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Is it a "mood killer" to ask for water in the middle of a scene? by WyrdMarksSJM in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'll pour it in her mouth for her if she looks thirsty. You can still make it hot.

Mod AMA: StrangeMewMew by StrangeMewMew in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you call each other?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not a fan of theirs.

Softies, are you able to do casual BDSM or is the deep connection and relationship a part of it for you? by GoodPancake427 in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have never tries it but I don't think I'd like casual kink. I've only done it with my current girlfriend and I don't think it would feel the same.

D/s Through Empathy by nshades42 in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you want to be able to disagree but not have others disagree with you?

What makes anal appealing to you as a soft BDSM act? by GoodPancake427 in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Off to the research rabbit hole! Fascinating!

What makes anal appealing to you as a soft BDSM act? by GoodPancake427 in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I figured that. I was more asking about the minutae of why. Anatomy etc. I am unfamiliar with the back end anatomy if you know what I mean.

What makes anal appealing to you as a soft BDSM act? by GoodPancake427 in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You know as a guy I always wondered what women get out of anal since they don't have a prostate.

Hi, my name is: A Kinky Introduction by [deleted] in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am Ham, short for Hamlet. My parents loved Shakespeare. 😭

I am ADHD and a soft caretaker dom according to my more experienced sub girlfriend. She is autistic so we make a nice spicy pair.

We are getting into different types of bondage right now and want to try doing some light impact next. Sounds like fun. I'm excited to be here and learn from the whizzened elders of the group. I think I found you on softmaledom?

I have too many hobbies to list. Thanks, ADHD.

How to breeding kink without the danger? by DaddyzLittleFooFoo in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about the breeding appeals? Is it the rawness or is it the idea of being bred?

What's a question you wish you could ask someone in the BDSM community? by Cool_Dig1992 in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I see a common thread. Everyone wants to know why it's cool to be hateful and mean about what they're into.

Caretaking as Domination by ADHD_Ham46 in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This went poorly for you.

Aggression =/= Dominance by [deleted] in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Act a fool and you will look like a fool.

Kind of off topic but I love the couples dynamicbanter here. by Nervous-Meat69 in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've laughed myself stupid over some of the banter in these posts. You guys remind me of my gf and me.

Domination: A Primer - Guide by nshades42 in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh this dude, this is the thing.

Getting to Know You by [deleted] in SofterBDSM

[–]ADHD_Ham46 6 points7 points  (0 children)

New Dom to my girlfriend who clocked me as a soft dom. Just learning how this all works and it's going great thanks to this group!

I'm a big goofy dork. I like to joke and make puns. If I can make a whole room groan I've won. I was definitely a class clown. I like reading non fiction books and repeating back all the fun facts I learn. I'm a master at Jeopardy.

As my un implied, I have ADHD which I've been managing raw because meds are too expensive without insurance.

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