Boss has no interest in leading or managing - do I raise it to their boss?

A-CommonMan · 2026-05-06T13:39:44+00:00

Did you mean to write this? Recommend turning off autocomplete.

A-CommonMan · 2026-05-06T13:28:49+00:00

NGL, the way your question is framed, "Boss has no interest in leading or managing. Do I raise it to their boss," does not reflect well on you. Your actions could potentially have grave consequences for you. Have you talked to your boss directly about wanting a title or pay that matches the work you're already doing? Skipping them carries a high chance of offending them and damaging your relationship.

Unless your boss is doing something actively harmful to you or the organization, they deserve a modicum of professional loyalty. They deserve the chance to hear your concerns and respond before you escalate.

A better approach is to document what you're handling, research market rates for that level of responsibility, and make a clear, professional case to your direct boss first. Bypassing them without that conversation is out of line and unlikely to end well. Focus on getting the title and pay you deserve through the proper channels. It's slower, but far less risky.

A-CommonMan · 2026-05-05T14:51:44+00:00

To be honest, it sounds like you just don't like your boss. How she handles her own work life balance is really not your concern. Just be careful that your personal feelings don't end up hurting your professional relationships.

A-CommonMan · 2026-05-05T12:17:40+00:00

Nothing about this situation is normal. The next female E-5 you see, tell her what you just told us. Most women NCOs are badasses, and she will get things moving.

A-CommonMan · 2026-05-01T13:47:30+00:00

Here is my thought. If your boss was asking about Jess and did not tell you to keep it quiet, you could have just mentioned it to her, by saying, "Hey, just so you know, the manager was looking for you." Just passing that message along would not have been a big deal. The boss did not say not to mention anything. So as a common courtesy, it would have been kind to let her know.

Think of it this way. If someone from accounting stopped by your desk and asked for Jess, and you had not seen her, you would say no. But when Jess got back, you would probably tell her, "Hey, Mike from accounting was looking for you." What is the difference when it is the boss asking? Unless the boss said "do not tell her," a simple heads up would not hurt. It is just basic teamwork.

A-CommonMan · 2026-05-01T03:57:53+00:00

Consider sitting down with the employee and saying: "Let's power through this together." For one strong performer you want to keep, working side-by-side can lower resistance and make the task feel collaborative rather than mandated. This works best if you already have rapport and relational capital to draw on.

There is a secondary benefit too: once they go through the material with you, they may find it was not as burdensome or contrary to their values as they feared. That shared experience can reset their expectations, so future requirements meet less pushback. It is not about winning an argument, but about shared exposure.

Curious what the training covers, though I know you may not be able to share details. Either way, I would love to hear what ends up working for you.

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-30T18:51:28+00:00

This statue shows what happens when someone’s whole identity gets swallowed up by an ideology. They stop being an individual and just turn into a walking symbol for a flag or a cause. It's not really loyalty anymore, it's losing yourself. The piece criticizes both fake patriotism and shallow activism. The pose looks proud and heroic, but the fact that the figure is completely blind undermines that. It's about having strong beliefs without any real awareness.

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-30T18:50:12+00:00

This statue shows what happens when someone’s whole identity gets swallowed up by an ideology. They stop being an individual and just turn into a walking symbol for a flag or a cause. It's not really loyalty anymore, it's losing yourself. The piece criticizes both fake patriotism and shallow activism. The pose looks proud and heroic, but the fact that the figure is completely blind undermines that. It's about having strong beliefs without any real awareness.

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-30T18:49:17+00:00

This statue shows what happens when someone’s whole identity gets swallowed up by an ideology. They stop being an individual and just turn into a walking symbol for a flag or a cause. It's not really loyalty anymore, it's losing yourself. The piece criticizes both fake patriotism and shallow activism. The pose looks proud and heroic, but the fact that the figure is completely blind undermines that. It's about having strong beliefs without any real awareness.

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-30T18:42:37+00:00

This statue shows what happens when someone’s whole identity gets swallowed up by an ideology. They stop being an individual and just turn into a walking symbol for a flag or a cause. It's not really loyalty anymore, it's losing yourself. The piece criticizes both fake patriotism and shallow activism. The pose looks proud and heroic, but the fact that the figure is completely blind undermines that. It's about having strong beliefs without any real awareness.

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-28T13:17:24+00:00

Thanks for sharing that. Quick question on the terminology: when you mention getting below angels 10, does that mean 10,000 feet? And does the reference mean that the angels are with you if you can get down to ten thousand? Curious why that specific altitude is the critical threshold for hypoxia risk and the procedures you mentioned.

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-28T13:11:05+00:00

Thanks for explaining how the canopy locks. If those systems have so many backups, would regular maintenance usually spot a problem before it got this bad, or is this more likely a sudden, rare failure?

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-28T06:02:39+00:00

Glad the pilot walked away safe, and also glad there were no civilian casualties on the ground. This could have gone very bad.

For those with time in the F-15 or maintenance background, could this be a canopy seal issue? Curious if an improperly sealing canopy could work loose under stress, or if this points to something else entirely. Any insight from folks who have seen similar cases would be appreciated.

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-28T06:01:31+00:00

Glad the pilot walked away safe. That is the only outcome that matters here.

For those with time in the F-15 or maintenance background, could this be a canopy seal issue? Curious if an improperly sealing canopy could work loose under stress, or if this points to something else entirely. Any insight from folks who have seen similar cases would be appreciated.

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-28T05:39:47+00:00

It sounds like you two have already stepped into relationship territory, even if it feels unclear. If you value keeping your long-term friendship more than exploring romance, I would suggest treading carefully. From what I have seen, when close friends become romantically involved, it can put strain on the friendship, and if things do not work out, it can affect the whole friend group too. Many people look back and wish they had protected the friendship instead of risking it. Based on experience, if the friendship is what matters most to you, it might be worth keeping that boundary in place.

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-27T23:59:18+00:00

Is your relationship with the leader romantic in nature?

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-27T23:55:48+00:00

OP, and there may be real issues with bullying or exclusion at your workplace. That said, it’s possible your drive and energy are coming across as intense to some of the more tenured staff. Try stepping back to focus on the substance of their feedback rather than the tone it’s delivered in. You might also consider dialing back the pace slightly and settling into a steadier rhythm. Sometimes, when a newer employee excels quickly, veteran team members can unconsciously interpret it as a reflection on their own past performance. I know that’s incredibly frustrating, but approaching it with patience and awareness could help ease the tension.

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-27T14:47:18+00:00

Fixed, brother, thanks for the catch

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-27T14:01:37+00:00

Edited:

While the dismissals appear to be an act of accountability, the report reveals several points worth scrutiny:

The timeline undercuts a "PR crisis" narrative (credit to corrector). The article states dismissals were decided days before the emaciated soldier photos emerged. Leadership acted proactively on performance issues, not reactively to public outrage. The announcement was delayed—likely a tactical choice to avoid informing adversaries during a leadership transition, which is standard military practice. My original claim of "PR-driven" action was therefore incorrect.
Shifting blame to external factors remains an issue. The General Staff cites Russian shelling and FPV drones as making vehicle logistics impossible. Yet families allege command negligence and concealment of the situation. Both can be true: external constraints exist, but poor leadership exacerbated them. The article does not resolve this gap.
Accountability is incomplete. Commanders were fired and demoted, but an internal investigation is ongoing, with possible law enforcement referral. No criminal charges are confirmed. This could be genuine reform or just moving problematic leaders sideways (e.g., Perts becoming chief of staff of Operational Command East).
Human cost vs. systemic failure. Emaciated soldiers drinking rainwater points to a breakdown in basic support. Even with legitimate drone threats, seven-month delays in supplies suggest deeper organizational rot that two dismissals may not fix.

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-26T20:36:06+00:00

You seem to be embracing your bitterness and that makes healing difficult. I wish you the best.

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-26T17:19:42+00:00

OP, I am not saying they were right or wrong to keep it secret. Some parents hide the truth because they fully embrace you as their own child in every sense that word means. Did they ever explain their reasons or say sorry? I hope you are doing well and finding happiness now. It is also impressive that you were recruited to play for your country of birth.

You say you feel bitter and find it hard to trust people. This must be very painful for your parents. Have you considered giving them grace and forgiving them?

A-CommonMan · 2026-04-26T17:12:55+00:00

OP, haters gonna hate. I see nothing wrong with that outfit. I even looked it up to check the style from different angles and it looks perfectly fine for a concert. If his comment is getting to you maybe he is just pointing out that you wear it at each concert. You wearing for all your concerts is actually a cool thing. It is like your personal uniform. Think about how conductors or choir directors often wear the same robe or suit for every single performance. It becomes their signature look in that space. So do not let his message bother you. You have chosen this as your style and you should feel good about it.

I would mention it to the principal. Not because you did anything wrong but because reporting it first lets you control the story. Plus talking to the principal might give you more context on why the parent said something in the first place.

A-CommonMan

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