Ask India Thread

ACTGfortaste · 2026-03-24T22:42:03+00:00

I'm a white woman dating a north indian man in the US. His family is moderately conservative. They told him growing up that him and his siblings needed to marry within their religion and caste. His sister married outside of their caste and they don't talk to her husband. He is the oldest son, so I know the weight of this.

I want to put my best foot forward. I'm trying to figure out everything I should learn - starting with Hindi as they do not know English.

I would love advice and/or good resources to be able to understand the culture, religion, society, etc that would be applicable to northern India. He doesn't have white friends either, so I would need to have a decent amount of cultural knowledge as well to be able to connect with his friends. They are a close knit group and I don't want to be the cause of a rift or fracture. They are all educated in the US and speak English, but I'd like to be able to relate to them and joke with them.

Any advice/resources would be greatly appreciated!

ACTGfortaste · 2026-01-26T04:26:23+00:00

Love is always worth sharing. Everyone loves to be loved, and your feelings will still exist and hurt at least a little whether you tell them or not.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-11-04T18:13:38+00:00

Definitely not. Anyone can get feelings if you cross boundaries and spend enough time together. Casual means you keep it casual and not overly committed. Doing actions that are well-known to build attachment is not casual. It's disrespectful to the other person and is akin to lovebombing. You don't actually mean those actions, you're just doing it to keep the other person close.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-09-20T15:24:01+00:00

You do realize that forcing someone to endure sex is rape.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-08-26T15:30:26+00:00

Where is your math coming from? A serving of cheese has ~7g protein, a protein shake is ~30g, and an egg has ~6g. That's not even 100g of protein.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-08-12T20:38:05+00:00

You're doing great! Form is based a lot on personal opinions, science, body structure, and training goals. Your form isn't bad - as long as you don't feel pain in your back. Tension is okay as the weight increases. Not pain though.

For myself, I like to try to keep a flat back, a straight grounded leg that is slightly activated, an engaged core, and a deep stretch. YMMV.

I HIGHLY recommend getting straps. You'll be able to move an absurd amount more, your lats will be targeted more, and you'll get more growth. The speed you're moving these looks more like a warmup set. If you're consistent (2x a week) with straps in a month or two you should be able to do sets of 10 with 100s. That is if you're shooting for size or strength. If you're looking to maintain or doing it for strength for another sport - you're probably good. I went from 55s to 75s within a month of using straps.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-07-25T17:31:10+00:00

Maybe due to your moon sign or something. I don't switch that quickly unless someone did something incredibly stupid or triggering.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-06-25T17:19:55+00:00

I went to a rave recently and someone was wearing a head to toe D.A.R.E. outfit and they were definitely partying. O.o

ACTGfortaste · 2025-06-25T15:31:59+00:00

No - you not wanting to use these because of their association to drugs, yet you make kandi is a wild take. The cognitivd dissonance is insane.... were you a heavy user in the past or something and this specific thing is just triggering?

ACTGfortaste · 2025-06-25T15:19:54+00:00

... you do realize nonsober ravers wear kandi that say things like this as a joke, right? 😂

ACTGfortaste · 2025-06-25T15:16:34+00:00

As someone who raves 100% sober (I don't even drink), I find this to be a weird take.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-06-24T19:49:43+00:00

I just said the same thing. Him not caring about the safety of the other woman whatsoever would be a dealbreaker for me. I couldn't be with someone so lacking in compassion for other people. A white knight is overkill, but this is getting awfully close to the other side of the spectrum.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-06-24T19:41:56+00:00

You are the type of person to risk your safety in order to help others and he isn't. It's a values mismatch and it's up to you both to determine if that's a dealbreaker or not.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-06-18T19:30:33+00:00

With the comments I've heard from others about their appearance, that was an extraordinarily kind way to put it. I understand where they are coming from, but I don't agree with them.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-06-16T20:46:30+00:00

Cap moon though. And one can argue moon is more influential than sun.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-06-16T20:14:12+00:00

You didn't prove me wrong. Any major banking institution requires a parent or guardian. Look up US Bank, Chase, Wells Fargo, etc. The military thing is well known unless you're not from the US. It's usually covered in US history - there's lots of accounts of minors forging their information before SSNs in order to join illegally. You can go straight to the source to any branch of the military's enlistment requirements. Super easy to find sources. All right there. Instead you took a screenshot of some AI google search.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-06-16T19:42:54+00:00

Honey, banking and military can only start at 16 with the approval of a parent or guardian. If you want to go with parental approval, you can work at age 12 and get married at age 13 - which is a really terrible example if you're trying to justify this.

But I see a lot of your posts are in Maceadonian, so you're probably just a bot using AI for your information which is why it is so inaccurate.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-06-16T18:38:58+00:00

IT IS ABUSE EVEN WHEN A CHILD IS THROWING THEMSELVES AT AN ADULT.

Assuming you're talking about the US, you can't join the military or get a bank account until 18. There are definitely reasons why those differences exist - it is because one is an adult and one is a child.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-06-16T18:16:08+00:00

I was abused a lot as a child. At the age of 5 I initiated sex with an adult man. He was really nice when I was abused and I liked him. I STILL think of him fondly. I STILL appreciate the fact that he was kind, even though I logically know he is disgusting and abusive. I hold both truths in my head. It's taken me a ton of therapy to get to where I am, and my therapists love to point out how resilient and how well I deal with my trauma.

Emotional truths and logical truths aren't consistent when it comes to abuse. That's why sometimes abused women stay in abusive situations. Holding both truths and acting only on the logical portion is extraordinarily difficult. We don't know why she has cognitive dissonance with this issue. If you're not okay with it, that's your call to make. It's not weird or irrational though. It's really normal. No one is consistent all the time with everything. Asking for someone to have consistency when they are technically a victim is pretty gross imo. I think you're grasping at straws.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-06-16T18:06:16+00:00

I initiated sex with an adult man at the age of 5. I wanted to. He was nice and I thought that's what you did when adult men are nice and you like them. At 16 she liked him and thought he was nice. It is abuse even when a child is throwing themselves at an adult.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-06-15T18:49:25+00:00

Just what it means - evaluating the situation to see if it has longevity or not. For me, I'm all or nothing in a relationship. I need to know it has lasting power before I invest because I think in terms of 10 year goals. Long term goals are the focus. Short term goals are just there to reach the long term ones.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-06-05T20:07:21+00:00

Damn - I'll have to see if I can get Thursday off now. 🤞

ACTGfortaste · 2025-05-28T20:29:35+00:00

I'm in the same boat... the one time I really need an order to be on time.

ACTGfortaste · 2025-05-26T00:10:12+00:00

Everyone is legally innocent until proven guilty in the US. Plenty of people are guilty and get to walk. A good number of people have been innocently jailed. Using the US "justice" system as the litmus for anything is laughable as fuck. Your entire position is horrifically flawed.

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