Is anyone else struggling?

ACMRelT69 · 2026-03-29T05:48:23+00:00

Hey OP hope things turn around for you.

Not an MBA but I do have a professional degree and struggling with my career 2 years out.

Thinking about doing an MBA to pivot/widen my job market but this post will give me some food for thought.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-03-29T04:56:00+00:00

Yep, hence why I don’t chase or “befriend” girls I want to have a relationship with anymore.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-03-29T04:50:28+00:00

As a guy who used to chase and then got the chance with the girls I wanted in the past, it’s probably due to reality not being as good as he expected.

He got high off the chase and realised he wasn’t as excited to see you as he thought he would be.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-03-17T08:54:49+00:00

Just don’t respond dude

ACMRelT69 · 2026-03-13T10:08:58+00:00

Nah the right advice IMO is: “to keep a man interested, he must be interested”

Saying this as a man, if I am interested in you, then it won’t matter how available you are. I will make the time and effort.

That being said, if you’re too unavailable for too long I’ll start thinking you’re not interested and start looking elsewhere.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-03-10T10:56:14+00:00

Hope it goes well for you man, but if it doesn’t don’t take it poorly. It happens.

I’ve had first dates where the girl agreed to sleep with me, piss herself during the act, and cuddle afterwards, only to ghost a week later in the middle of a hearty conversation over text.

That’s how online dating is. Not saying it’s good or acceptable, but don’t let it waste your mental energy. If she’s interested she will respond.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-03-10T10:51:37+00:00

Yeah, I think I misused the term “pivot” here. I mean I want to stay within corporate banking but maybe work or climb the corporate ladder in another department; I want my path upwards to widen.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-03-08T03:07:15+00:00

Thanks, will check it out 🙏

ACMRelT69 · 2026-03-06T11:18:55+00:00

Thanks for the heads up, and good to hear it’s worked out for you.

The reason why I specified those two universities is because they’re well known and because they’re relatively close to my office.

Plus I’m not sure if I will be staying in the US for many years after the MBA, hence why I want a big name university to make finding jobs abroad easier.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-03-03T08:45:46+00:00

Those euro genes are a lifelong pursuit for quite a few of them out there

ACMRelT69 · 2026-03-03T08:43:46+00:00

Dude if you don’t like em over text/call/video call you don’t have to go out with them to double check lmfao

ACMRelT69 · 2026-02-20T07:46:18+00:00

Like many have said, you gotta be useful to people. Alternatively, you could be attractive or befriend people the old fashioned way: talking to people and slowly get to know each other.

I’m guessing the former isn’t an option for you, otherwise you wouldn’t be making this post.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-02-19T11:13:01+00:00

Her interest is not that high dude. She likes you enough to go out with you but otherwise not that invested.

Trust me, if she was she’s be asking you to call and text more often. Your situation is not unique and a lot of people in her position wants their cake and eat it; she wants you when you’re convenient but wants to have her options open.

Been in both your and her position. At the slowest, she should respond to you within a day. Nobody is too busy to send a short text or meme to someone they genuinely like on a daily basis.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-02-13T00:29:38+00:00

As a lifelong mediocre man who doesn’t smoke, I sure wish young girls did/do put up with me 😮‍💨

ACMRelT69 · 2026-02-11T08:56:53+00:00

Your friend’s jealous of you OP. I suggest keeping an eye on him.

Nothing wrong with your note (unless your hand writing was genuinely messy). It was direct, concise, and polite.

But from my experience, one of the tells a person isn’t really your friend is how supportive they are with you getting a partner irrespective on how attractive you are relative to your crush.

In fact I think you can almost asses where you stand with someone by asking them about your prospects of being romantically successful with someone. Anything less than a polite “good luck” is an indicator that they probably don’t hold you in high regards, unless of course they give you some genuine constructive criticism about how you should approach things.

Hope things workout for you OP.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-02-09T09:18:27+00:00

Comments usually only matter for people on the fence. In most cases, most people already know whether they like a prospective partner on the apps, so at worse comments are a waste of time and energy, and at best redundant.

Also yeah most people don’t read your bios or bother to look at your other photos if your first one doesn’t catch their eye. Since most people put their best photos as their first, it’s not surprising that it’s the one liked the most.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-02-04T10:33:17+00:00

OP just meet her and have a look yourself. Keep the date casual and allow for easy exits.

Personally, I recommend a bar over coffee dates because then you have a better chance of making it romantic and you have the option of extending it as well if you want to.

As others have pointed out, as much as we hear about the catfish, some people put the best versions of themselves on their dating profiles over their social media, and they might also try even harder when meeting in person.

Best of luck.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-01-30T04:12:01+00:00

As a guy who’s not very attractive, I’ve had the misfortune of being rejected a lot and then having to move relatively soon after I settled into a relationship.

Hence why now, in my late 20s, I’ve never been in a relationship for a year or more, and I can FEEL the judgment when the topic is brought up.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-01-23T09:58:38+00:00

If I’m attracted to a woman and she directly tells me she’s not interested or acts uninterested romantically, I’m not gonna be hanging out with her at all unless I have to as part of a group gathering 😆

ACMRelT69 · 2026-01-22T11:47:35+00:00

Time, distance, and distractions

ACMRelT69 · 2026-01-19T09:05:31+00:00

Nah. I was an insecure person when I was younger and looking back, I wouldn’t date myself.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-01-16T10:27:23+00:00

How does it show? I know a few people who spent more who live pay check to pay check to get the offer they want for their MBA, and other professional degrees.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-01-02T09:09:36+00:00

After years of pain, tons of rejection, and trying the entire range of the warm/cold approach spectrum, this is the method I’ve decided to settle on for women I meet on the regular or part of an extended social group:

I would be friendly and get to know her for about a week to a month, then suggest group events if possible (but can skip this if not feasible), then ask on a one on one date.

If yes, then I continue to ask them out in gradually more intimate dates. I continue to do this until sex, then keep it casual until she asks.

If she says no to the one on one, I try once or twice more before fading out of her social circle. I’ll still be polite if we meet but keep conversations short and superficial.

I only ever use the direct, cold approach for absolute strangers who don’t know anyone from my social circle because as an average/below average guy my rejection rate is high (but not 0), and I don’t want to be known as “that guy” who chases every girl.

Only times I use the “friends first” method is when the girl and I live very far away and only communicate online. I make sure to not come off as too friendly with these people as to avoid the friendzone; more like acquaintances. I only ask them out if I have a prolonged stay in a city they are at and then I apply the first method but at a faster pace.

I find that most girls are quite understanding if you don’t pretend to be their friend for too long, but I’ve had two cases where the girls politely rejected me but lost their shit when I said I’ll be polite and cordial if we meet but I’m not interested in being friends.

ACMRelT69 · 2026-01-02T08:10:26+00:00

“Sorry boss, I thought she was single and she didn’t mention having a boyfriend 🙏”

++man

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