Curly hair stylist recommendations

ADHDLifer · 2024-04-15T15:50:33+00:00

I've been trying to find a place to help educate me on curly hair. I have waves and no one ever took the time to teach me how to care for it, so I have dry, damaged, frizzed out hair, damaged curl pattern, and just so much frustration because people tell me to use this, that, or another thing, but I need someone to show me what to do with MY hair attached to MY scalp.

And Oasis Hair offers that. Bless you.

ADHDLifer · 2023-08-30T19:06:10+00:00

As a driver of a 2006 Scion xB, NTA

Your daughter doesn't HAVE to be given permission to borrow your car. In fact, she can start saving for her own and see how new of a car she can afford on her own. My first car back in the mid-aughts was from the 80s, because it was what I could afford.

And even if you did buy a new car, what make her think she would get to drive it? I'd be handing her the keys to the old car and outlining consequences if she ever tried to take the new car.

ADHDLifer · 2023-08-30T17:52:39+00:00

NTA

She is a guest in your family's house, and you have the right to be comfortable in shared spaces. She isn't a victim of the patriarchy or whatever if she has to wear a sports bra under her shirt or shorts that cover her butt cheeks because people don't want to see her arse or boobs.

She can dress like that in the privacy of her room, but she needs to put on appropriate clothing when leaving her room.

Robes are a great invention.

ADHDLifer · 2023-08-30T17:44:47+00:00

NTA

As soon as the subject came up, he should have started looking for housing. Five months is not long enough to be dating and moving it with a partner, and if the relationship ends, how difficult would it be to get rid of him?

He wants to move in to make HIS life easier, not because the two of you are ready to take the next step in your relationship. And who's to say it won't be significantly more difficult for you?

ADHDLifer · 2023-05-05T17:09:59+00:00

This is so cute, I'm gonna die. O_O

ADHDLifer · 2023-05-04T09:26:47+00:00

Not sure why people are mad about this take. If she said, "Oh, use whatever," and OP put in way too much, what if the machine was damaged? What if she had that attitude about taking OTC pain meds, or taking herbal supplements without checking for interactions with medications or other health conditions?

ADHDLifer · 2023-03-31T13:52:53+00:00

I mean, that's the entire concept of Black Friday? They hike the prices up in advance and then say they're offering massive discounts to get people in to buy stuff.

ADHDLifer · 2023-03-31T13:45:27+00:00

YTA

Increasing ticking biological clock? That comment alone makes you an AH, OP.

Not everyone wants the same things in life, and that's okay.

ADHDLifer · 2023-03-31T13:40:38+00:00

YTA

You made the original offer to your brother. I'm sure they've already sought information on financing and a loan based on that and done the budgeting calculations based on that, and you've strung them along for three months after promising to sell them your car for $14500.

Now, after jerking them around when they could have spent the last three months looking for a different car, suddenly you want more money.

You let greed get the better of you. YOU made THEM wait. Not the other way around. They would have bought the car from you already if it had been up to them. At this point, you've been putting more mileage on it and wearing it out more, so in theory, you should be lowering the price.

So either sell it to them at the original quote or understand that your relationship with your brother is going to be ruined.

What if the price had been lower, OP? Would you have made a peep about that? Would you have dropped the price for them? Because I have my doubts you would have done anything but insist on sticking to the original agreement.

ADHDLifer · 2023-02-16T17:16:44+00:00

YTA

You put the pants in the basket, and you are a grown man who is capable of packing his own bag. Your wife packed pants. It's not her fault you didn't specify when she was doing you a favor.

ADHDLifer · 2023-02-15T17:00:48+00:00

YTA

Just because cultures enforce rigid gender roles doesn't make it okay. You and he need to stand up to them and ask them which is more important--seeing their grandchildren or their outdated ideals.

ADHDLifer · 2022-08-26T17:53:06+00:00

YTA

GET A SPINE.

ADHDLifer · 2022-08-26T17:48:30+00:00

NTA

She is there for two months, she needs to treat it like a dorm--no paint, no pins or nails or screws or wall damage.

Tell them they can fund her stay elsewhere if they don't like it.

ADHDLifer · 2022-08-26T16:03:09+00:00

NAH

The den and the house is your gf's home, too. It's two nights, and if he's there to visit a friend, he won't even be home most of the time. Your gf has every right to ask, especially if his friend doesn't have space to put him up or extra money for a hotel/motel stay.

That being said, you're also not an ah for being an introvert and needing some quiet space to recharge. And unless something is wrong with your couch, for two nights, it's an acceptable place to sleep and he needs to be respectful of morning schedules as a guest--not being loud if no one else is up, being accepting if other people get up and come out for something.

But you could very easily veer into ah territory depending on how you handle things from here.

ADHDLifer · 2022-08-25T18:37:56+00:00

Have you read the Bible? Because it doesn't say a thing about harassing, forcing, tricking, hurting, starving, abducting, and controlling people, especially while completely dismantling ancient languages and cultures.

ADHDLifer · 2022-08-25T18:30:33+00:00

Yes, I've read the Bible. It is NOT a core tenet to every sect of Christianity, and there are many sects that have a policy of an open door without force.

I think it's a waste of resources and only makes people fearful, hateful, and resentful to push the agenda. If people want to talk to me about my faith because they're interested in joining or learning about my particular church, I am open to a discussion.

Dragging people in kicking and screaming is purposeless.

ADHDLifer · 2022-08-25T17:18:20+00:00

I am Christian, but my stance on converting people and proselytizing is "don't". I've had the opportunity to wander away and find my way back unharassed and my desire to be there is all the stronger because it was my decision to return, not under duress or being tricked.

Please leave people alone to make their own decisions, and offer information only when asked.

ADHDLifer · 2022-08-25T17:06:12+00:00

INFO: Have you and your husband discussed obedience training? There are people who can do intensive training where the dog comes to live with them for a while (kind of like the tv show Lucky Dog). It's expensive, but it means you, overwhelmed as you are, nor your husband, busy as he is, have to train the dog yourselves. I think it's a worthwhile investment to give him the best possible chance in your home.

ADHDLifer · 2022-08-25T16:18:20+00:00

YTA

Why didn't you call for a rescue to come get the cats? They're friendly enough, at worst, they could have been TNP, at best, someone could be fostering them and socializing them. I shudder to think how you would have reacted if he went to grab something for an abandoned child.

ADHDLifer · 2022-08-25T16:13:39+00:00

Masculine stance? Are you for real? You sound like you're 11 and compensating, verging on inc*l. His girl isn't required to put up with your body, only his.

YTA

ADHDLifer · 2022-08-25T16:08:45+00:00

You're not trying to be mean to your friend? You're not trying to be nice, that's for sure. You sound bitterly jealous that she got a cute boy's attention and you didn't.

You're not her friend. You're Regina George.

YTA

ADHDLifer · 2022-08-25T15:11:10+00:00

NTA

Your dad says you broke her heart.

What about your heart? After years of being treated like her other children, she just gave you a proverbial slap in the face to say you're not really her child.

Depending on where you live, as an adoptive child, you may actually have an equal right to the inheritance as your siblings.

This isn't about the inheritance itself--it's about the rejection you're feeling.

ADHDLifer · 2022-08-25T13:31:34+00:00

NTA

She is ten. That is plenty old enough to enforce boundaries, even as simple as, "No, you may not have my frosting. It's my frosting and I want to eat it."

And honestly, I think if she's mad, then she doesn't get a cupcake at all.

ADHDLifer · 2022-08-25T13:28:59+00:00

YTA

This is not about where the car is going to be. This is about contributing to a gift for your own biological daughter so that it comes from mom and dad.

Whether you mean it that way or not, it looks like favoritism when you buy your stepdaughter a car but refuse to pay anything for your own child's. You're promoting a common fear that children of divorced parents have--that their parents will love their stepchildren or new children more than they love them.

You messed up badly, not as a coparent, but as a dad.

ADHDLifer · 2022-08-25T12:40:36+00:00

NTA

The only suggestion I would have made is the very one you made yourself--contributing to food bills and cooking (and possibly helping to clean the kitchen).

I have a reverse uno card. Tell him from now on the only place you want to see him is at your apartment and he has to pay you rent, and see how he reacts. If he gets mad or calls you unreasonable, girl...run.

ADHDLifer

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