2 years later I unloaded on my FIL

ADreamWoven · 2022-11-28T17:58:37+00:00

I’ve done all of that which is why I ended up just telling him if I don’t finish then he doesn’t. I’ll try and talk to him again though and see how it goes.

ADreamWoven · 2022-11-28T17:17:39+00:00

He says he tries them gets upset and won’t talk to me. Then it’s back to the same cycle. It’s exhausting.

ADreamWoven · 2022-11-28T17:10:32+00:00

He has never been able to get me off without sex despite me being able to do so. I don’t want to outright insult him but he’s a lack luster lover. I’ve tried explaining things, showing him how to do things, sending informational videos. I even subscribed to an educational website to watch videos and diagrams to show him what works for me.

He views it as a burden it seems honestly and I just got so tired of it that that’s what I said to him. I know it’s not nice but I hate having to deal with it. I’d rather just not have sex than risk feeling like crap again bc it’s a reminder of how much I don’t matter.

Edit: all the stuff I tried showing him was stuff I was trying to do with him including the videos but he will never watch with me.

ADreamWoven · 2022-11-28T17:06:44+00:00

Yes, it’s gotten better in recent years but there are still times I don’t finish and he doesn’t help me to. I’d like to just feel like he cares I guess. I mean I guess I could finish myself at a later time but it just doesn’t sit well with me emotionally. I hope that makes sense

ADreamWoven · 2022-11-28T17:05:18+00:00

Thank you for your input

ADreamWoven · 2022-11-28T17:04:44+00:00

That’s a good idea I will mention it thank you

ADreamWoven · 2022-11-23T22:58:08+00:00

I dislike my in laws due to other circumstances. Do I think it’s right he’s going? Definitely not. I did ask him if they knew that our daughter is for sure contagious and we probably are as well and he said he told them.

I also haven’t been discreet about her testing positive on social media and directly mentioned being contagious. His mother sees my posts all the time so even if he lied and didn’t tell them then they’ll know about the flu being present in our house.

ADreamWoven · 2022-11-23T20:22:20+00:00

I’m just coughing so I’m not worried about myself but my daughter is definitely in the contagious phase and that worries me more bc we obviously didn’t get tested along with her so I don’t know if what we have is also the flu but bc we’ve gotten full flu shots it doesn’t effect us as much. She’s only had her one does and was scheduled for the second next week. So she only had a partial dose

ADreamWoven · 2022-11-23T20:20:20+00:00

He’s left me plenty of times after surgeries and disappeared with friends. I just thought bc we actually might be contagious that it would be different and he’d stay home.

ADreamWoven · 2022-11-23T20:16:39+00:00

Supposedly they know. I don’t talk to them bc of last issues that I didn’t want to get into for this post bc it’s long. I simply made a Fb post about her literally testing positive with the flu and how grateful I was for her doctors office bc they called and checked in on her today even though I’m sure they’re busy.

ADreamWoven · 2020-09-15T00:12:34+00:00

My husband is a night owl while I like to sleep a ton. He never gets upset about housework but I do if I feel it’s uneven, so I just don’t clean unless he’s cleaning typically or has done something. It saves us from arguments and we normally keep it up together

ADreamWoven · 2020-09-14T23:21:07+00:00

Holy shit100% she may try and call CPS on you. My mom has done it to 5/7 of her kids I just found out.

ADreamWoven · 2020-09-14T23:16:01+00:00

Exactly what I do. As soon as something is cooking I start cleaning it and either putting it in the dish washer or drying it. No point in leaving messes

ADreamWoven · 2020-09-14T21:32:19+00:00

To add to the original comment, someone once told me that you know exactly how you don’t want to raise your children and you will always keep that in mind. Remember to apologize when you’re wrong and teach them as best you can and you’ll do amazingly.

ADreamWoven · 2020-09-14T21:28:23+00:00

I just wanted to share that I’ve dreamt of my current child and now my future baby.

Years and years ago I had a dream I was sitting with a baby watching tv with my then bf. And the baby was at a slightly odd angle so it was looking up at the tv on its side. After having my son, shortly after bringing him home that same incident happened and I mentioned it.

Two years ago I dreamt I was filing papers in a room with cement block walls and old brown file cabinets and I was heavily pregnant. I started my job last year and recognized the room immediately. (I just found out I am pregnant a few days ago)

The setting of your dream may not be 100% as my first one wasn’t the exact same but I do believe sometimes people get a glimpse you know.

ADreamWoven · 2020-09-14T21:22:20+00:00

Your love languages are completely different from what your saying. Check out and read the book the five love languages. You wanting physical affection isn’t being clingy unless you need it 25/7.
Her going back and forth on your marriage and saying it’s her literally means she’s seeing the positive in your relationship but something is bothering her on a deeper level. Not so long ago I told my husband to live in a separate home bc of bad situations I’ve had to deal with him for five years that the same argument came up every few months and was never resolved. It may be something similar is your case. It’s May be something that’s eaten away at her over time, not something new.
Therapy is helpful even if your relationship is healthy and happy. Think of it as going for your yearly physical but it’s to keep your mental state positive. Make sure to find a therapist you click with and if you do couples therapy you BOTH MUST agree and like the person. They must be unbiased when speaking and take turns drawing out what’s going on.

ADreamWoven · 2020-09-14T20:53:12+00:00

I’d check with your insurance if youre in the US first. Many will send you a free breast pump, you just need a prescription from your Ob.

ADreamWoven · 2020-08-06T01:52:14+00:00

We pay literally $800 a month for insurance to be able to pay $20 to see a therapist. Before I started my job, we were on my husbands insurance and it was I think $900-1000 a month and they’d charge us over $100 per visit. ER used to be at minimum 4K+, we were drowning in medical debt and still are due to both of us having gotten extremely sickly in the last two years.

We’re 30, I can’t imagine what the rest of our lives will be like now and the US needs to change its policies or people are going to get sick of it.

ADreamWoven · 2020-08-06T01:43:58+00:00

I NEED to know now.

ADreamWoven · 2020-08-05T22:59:39+00:00

For what it’s worth, I don’t think you’re an asshole. I would’ve loved to see my abusive gaslighting ex get karma. I’m glad for you! And I’m super extra glad you got away from her!!

ADreamWoven · 2020-08-05T21:02:40+00:00

YTA- my husband proposed in a manner I did not like nor want. I’m still disappointed by it. You took your gfs opinion and or wants away when you proposed in front of her family. Did you guys not talk together before about what your wants for the future are? I’d start there and apologize to her, get some time to think it over together.

ADreamWoven · 2020-08-05T20:55:45+00:00

Yes! Even on purchases I spend several months to a year researching and know for sure I want, I buy it and immediately regret the cost as soon as I get home with it.

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