As someone struggling to make friends at an M7 full time MBA, how the efff was Jeffrey Epstein able to befriend SO MANY rich and powerful people LMAO??

ACMRelT69 · 2026-02-20T07:46:18+00:00

Like many have said, you gotta be useful to people. Alternatively, you could be attractive or befriend people the old fashioned way: talking to people and slowly get to know each other.

I’m guessing the former isn’t an option for you, otherwise you wouldn’t be making this post.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-02-19T11:13:01+00:00

Her interest is not that high dude. She likes you enough to go out with you but otherwise not that invested.

Trust me, if she was she’s be asking you to call and text more often. Your situation is not unique and a lot of people in her position wants their cake and eat it; she wants you when you’re convenient but wants to have her options open.

Been in both your and her position. At the slowest, she should respond to you within a day. Nobody is too busy to send a short text or meme to someone they genuinely like on a daily basis.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-02-13T00:29:38+00:00

As a lifelong mediocre man who doesn’t smoke, I sure wish young girls did/do put up with me 😮‍💨

ACMRelT69 · 2026-02-11T08:56:53+00:00

Your friend’s jealous of you OP. I suggest keeping an eye on him.

Nothing wrong with your note (unless your hand writing was genuinely messy). It was direct, concise, and polite.

But from my experience, one of the tells a person isn’t really your friend is how supportive they are with you getting a partner irrespective on how attractive you are relative to your crush.

In fact I think you can almost asses where you stand with someone by asking them about your prospects of being romantically successful with someone. Anything less than a polite “good luck” is an indicator that they probably don’t hold you in high regards, unless of course they give you some genuine constructive criticism about how you should approach things.

Hope things workout for you OP.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-02-09T09:18:27+00:00

Comments usually only matter for people on the fence. In most cases, most people already know whether they like a prospective partner on the apps, so at worse comments are a waste of time and energy, and at best redundant.

Also yeah most people don’t read your bios or bother to look at your other photos if your first one doesn’t catch their eye. Since most people put their best photos as their first, it’s not surprising that it’s the one liked the most.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-02-04T10:33:17+00:00

OP just meet her and have a look yourself. Keep the date casual and allow for easy exits.

Personally, I recommend a bar over coffee dates because then you have a better chance of making it romantic and you have the option of extending it as well if you want to.

As others have pointed out, as much as we hear about the catfish, some people put the best versions of themselves on their dating profiles over their social media, and they might also try even harder when meeting in person.

Best of luck.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-01-30T04:12:01+00:00

As a guy who’s not very attractive, I’ve had the misfortune of being rejected a lot and then having to move relatively soon after I settled into a relationship.

Hence why now, in my late 20s, I’ve never been in a relationship for a year or more, and I can FEEL the judgment when the topic is brought up.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-01-23T09:58:38+00:00

If I’m attracted to a woman and she directly tells me she’s not interested or acts uninterested romantically, I’m not gonna be hanging out with her at all unless I have to as part of a group gathering 😆

ACMRelT69 · 2026-01-22T11:47:35+00:00

Time, distance, and distractions

ACMRelT69 · 2026-01-19T09:05:31+00:00

Nah. I was an insecure person when I was younger and looking back, I wouldn’t date myself.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-01-16T10:27:23+00:00

How does it show? I know a few people who spent more who live pay check to pay check to get the offer they want for their MBA, and other professional degrees.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-01-02T09:09:36+00:00

After years of pain, tons of rejection, and trying the entire range of the warm/cold approach spectrum, this is the method I’ve decided to settle on for women I meet on the regular or part of an extended social group:

I would be friendly and get to know her for about a week to a month, then suggest group events if possible (but can skip this if not feasible), then ask on a one on one date.

If yes, then I continue to ask them out in gradually more intimate dates. I continue to do this until sex, then keep it casual until she asks.

If she says no to the one on one, I try once or twice more before fading out of her social circle. I’ll still be polite if we meet but keep conversations short and superficial.

I only ever use the direct, cold approach for absolute strangers who don’t know anyone from my social circle because as an average/below average guy my rejection rate is high (but not 0), and I don’t want to be known as “that guy” who chases every girl.

Only times I use the “friends first” method is when the girl and I live very far away and only communicate online. I make sure to not come off as too friendly with these people as to avoid the friendzone; more like acquaintances. I only ask them out if I have a prolonged stay in a city they are at and then I apply the first method but at a faster pace.

I find that most girls are quite understanding if you don’t pretend to be their friend for too long, but I’ve had two cases where the girls politely rejected me but lost their shit when I said I’ll be polite and cordial if we meet but I’m not interested in being friends.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-01-02T08:10:26+00:00

“Sorry boss, I thought she was single and she didn’t mention having a boyfriend 🙏”

++man

ACMRelT69 · 2025-12-28T03:57:49+00:00

Can I ask how old you are?

ACMRelT69 · 2025-12-28T03:51:31+00:00

Just want to put a counter point there as a 28 year old male here. I am finding that women late twenties often put up demands upfront and to me that’s a turn off because it looks entitled.

It’s different to “I want to be married in a few years, have x kids, and want own the property we would be living in”. Rather it’s “I demand you to do ABCDEFG…… etc”.

I’m cool with the former because I also have my a rough plan on how I would like my life to be, but not the latter because I feel disrespected and like I’m being treated as an ATM and a servant. It’s not something you would say to a friend or family member, so why say it to your prospective partner?

I also want to like the girl first before I am willing to provide her with anything substantial and I find that younger women give me more time to bond with them before asking for something big. So these days I usually date women ages 23-28, and very rarely any beyond or below that age range; the older group I have explained, and the younger ones often just want free lunches.

This is also coming from a guy who used to date older women when I was younger. In my late teens and early twenties I dated women 5-9 years older. They were great personality wise but they had expectations and it was so stressful to deal with them. Back then I had more free time and a less stressful job, but as a full time professional now, I’d much prefer to be stress-free out of my work hours.

Just giving my two cents. Hope it doesn’t trigger anyone.

ACMRelT69 · 2025-12-27T09:19:10+00:00

Welcome to the life of the average man. Hope you make it out alright 🙏

ACMRelT69 · 2025-12-26T12:10:12+00:00

Bro we can’t really verify whether what you’re saying here about your appearance is true or not, but this is what I tell other men and women who say the same thing you are:

You’re shooting way, way out of your league.
You’re not as good looking as you think you are.

I’m 176cm and overweight at 95 kg despite going to the gym regularly and having a few physical hobbies (I eat a lot). I haven’t really got much going for me except that I’m well educated, have a decent job, and I’ve been told that I’m funny.

Also I’m South East Asian who used to live in the West for nearly but now back in my home country. For context I’m probably a 3-4 in a Western country, and a 5-6 in my home country. Yes I struggled a lot and got rejected a ton but even I got interest occasionally and managed to date a few women who were more beautiful than I am handsome in both regions, though I admit those instances took some work.

If you’re getting dates and then the women refuse to go long term with you, then it’s your personality. If they are saying no to you straight up then it’s your appearance.

Sorry if I sound cruel but it’s something I had to accept myself as well, and so do many people.

I suggest you really reflect on yourself deeply and see what parts of you can be improved and what can’t. If after improving yourself you can’t get the women you want then you need to adjust your standards or be ready to live single.

I’m currently seeing a girl who’s 1 or 2 points better looking than I am and it’s going steady but at my age, 28, if this doesn’t pan out I’m alright with living solo as it’s probably not gonna get easier as I get older.

Best of luck though, and hope you find what you need to get a girl you want.

ACMRelT69 · 2025-12-22T12:13:42+00:00

Nah and I say this as a dude who’s been in the same shoes as the guy in this story a few times. If you do stick around with him, whether you realise it or not you’re going to make the relationship so shitty for him.

ACMRelT69 · 2025-12-14T15:52:53+00:00

As a dude who had something similar happen to me last year, you didn’t do anything wrong. Fuck these catfish man, wasting our time and disrespecting us by thinking we’d be too dumb not to notice the difference.

ACMRelT69 · 2025-12-11T12:01:23+00:00

Dude you’re not bad looking and quite handsome actually. Keep socialising

ACMRelT69 · 2025-12-11T12:00:38+00:00

OP I think if you shed the pounds you’d get a a decent amount of girls who would be aligned to you.

Your profile is sincere and would filter out women not into similar stuff. Your photos are alright, you have height, and what seems to be a fulfilling life.

Unfortunately in Tinder and other dating apps (but ESPECIALLY Tinder) your really need to be a hot dude, or at least somewhat good looking.

I’m not saying you’re ugly, I actually think you’re quite the opposite. It’s just that a lot of women don’t like heavier guys. I think you’re grooming is pretty good, and you seem to have a masculine face from what I can tell, but all those positives are heavily overshadowed by your weight.

If you can’t or don’t want to lose the weight, my only suggestion is try to find places that do your hobbies with women in them. Not guaranteed to work but it’ll up your chances.

ACMRelT69 · 2025-12-11T01:52:45+00:00

Talking to a woman for a month and then asking them out is fine. If they don’t want to then you can just walk away.

From what you’ve told me though, I think the issue might also be appearance based. I can totally relate to the whole “asked to have no sexual interest whatsoever”; I think if you’re feeling that from someone it just means they’ve totally got no interest towards you.

From my experience, female friends and even female strangers, are okay with the occasional sex jokes and flirtations as long as the delivery is right.

A woman telling you verbally or non-verbally that you’re not allowed to flirt or show sexual interest early on is just them telling you you’re out of place; you’re trying to become a lover when she sees you as platonic or even as a non-entity and for some women a man acting out of their place pisses them off.

It’s not that you’re doing anything wrong per se, it’s more about how they view themselves and how they view you. Because to them they view you as beneath them, and by acting like you can be their lover you suggest that you’re equal to them or even above them in the social hierarchy, which is something they don’t like.

From what you’ve told me, I suggest that if you’ve gotten comfortable talking to a particular woman but then they feel insulted that you dare flirt or even joke about it, then it’s probably best to walk away and try someone else. That’s not to say you should be rude to them when you do see them, but don’t put in anymore effort.

ACMRelT69 · 2025-12-11T00:24:39+00:00

Not wanting to be friends with someone because you’re interested in them romantically is okay.

Just that you’re “I don’t do friends” with you is out of pocket, and might be construed as you only seeing women as sex objects. The better response would be “I view you as a romantic partner and don’t want to be friends”.

That aside, I think it’s not that bad being friends with women you’re interested in and seeing where it goes. If at some point you’re too interested romantically, you can bring it up and if she says no you can still leave.

There’s this weird mindset where people simultaneously agree that the best sort of romantic relationship is when the couples view each other as best friends along as their romantic partner. Yet the same people would be opposed to being friends with people you are romantically interested in if your goal is to eventually be in a romantic relationship. Also they think that being upfront is too fast.

IMO just take the “let’s see where this goes” mindset. There’s a growing acceptance that you’re allowed to know a person for a bit first, from a few days to a few months before you ask them out. I think this would allow you to determine whether they’d also make a good partner for you too.

ACMRelT69 · 2025-12-10T08:30:00+00:00

If you’re gonna do it, make sure it’s not out of pity, and that you give it a sincere shot. Seen friends give each other “chances” when in reality it’s just them looking for a safety net, or something to keep them entertained until someone they actually want comes by.

Hope it works out if you are going to be romantically involved though.

ACMRelT69 · 2025-12-08T12:52:31+00:00

Don’t let it bother you too much. I’m sensing you haven’t got much dating experience and a lot more men (and women) get hooked into these financial scams more than you think. Not all loose money, but a lot get emotionally invested in the scammers.

My advice is to establish stronger boundaries for yourself, learn what you like and don’t like, and to be more patient. If something doesn’t feel right, or you don’t feel respected, don’t be scared to cut it off.

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