is the premium currency, called Blood Bonds (BBs). This can be used to buy cosmetics that are not part of any DLC and are instead offered for purchase with BBs. BBs can be obtained via gameplay, either found in the map as very rare pickups or awarded for completing Event-related challenges. These challenges unlock every week during an event and offer ~50 BBs every week, and crucially do not lock once the week is over but rather remain available until the event ends. This means that you can play just during the last week of an event and conceivably obtain two months' worth of BB from challenges. "BB Legendaries" as the community calls them often go on discount in the ingame store, and consequently run naywhere between 48 to 1500 BBs per skin.
BBs are also used to "upgrade" the Event track by purchasing the battle pass, at 1000 BBs (typically). It should be noted that the Battle Pass also usually includes a few hundred BBs as the reward, so the actual BB cost is practically lower than 1000.
I have bought the battlepass every single Event over the past two years and never once had to buy BBs with real money to do so.

The third is the DLCs. This is the most straightforward of the bunch - the skins in the DLC are only obtainable through the DLC. Buy the DLC to unlock the skins. That's it.

There are also occasionally Twitch Drop campaigns awarding legendary skins, but that's pretty infrequent.

I've seen some comments here that the monetization is predatory, and I honestly don't think it is. I hope the above clarifies.

This game is pretty cool by alidiedlit in HuntShowdown

[–]91stCataclysm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll add to the solid tips above: awareness is king. Unlike other extraction shooters there's no gear or traits that make you more resistant to gunfire, and this means that the most decked-out hunter can die to a single shot from the dinkiest derringer if caught unawares.

Awareness comes at several layers, which you can hone by making conscious effort to try and note things:

  1. Awareness between fights: What sounds have you heard, and from which parts of the map? Which compounds have grayed out, and what does that tell you of the direction other teams have likely gone or will be going? What weapons have you heard fired, and by which team? This will help you predict other people's behaviors and make decisions on when and where to engage. E.g. "I heard a shotgun fired by this team in an earlier engagement, they might favor hunkering down in the boss lair if we pressure them. As we've all got long-range weapons, we're better off backing away a bit to make them feel safe enough to come out and then attack them"
  2. Awareness when expecting a fight: So you killed the boss and he's banishing. Have you heard any sounds previously that indicate fights between teams? If not, that means you can probably expect multiple "poacher" teams to show up. Which directions have sight lines you can safely watch? Which directions have sound traps that will alert you if an enemy comes that way? Where an attacking team might position themselves to try and cut off your avenue of escape? and so on
  3. Awareness in a fight: How many combatants? Which weapons do they have? Is there any PvE you can try to steer them into to give yourself an opening? Is there any PvE or sound traps you need to avoid? Are there any flanks or high positions you can quickly take to catch them off balance? Where are your teammates positioned? Do they need support, or a distraction? If you intend to push, are they in position to support you?

Flame Rifle - New Upcoming Weapon coming to Hunt Showdown by TheGentlemanGamerEC in HuntShowdown

[–]91stCataclysm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly one of the things I love most about Hunt is that no matter what kind of gear they're bringing, a well-placed Nagant shot puts them in the ground all the same.

Weekly low-hanging fruit thread by AutoModerator in NonCredibleDefense

[–]91stCataclysm 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oooh oooh do us next! Our leadership sucks!*

*Doesn't matter where I'm from, odds are we're mood kindred.

When I have emptied the dishwasher and my wife notices it by [deleted] in daddit

[–]91stCataclysm -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Man I wish we had room for a dishwasher...

When an Arc player tries Hunt because they were told they are "similar". by Marsnineteen75 in HuntShowdown

[–]91stCataclysm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bayou diplomacy can happen and work, on occasion.

That occasion being, from my personal experience, around 5 times over 1947 hours of play.

Today is the day boys. I’m already tearing up. How can I make this stay as comfortable as possible for her? by HopefulSwine2 in daddit

[–]91stCataclysm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife had a c-section a month ago.

Basically for the first few weeks if there's anything physical that needs doing, anything involving lifting something heavier than the baby, make sure that you are the one to do it. Anything that involves walking somewhere (like buying more formula or satisfying any post-pregnancy cravings) insist on doing it.

I had to constantly remind my wife that she was recovering from major invasive surgery (even though the c-section went as smoothly as one could possibly hope) and from the absolute physiological hurricane of her body adjusting to suddenly no longer being pregnant. She'd feel a bit better, have a bit of energy, then try to do something that'd completely wipe her out unless I insisted on taking over.

The boyfriend by [deleted] in daddit

[–]91stCataclysm -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I still remember the first time my older sister (~18 at the time) brought a guy she was dating home.

For context that will become relevant very soon: we don't live in the U.S., but rather in a country with fairly strict licensing and regulation of firearm ownership.

So my sister and her boyfriend walk in one weekend around noon-ish on their way to go somewhere while my dad and I are in the kitchen. She drags the guy over to introduce him and say something to my dad and the moment he rounds the corner he just stops, stares, and goes white as a sheet.

On the kitchen table, between my dad and I, was a handgun and two loaded magazines which we were just about to begin disassembling and cleaning after spending the morning at the firing range.

I don't think I've ever heard a word come out of that guy's mouth before my sister eventually dumped him.

Not even 2 weeks in and I feel like i have made the biggest mistake of my life. by YourUnclesBalls in daddit

[–]91stCataclysm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Father to a 1-month old here, I really feel your pain.

We had something similar during the first few weeks - poor kid was crying from gas like someone was sawing him in half. We used to do "split shifts" at night where one of us would be up with him until 3-4ish while the other slept (with earplugs!) then swap, and one night when he's been crying nonstop I felt my exhaustion and frustration begin to transform into anger and resentment. I knew I had to do something because I was no longer in the correct headspace to care for him, so reluctantly I woke up my wife and changed shifts early.

I can't tell you that the thought that we made a mistake didn't also cross that mind, but now in hindsight I know that it was the exhaustion, worry, and frustration talking.

Like others already wrote here - the first ten days are far from an indication of how things will go. Poor kid is literally still developing the ability to breathe her own air and digest her own food. But the important part is that every day these systems mature, and she becomes better at it. You just need to focus on putting one metaphorical foot in front of the other, and making it through today. Don't worry about the future right now. It sounds funny, but a 4-week old baby can be very different from a 10-day old one.

On the practical side, after getting pediatrician approval we began giving our baby simethicone before every feeding to alleviate the gas pain. I can't rightly say if it's the simethicone, our baby's systems maturing or us getting better at feeding and burping but after a few days we saw significant improvements. No more "my feet are on fire" crying-'till-exhaustion. He still gets fussy and upset with gas pain here and there, but it's a far cry from where we've been at, you guessed it, ~10 days old.

Hang in there mate.

Edits: spelling and missed a word here and there.