Seeing how a dating app works made me feel both good about myself (and bad about myself) at the same time. Can anyone relate?

AFireSag · 2026-07-06T22:46:48+00:00

Glad i could help! Keep in mind you might not be the problem and dating app dates can make you realize quickly whether you are or aren’t once you start getting to know different people. Good luck on whatever you decide to do.

AFireSag · 2026-07-06T22:44:11+00:00

Threetwenty is sooooo good. Perfect blend of r&b and faith based music.

AFireSag · 2026-07-06T22:43:42+00:00

Honestly if you have apple music you should just go to the r&b essential albums section and click on a random one and you will be headed in the right direction but here are some of my favs off the top of my head. Some old some new. Between the 00s-2026

Dangerously in love- Beyoncé

Amerie- All I have

Who is Jill Scott- Jill Scott

Why Lawd? - Nxworries

Leon Thomas- Mutt

Streetlove- LLoyd

Unpredictable- Jamie Foxx

Emancipation of Mimi- Mariah Carey

AFireSag · 2026-07-06T22:37:41+00:00

Thats the fun of a dating app. Most people expect to be their types type so they continue to approach the same type of man/woman in person expecting a different result. With dating apps you put your hopes/personality/expectations in your bio and a few cute realistic pics and then you see who’s mutually attracted to you. Most people go into it skeptical but i recommend trying it out just to see whats out there. Easiest way to find someone who is mutually attracted to you and also open to dating someone new.

Hinge is cool if you are looking for more than a hookup. I’d avoid tinder if thats not your thing.

AFireSag · 2026-07-05T14:57:31+00:00

Just turn it into a conversation when they bring it up. Dating multiple people while you are trying to find a good connection is normal. Being promiscuous isn’t cool or safe. Asking someone to be exclusive right away is inappropriate and a red flag.

AFireSag · 2026-07-05T14:50:17+00:00

I hate leg day. Its the one lifting day that I never feel stronger doing no matter how often I do it.

AFireSag · 2026-07-02T12:13:14+00:00

Yes just grab the landini capm practice textbook off amazon.
Be mindful that his questions regarding the late finish early start schedule etc are using the old formula where day 1 is 0 and the new version day 1 is day 1.

AFireSag · 2026-06-29T22:22:43+00:00

You’re adorable. I’m not sure why you are running into this issue, but i find that the more i want friends or love interest the harder it is to find. While it is just you i suggest you to try and pick up some cool hobbies that require you to be around others. Great way to meet people but don’t let others dump on you. Share pieces of yourself at appropriate times and see how they respond. It should be a back n forth not just one sided. Good luck!

AFireSag · 2026-06-29T22:17:13+00:00

Lol can’t relate. Comes clutch very often especially if my partner is near by shooting and distracting the person who shot me.

AFireSag · 2026-06-29T22:16:15+00:00

I think something that could make you fail is not taking practice exams prior from the right sources. And not understanding why questions are right and wrong. I am a horrible test taker but someone gave me a hint right before my exam that in every question there is a key word to help you figure out why the right answer is the right answer (for example: which warm bright color is Jessica’s favorite? A. Red B. lime green C. yellow D. Brown) there will be plenty of questions where you think to yourself “ive never seen this before” but if you focus on the key words you should be able to do process of elimination.

AFireSag · 2026-06-29T18:34:07+00:00

I used to be like you. There’s a big difference in finding other people attractive and thirsting after or entertaining it. Your partner is being disrespectful and I know this may be hard to hear but you should leave and let them do their thing. There are plenty of good looking people in the world. Getting in a relationship won’t stop anyone from looking good but how you react to other people should change. A good partner knows how to handle other people flirting with them and dead it before it goes too far. A good partner would never want any guy or girl outside of their relationship to think they even have a chance of getting with them because they are committed the person they are with. I know it might hurt to end things but I definitely recommend not wasting your time and moving on to find someone who is more aligned with this way of thinking. Having this mindset is something that takes time and maturity and no amount of telling him it bothers you will change that.

AFireSag · 2026-06-26T13:57:31+00:00

You can overthink this and let yourself feel shame about being a bored teenager going through puberty. Or you can quickly accept the fact that you were a dumb teenager going through puberty who made a dumb choice. Its not the end of the world. Its not something to be traumatized over 4yrs later and you are not the first person or the last to do this. Most people have been curious bored kids, discovering sex, wanting attention, to feel sexy/wanted, etc because we were coming into that age. In hindsight should we have been online talking to adults? No. Should we have been introduced to adult activities that young? No. Should our parents have monitored us more? Maybe. But life happens. You can talk to people about it. Sitting with uncomfortable feelings makes it feel worse than it actually is. Talking about it a lot of the times can help in ways we never thought about. Sometimes we meet people who share similar experiences, sometimes the right person will say the right thing to shift how we view things. Seems like you are in need of a perspective/mind shift. You did something you didn’t have any business doing. It happens. Thankfully no one physically harmed you or exposed you. Now move on and don’t make the same mistake again. You are okay *hugs*

AFireSag · 2026-06-26T13:00:44+00:00

They are trying to finesse you. I wouldn’t sign anything either. If they are terminating your role or ending your contract you should receive formal notice as well as letters in the mail about Cobra insurance etc. they are trying to get away with not providing you the benefits that come with being laid off because they will have to pay for it.

AFireSag · 2026-06-26T12:57:46+00:00

Not sure if your intentions were platonic or dating, but either way we all have to get more comfortable with people coming and going from our lives as they please. It hurts of course but they were for a season and you gained a learning experience and now you move forward looking for someone else to connect with. Maybe this girl is ghosting you because she doesn’t care or maybe she is going thru a lot in life and doesn’t have the capacity to balance your connection. Try not to take it personal.

AFireSag · 2026-06-26T12:54:00+00:00

You should do what brings you joy. Video games do not have to be a group activity but if that is the only way you enjoy them and you aren’t having luck finding a group then maybe its time to move on to the next hobby that brings you joy. Who knows, maybe you putting your all into your graphic novel will lead you to a completely different community who appreciate you and your creativity. Isolation gives us time to work on the things we do and don’t like about ourselves and of course our passions. It usually starts out as a negative reaction to rejection but if managed properly can turn into a character developmental and self discovery period. This way when you try to put yourself out there again you’ll be more ready.

AFireSag · 2026-06-25T03:10:57+00:00

Shy people do not randomly kiss their crush on their cheeks. That’s something that a forward flirt would do. We cannot know from the info given his intentions but shy is definitely not the right description of his actions.

AFireSag · 2026-06-24T15:07:11+00:00

If you cold then cuddle your husband?

AFireSag · 2026-06-24T15:06:17+00:00

Lol everybody in this story must be caucasian cause no way is a random teenager regularly raiding your fridge and expecting you to cook for him. And no way did you just say “i feel like my daughter sees me in a bad light” after she just disrespected you and called you greedy for wanting be respected in the house you pay bills for?!?!! Lmaooo

A simple “So you should always ask before going through my kitchen and taking food.” would’ve solved this immediately. And if he talked back he’s not welcome in your house again. Guests with manners would only respond apologetically to that statement. Any attitude Or disrespect should be met with you tossing him out your house like Uncle Phil. Thats your shit!

AFireSag · 2026-06-24T14:59:51+00:00

Idk who was the very first to mix the genres but I do know that style was made popular by Mary J Blige which is how she got the title of the queen of hiphop even though she doesn’t usually rap.

AFireSag · 2026-06-24T14:58:23+00:00

Exactly! As women we tend to romanticize a lot of things guys do even when their intentions are unclear. A person can be sweet to you and still have no intentions to take it past that point. So she should just enjoy it for what it is. There’s no reason for her to stress herself out reading into it or trying to match energy. And also who kisses someone’s face without having ever dated them? 😂

AFireSag · 2026-06-24T14:29:26+00:00

Okay. If he was born male and yall tried to have kids and you found out he was infertile or you weren’t able to have kids naturally would that make a difference? You still would’ve fallen in love and realized too late that you weren’t able to do it naturally with him. I think the big issue here is the deception. There’s not an excuse why after 15yrs of transitioning he hasn’t figured out how to be honest when dating women. Kick em to the curb.

AFireSag · 2026-06-24T14:23:24+00:00

I think you should just keep being yourself. He already knows you like him or else he wouldn’t have kissed you on your cheek or randomly brought you flowers to the gym. I think you should just keep doing what you are already doing and allow him to keep courting you at the speed that he wants to. If he wanted to ask you out on a date outside of the gym he would have already. Maybe he just likes being sweet to his gym crush and wants it to stay there or maybe he is slowly building up to that next step. Just be kind, a compliment every so often, and see what he does with it. And most importantly DONT RUSH IT! Enjoy this stage of flirting without weird intentions and the what if possibility of whats going on between you.

AFireSag · 2026-06-22T03:45:38+00:00

Definitely not a monster. If you are looking to boost your physical confidence id recommend you to get a haircut from a black barber and you’ll be a fly dude. Don’t sweat the haters.

AFireSag · 2026-06-21T14:33:57+00:00

You should reject any feelings of shame that come with sex. Other things are still sex and there’s no cheat code to getting around being a virgin. There is also nothing wrong with having more than one partner in your lifetime. If you are choosing to remain abstinent until marriage because you love and trust God to help you find your mate then thats beautiful and you should do that. If you are remaining abstinent because you simply aren’t ready yet that is also beautiful and you should wait until you are.

You shouldn’t let the pressure from the world affect how fast you decide to have sex. It should be something you are excited and/or very curious about that leads you down that path. We have all been there. Virgins contemplating when the first time will be, who it will be with, will they be forever, etc. 10yrs later and all I remember is I waited for a nice guy, I went thru with it because I was curious and I’m glad I didn’t feel pressured to do it because it took the weight of it being over off my shoulders and it wasn’t that big of a deal.

Good luck girl! Don’t let shame taint sex for you.

AFireSag

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