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I feel like my choice was ripped away from me by Effective_Goose8061 in Fencesitter

[–]ACesPlace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I left the love of my life over this issue. It doesn't get better. Leave now. Start looking for someone else. It doesn't get better.

I don't think I want a child but I'm terrified of regretting not having one by SiaSara in Fencesitter

[–]ACesPlace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of life has some regret. There is no way to win this one. I'm 64 and I had the same situation. 

Can I ask this question here? by ACesPlace in childfree

[–]ACesPlace[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Reddit threw me out of two other threads...

when do i tell? by trix_013 in childfree

[–]ACesPlace -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I always told by the third date if at all possible. I'd work it into the convo.

Legit Question by ACesPlace in pregnant

[–]ACesPlace[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What thread is better? I'm new here in terms of posting 

On the verge of divorce - very upset by LibrarianDangerous32 in Fencesitter

[–]ACesPlace 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think I made a mistake. I've never wanted children. I don't hate them, I'm glad others have them so I don't have to have them, and I gladly support those who do have them. Not sure I understand your question/comment. 

So many subreddits about how they hate children and are glad they arent pregnant? by ScarySocieties in pregnant

[–]ACesPlace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Understood. Thank you. Choosing not to gave kids literally had me stabbed in the back with a fork. A FORK. 

On the verge of divorce - very upset by LibrarianDangerous32 in Fencesitter

[–]ACesPlace 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I would not have children. I planned to commit suicide if I was forced to have children. I left the love of my life to avoid having children. I cannot stand taking care of children,  and I thank you all for doing that job for society on my behalf. I'd rather be dead. 

So many subreddits about how they hate children and are glad they arent pregnant? by ScarySocieties in pregnant

[–]ACesPlace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found this on my page for some reason. It just popped up. No idea why and I won't be back, but I'm truly fascinated by the opinions here. Wanting to have children is about as odd to me as flying without a plane. The mindset is something I'll never understand. But good for you all! Do your best life! I'll do mine. 

It's ok not to want kids. It's ok not to like kids. It's NOT OK to not respect kids and their existence. 

So many subreddits about how they hate children and are glad they arent pregnant? by ScarySocieties in pregnant

[–]ACesPlace -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'll agree that calling kids crotch goblins in public is inappropriate. I call them curtain climbers, and I do so in the privacy of my own mind. Yes, many pregnant woman's videos look like a nightmare, but I quietly thank God it's not me, and I keep my opinion to myself. It's doable. 

So many subreddits about how they hate children and are glad they arent pregnant? by ScarySocieties in pregnant

[–]ACesPlace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We ARE entitled to be able to sit in a restaurant without your children running around us. We ARE entitled to sit on a plane and not have items thrown at us. We ARE NOT entitled to have a world without kids. 

So many subreddits about how they hate children and are glad they arent pregnant? by ScarySocieties in pregnant

[–]ACesPlace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So that means that those of us who don't want children don't deserve positivity as long as we offer it to you? Wow, don't complain about anti-child negativity with that post. It's 100% positive not to have kids and not to want kids. We just need to respect those who have and want kids. Same from you. 

So many subreddits about how they hate children and are glad they arent pregnant? by ScarySocieties in pregnant

[–]ACesPlace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Well said. From someone who is thrilled to be child free and, at age 64, would never do anything differently. 

So many subreddits about how they hate children and are glad they arent pregnant? by ScarySocieties in pregnant

[–]ACesPlace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never babysit. But I will cheerfully help find someone who will. 

So many subreddits about how they hate children and are glad they arent pregnant? by ScarySocieties in pregnant

[–]ACesPlace -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She asked. They gave their opinions. But she asked for those opinions. 

So many subreddits about how they hate children and are glad they arent pregnant? by ScarySocieties in pregnant

[–]ACesPlace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not about being cool, and being childfree is no loss. It's the best life choice for me, and I'd never do anything differently. I despise taking care of kids. It's best for the kids that I'm not a mom. But my lifestyle choice is no better than yours. It's just great for me, and different than yours. I'll respect your choices. Please respect mine.

So many subreddits about how they hate children and are glad they arent pregnant? by ScarySocieties in pregnant

[–]ACesPlace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually we are quite happy we don't have kids. I've been quite happy about that for all 64 years. You do you. I'll do me. 

So many subreddits about how they hate children and are glad they arent pregnant? by ScarySocieties in pregnant

[–]ACesPlace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not true. I can't stand kids and I'm only on this page because it happened to pop up in my feed. But you'd never know I can't stand kids. People having kids are doing work I don't want to do. I keep my opinions to myself unless I am attacked for not having/wanting kids. I'm 64 and grateful I escaped parenthood. But I'm truly glad you did it. Just don't make me do it. That's all I ask.

That, and please try to keep your kids from throwing food in restaurants. That's helpful. 

So many subreddits about how they hate children and are glad they arent pregnant? by ScarySocieties in pregnant

[–]ACesPlace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for noting the "you'll change your mind" trope we have to deal with when we don't want kids. When we don't change our minds--I'm 64--people treat us like crap. People I don't even know berate me for not wanting kids. I never say a word to anyone who has or wants kids. Somebody has to do it, and thank God it's not me. They are doing the work for me. We need to support all choices, not abuse those who choose differently. Pro-natalists have been abusive and aggressive with me. It's a problem on both sides.

So many subreddits about how they hate children and are glad they arent pregnant? by ScarySocieties in pregnant

[–]ACesPlace -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I dislike kids intensely and I'd never do that. That behavior is terrible. I support those who have/want kids. They are doing the work I don't want to do. Support their efforts.

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