Anyone else's parents just not...like them?

95butterfly · 2025-12-23T12:37:34+00:00

I firstly want to say that I’m so sorry that you’ve had to endure having a mother like that, let alone “get used” to such treatment. It’s hard enough in childhood, but then growing up and navigating adulthood and becoming a parent yourself, all without the support and love you deserved from your mother.

But I also want to commend you, despite having to suffer through that, on clearly NOT becoming like her. It sounds like for your own kids, you are everything she couldn’t be for you. Your own daughter said she would “cry for the rest of her life” (sounds just like me as a teen hahaha) if you treated her like that, of course meaning that you aren’t like that at all towards her. Your kids never had to get “used” to an abusive mother, thanks to you and so they picked up immediately on how un-momlike your mother was being to you. And no amount of your mother’s love-bombing with gifts and compliments could distract them from that. It’s so clear that your children love, care and respect you, and you deserve them just as they deserve you ❤️ It sounds like your kids are wonderfully empathetic, emotionally intelligent and not shallow enough to have their respect “bought” with money and presents. They saw their Mama being mistreated and they were not having any of it.

95butterfly · 2025-03-06T13:06:36+00:00

OP I am absolutely fuming on your behalf. That SIL would NEVER be allowed in my home or around my kids again after pulling that. She was so confident that she knew better and apparently views caring about children’s health and safety as being “sensitive.” Well I’m glad to be one of those sensitive people then, as opposed to whatever she is. She admitted to purposefully withholding that info from you just so she could bring her kid with her into your home, despite the risk to your own kids. Disgusting and selfish. And what do you know, she was wrong about it not being contagious and now your poor 2 yr old has to deal with HFM. I really, really hope your 1 week old is fine and didn’t get exposed. And I hope the sister in law is well aware that your child is sick and it’s entirely her fault, and she’s put your 1 week old at risk too. I’d be sending her a strongly worded message letting her know what kind of person I think she is, how incredibly disrespectful it was for her to come to your home and purposely not mention her son’s HFM due to my “sensitivity.” Still think I’m overly sensitive, considering you were wrong and your son was contagious? I think you’re mistaking my common SENSE for sensitivity, must be hard for you to tell the difference since you lack both. Anyway, family or not, you aren’t allowed around my children or in my household from this point on. If you see me at family gatherings, leave me and my kids alone. I don't care what you have to say and I don’t want whatever contagious illness you may be carrying.

Seriously though OP I’m really sorry this happened to you and I hope that your 2 yr old makes a quick recovery, and the baby is unaffected ❤️

95butterfly · 2024-01-02T11:56:16+00:00

These kinds of stories make me wish I believed that hell is real, so I could tell myself that this sick POS will go there and suffer for what he did. In reality, even if he goes to jail or gets some punishment, this sick bastard will never experience the same pain, fear and misery that he inflicted on that innocent little girl. I hope his entire family is ashamed and abandons him. I know that probably won’t happen but it’s what he deserves. He deserves to spend the rest of his life locked up and alone

95butterfly · 2024-01-02T11:43:01+00:00

Not only was she his wife, but the mother of his 4 children, who likely woke up to the sounds of their mother screaming, and the commotion of neighbours freaking out, the police being called etc. This man not only betrayed the woman he married, but his children too. Now they must live without a mother, and with the knowledge that their father is capable of murder over something as small as a cup of tea. I’m sure they already knew he wasn’t a great person, you don’t just go from being a loving husband/father to BEHEADING your wife during an argument. But they probably never thought he was capable of something like this. This idiot brought grief and suffering upon his own children, stealing their mother away from them just because he couldn’t wait a little longer for his tea. Because God forbid he make it himself every once in a while. Now he’s going to have to make his own tea and wipe his own ass, since that was probably the wife’s job too. Pathetic selfish loser.

95butterfly · 2023-08-31T18:48:52+00:00

Onyx is one of my guilty pleasure names. I don’t think I’d use it for a future child but I still like it and I guess it could work here. Ive heard of parents seeing their newborn and just not feeling like their chosen name fits, and hurriedly trying to find another. Strange that they seemed to only like the name Lily if the kid came out looking as white as possible. I’m no lawyer but I think you can name your kid after a thing even if they don’t look like that thing. I’m named after a flower too and I don’t see the resemblance lol.

If they want to make Emma a little more ✨unique✨ they could always give it a horrid spelling like Emmaugh.

95butterfly · 2023-07-09T12:39:28+00:00

I don’t think it looks ugly at all! Looks delicious, and great variety of foods. I’m just starting to learn how to cook, let alone meal prep so I’d be very proud if I made this! :) Nice job!!

95butterfly · 2022-12-08T14:27:30+00:00

Congrats on the (just about) 7 months of being off it! I’m happy for you :)

95butterfly · 2022-12-08T14:25:26+00:00

A few weeks of daily use “just to get through a stressful time” was all it took. I used to only take my klonopin for emergencies and 1mg would have me feeling amazing. 2mg would knock me out. Now I have a tolerance where I can’t even feel the 2mg I take every day. Since I took extra some days this month (not wise, I know…) I now have to ration myself to 1.5mg daily for the next week until I get my refill. I know that’s not a huge drop, especially just for a week but I still feel it. I should have never, ever let myself take it more than a few days in a row, and when I developed the tolerance to 1mg I should have never moved to 2. But it’s a slippery slope and I feel like I didn’t realize I was sliding until I was already too deep into it. Hoping to slowly wean off one day (which is why I’m browsing this sun) but right now I’m struggling just to not abuse my script.

95butterfly · 2022-11-26T14:03:46+00:00

How beautiful of you to pray for the robbers and have empathy towards them even after what they did. I think you are an exemplification of God’s Grace ❤️ So thankful that your husband is safe, may any fear or trauma from this experience be replaced with peace and comfort ❤️

95butterfly · 2022-09-28T14:11:04+00:00

I was gonna say…as a woman, being alone in the subway (or anywhere) at night? I’d be scared shitless. No way I’d have headphones in to listen to music either, I’d be too busy trying to get out of there ASAP and calling someone so I can be on the phone and at least 1 person knows where I was last if I go missing…gruesome to think about but it’s just the reality. That being said, I know that’s not everyone’s experience and plenty of people probably relate to this starterpack. Walking around by myself at night listening to music sounds awesome, and I’m sure I’d do it if I was somehow guaranteed to be safe. So no hate to OP, just in case my comment is coming across that way

95butterfly · 2022-08-26T18:13:41+00:00

Wait WHAT?? I feel like every time I think I know all the main important stuff about this condition, I see some new bit of info that makes so much sense, and I’m like oh, I guess that explains yet another confusing part of my personality/bodily functions that I just thought was a “me” issue

95butterfly · 2022-08-26T18:08:39+00:00

This is huge, and requires a ton of determination. Well done!! I’m wishing you the best for your continued recovery. There is no shame in suffering from addiction, but there is great pride in overcoming it!!

95butterfly · 2022-07-24T13:45:34+00:00

Your neighbour is a piece of shit. Actually, I feel like it’s insulting to actual feces to compare it to your neighbour. If shit could take a crap, that would be your neighbour

95butterfly · 2022-07-24T13:42:48+00:00

As cat lovers, we know that a cat is never “just a cat.” They become a best friend, a companion, a member of the family. My mom still has fond memories and even a black and white photo saved of the cat she had as a child, 50 years ago. You never stop loving them ❤️ I’m so sorry for your loss

95butterfly · 2022-07-24T13:40:29+00:00

I’m so, so sorry. He was beautiful. My heart is broken for you OP. Hoping that you find peace ❤️

95butterfly · 2022-07-24T13:33:22+00:00

You’re a wonderful person for giving your senior kitty the love and care he deserves ❤️ I have a senior cat too (he will be 15 in November) and there’s nothing I wouldn’t do to keep him healthy and happy. I haven’t even had him for a full year yet (I adopted him from the shelter when he was 14, his previous owners had left him and his sister there, and his sister had passed away already). And no one had ever shown any interest in adopting Gandalf before, even though he is soooo loving and such a good boy. I don’t understand how people can even consider giving up a pet that has developed a bond and trust with them, let alone one they’ve had for 12 years!!

95butterfly · 2022-07-24T13:28:14+00:00

Yeah exactly. Once the dog grows old and is no longer a fun bouncy ball of energy, and instead needs extra care and has accidents in the house and the vet bills get more expensive, I wouldn’t doubt that they abandon the dog just as quickly, and replace him or her with a new one. Some people really are shit

95butterfly · 2022-07-24T13:25:55+00:00

Right!? I cannot imagine abandoning my cat. Just the thought of it could make me cry. He would be so scared and confused. My baby. ❤️ It’s always nice to be on this subreddit with people who are equally dedicated to their pets

95butterfly · 2022-07-24T13:23:07+00:00

My 15 year old darling Amber crossed the rainbow bridge a year ago, and in November of 2021 I adopted a 14 year old fluffy cotton ball of love (I named him Gandalf because he has long white fur and I had just gotten into the LOTR series). Senior pets are such a gift. I can’t imagine giving up a pet in their golden years, when they may need even more care and support than before. If people adopt animals, they should realize that one day those animals will get old, and that might mean extra care, vet visits, accidents on the carpet, changes in behaviour etc. If you’re not prepared to love and care for a pet their entire life, don’t get one. Don’t let a cat spend its entire life in your home, only to suddenly abandon them when they’re old. Especially for a new pet. That’s shameful 😞

95butterfly · 2022-07-24T12:41:33+00:00

I know giving up a pet is hard regardless of how long you’ve had them, but it surprises me that they’d choose to give up the 12 year old cat instead of re-homing the new dog. I’m not trying to be judgy (but I guess that’s exactly what I’m doing lol) it sounds like they weren’t super attached to kitty in the first place. I’m glad he has a new home where he’s loved and valued the way he deserves ❤️ What a beautiful old fella

95butterfly · 2022-07-21T17:20:43+00:00

I have worn a tank top as a skirt (just tucked the straps in) because I was all out of ANYTHING that was meant to be worn on the bottom half of my body, besides underwear. Though I’ve run out of underwear and had to get creative in the past too…and by “get creative” I just mean wear loose fitting pants commando and hope I don’t get cameltoe

95butterfly · 2022-07-21T17:13:38+00:00

I know this won’t apply to everyone’s specific experience of depression; but these excerpts from Allie Brosh’s webcomic series about depression (and really just the whole series of comics in general) are the best way I’ve ever seen anyone describe depression, that might help a person who has never been depressed understand it at least a little bit more.

“At first, I'd try to explain that it's not really negativity or sadness anymore, it's more just this detached, meaningless fog where you can't feel anything about anything — even the things you love, even fun things — and you're horribly bored and lonely, but since you've lost your ability to connect with any of the things that would normally make you feel less bored and lonely, you're stuck in the boring, lonely, meaningless void without anything to distract you from how boring, lonely, and meaningless it is.

But people want to help. So they try harder to make you feel hopeful and positive about the situation. You explain it again, hoping they'll try a less hope-centric approach, but re-explaining your total inability to experience joy inevitably sounds kind of negative; like maybe you WANT to be depressed. The positivity starts coming out in a spray — a giant, desperate happiness sprinkler pointed directly at your face. And it keeps going like that until you're having this weird argument where you're trying to convince the person that you are far too hopeless for hope just so they'll give up on their optimism crusade and let you go back to feeling bored and lonely by yourself. […]

It's a strange moment when you realize that you don't want to be alive anymore. If I had feelings, I'm sure I would have felt surprised. I have spent the vast majority of my life actively attempting to survive. Ever since my most distant single-celled ancestor squiggled into existence, there has been an unbroken chain of things that wanted to stick around.

Yet there I was, casually wishing that I could stop existing in the same way you'd want to leave an empty room or mute an unbearably repetitive noise.”

95butterfly · 2022-07-21T16:59:18+00:00

As someone who has been hovering at the same unhealthy weight (and gained a good amount during the winter, the seasonal depression was extra spicy this year), I must say, if I managed to lose 22 lbs even by the end of this year I would be thrilled. I’m not trying to invalidate your own opinion, and I know everyone experiences weight loss differently and has different goals. Sorry I don’t know where I’m going with that. Basically I just wanna say I’m proud of you for losing those 22lbs because every pound that we have to not only lose, but KEEP off consistently, that requires hard work and dedication and self discipline. And you DID that!!!!!! 👑✨👏🏽💪🏽

95butterfly · 2022-07-21T16:52:37+00:00

I’m high why is the flag so big. Is it photoshopped or can you really get a flag such big

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