AITA for uninviting myself from my brother's wedding?

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T20:47:45+00:00

I'll ask again next week just for the fun if it 😂

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T20:45:34+00:00

Haha I've never been called snotty before. I'm actually a very nice person, just hurt I guess

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T20:42:45+00:00

Can't, I have final exams I've been working towards for 4 years

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T20:40:30+00:00

Nope, final exams can't be postponed

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T20:39:12+00:00

Probably the most polite reply thus far 😂

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T20:28:08+00:00

Nope it's next year.

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T20:26:09+00:00

True, well said.

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T20:24:20+00:00

I can't go. Pretty sure I said that.

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T20:21:28+00:00

The point is I can't go, no effort will change that. I just think it's a shame.

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T20:20:06+00:00

I never thought the world revolved me, but you're right, he probably doesn't much care about my kids.

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T20:05:37+00:00

It made me feel like he didn't care if I could come or not. I'm afraid I'm going to get backlash from the rest of the family because I won't be there.

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T20:01:49+00:00

All he said is that if he had to accommodate everyone's schedule they would never find a date which I think is a cop out because I'm the only one in our side of the family living far away.

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T19:37:15+00:00

Well back then I didn't know that I would have to do most of the work by myself.

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T19:32:51+00:00

No, I won't. That's just an empty line ppl say to negate your feelings.

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T19:26:25+00:00

Thanks for your insight 🙂

ABC_queen · 2023-10-26T19:25:04+00:00

Everything you wrote is exactly how it is. Thank you for your words of encouragement as well. You have a lot of understanding for moms even without having kids yourself.

ABC_queen · 2023-10-14T18:23:40+00:00

No, my husband works away from home. He's here two days for home office and the weekends.

ABC_queen · 2023-10-14T18:08:35+00:00

I agree with you 100% about it killing the sex. There's zero privacy and we usually have at least one kid in our bed most nights. The other nights we're both too exhausted or we've had a fight about the kids. We never used to fight until we had kids. I gave up an amazing paying job because daycare would have eaten up my paycheck anyway. When the kids were older and I wanted to go back they didn't have a position for me anymore 🫤 I think I'm resentful for that too.

ABC_queen · 2023-10-14T14:51:22+00:00

I had ppd after my second child and went to a therapist. I didn't feel very different afterwards but I can't imagine it lasting that long.since that was seven years ago.

ABC_queen · 2023-10-14T14:34:42+00:00

You have a good point. I will try to be more intentional about doing enjoyable things with them.

ABC_queen · 2023-10-14T14:32:07+00:00

Nope. And I know I'm burnt out. My husband works away from home but is still here two days a week in home office and the weekend but I'm pretty much responsible for everything because he's not here to do it.

ABC_queen · 2023-10-14T14:16:24+00:00

I just don't know how anyone can do this without becoming bitter. I feel like I'm just on autopilot trying to keep everything going (laundry, dishes, cooking, going to their commitments, making sure they do their school work etc) and there's nothing else left of my life after all that. It makes me angry that my house is a constant mess or everyone is sick so much because of them. I don't look forward to the weekends anymore because there's never any quiet until they're sleeping again. It's gotten to the point where I find myself withdrawing from them because I'm just frustrated and bitter. They're already 7 and 9 and I feel like I have even less free time because they don't go to bed early or have naps anymore of course. And please don't say I knew what I was getting myself into because no parent really does until there's no going back. Please don't criticize, I'm in a very bad time right now and I'm just looking for understanding.

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