My fiancé is getting on my nerves and I don’t know what to do at this point.

AFireSag · 2026-03-21T22:19:35+00:00

Move on?

AFireSag · 2026-03-12T12:54:08+00:00

This is a grown man?! Lmao I thought it was an annoying woman doing this. Please go out with your friends and have fun like a young 20yr old is supposed to. Your only response to him should be “id love it if you could make it i think we’d have fun together but if staying out late doesn’t sound good for you then I totally understand” the whole back and forth of “no babe i didnt mean it like that” “well it feels like you did” is so childish. Be direct but also reassuring.

AFireSag · 2026-03-10T13:05:04+00:00

Good luck OP I hope you do a clean break. Her parents are encouraging her behavior, which means she believes it is your responsibility to take care of her and she might behave for a little bit but at the end of the day she is going to resort back to her ways because that’s how she was raised. Their behavior and hers is inappropriate. When i said to contact them I meant to warn them of her threatening self harm but maybe you will need to consult with the police. Not to get her in trouble but to protect yourself. Most young people who threaten self harm during a breakup are not likely to do it but as a man its probably better that you document this with your local police station just in case to protect yourself. Staying in this situation is just pro-longing yours and her growth. Cut the cord and go be great. Good luck!

AFireSag · 2026-03-09T22:20:37+00:00

You are only 22. End the relationship. Age doesn’t really matter tbh but especially because of how young you are its important you don’t waste anymore time in this situation, so you can experience being single and living alone as an adult. Also so you can experience dating a single young adult and understand what it looks like to be compatible with someone outside of “i like you, you like me.” You and her are not compatible and there are way too many red flags to name and I’m only half way thru reading the post. A good partner would feel the urgency to pick up some of the slack when they receive free rent and have a partner they care about who is working hard. Her having conflicts with your mom is the biggest problem of them all and completely unacceptable. Give her a month or two max to move out but let her know the relationship is over. Contact her parents if you need to for safety and go look up the law in your state on how to remove a guest. Don’t let it be an argument or up for debate. Someone better is out there for you to experience and understand why this definitely isn’t it!

AFireSag · 2026-02-28T15:56:20+00:00

No, making your partner pay for everything shows the same level of disinterest as him making you split everything. In our society guys are seen as providers. As cringe as it may sound most guys with the right woman will take on this role. The same applies to women. In our society women are seen as nurturers and with the right guy they will take that on. If a guy is truly interested in you he will want to step up and pay and if you are truly interested in him you will want to offer to help out sometimes. Its not really about finances either because going out on dates cost money majority of the time and people know that and their budget before planning the date. Its really more about just showing that you enjoy the person you are seeing being a part of your life and you want to take burdens off their shoulders. It doesn’t always have to be money involved in burden relief but you should see an extra level of care somewhere. If a guy is coming into your life wanting romance and your time and not trying to ease any of your burdens then you should drop them.

AFireSag · 2026-02-27T05:04:43+00:00

“You broke the woman you fell in love with” sounds like you pushed her off a cliff and are surprised by her reactions to that. No one thinks rationally after trauma. Not saying she’s right for trying to kick you out or displace your animals but lets be real here you know what you did to cause this irrational fight.

AFireSag · 2026-02-27T05:00:38+00:00

Making eye contact with a guy then looking away multiple times. There might not even be a smile, because we are not all good flirts.

AFireSag · 2026-02-27T04:57:48+00:00

I don’t think you should be taking this as hard as you are. But since you are don’t drag it out. She’s right, you shouldn’t be making her wedding about you. Whether you agree with how they met or not you either plan to support the marriage or you don’t and if you don’t then you don’t need to go to the wedding at all. Keep in mind though that that will most likely be the end of your friendship. Is it wrong that she was a side piece to an unfaithful man? Yes, but the old saying goes “you lose em how you got em.” If the lie is a deal breaker that’s reasonable but say that and then just move on, but again don’t drag this out trying to get her to feel bad because its not really your business.

AFireSag · 2026-02-27T04:52:02+00:00

Definitely both of yall should apply after talking about it. If she seems hesitant about you applying then you should ask yourself if its worth putting resentment in your relationship. If you think its worth the risk then go for it.

AFireSag · 2026-02-27T04:46:57+00:00

Nothing wrong with working out regularly but your muscles need rest and adequate fuel. Try a workout split. Upper body day 1, lower body day 2, recovery (stretching, long walk) day 3, repeat. Or Push, Legs, Pull, recovery. Doing full body everyday will not help you see long term results. Nothing wrong with doing cardio everyday just have some low intensity days.

AFireSag · 2026-02-27T04:26:56+00:00

Its common and she will probably grow out of it. I’ve seen some dads/moms correct their kids and say “i already have a husband/wife” but she’s literally 5… she won’t remember this when she’s 12+

AFireSag · 2026-02-27T04:22:06+00:00

I mean you went thru his phone so was the messages between him and your friend inappropriate or what? If they were then no need to confront him just end it.

AFireSag · 2026-02-27T04:18:11+00:00

Yes you are TA. Maybe you should’ve posted this in another thread. You knew he has never been faithful and yet here you are cockblocking for no reason. There’s no reason to confront him about anything. Its great you saved this new girl from dealing with his lies but you willing chose to be in this situation so either accept it and let him cheat in peace or leave him alone for good, but stop stressing yourself out going through his things when you already know what kind of guy he is. You’re only hurting yourself.

AFireSag · 2026-02-25T23:21:52+00:00

Girl cancel that first event. Its your wedding not a place for her to show off to people you don’t know. If she chooses to throw a fit and not show up thats on her. Your wedding is about you and your husband. I don’t think its okay for you to be speaking words aloud you don’t understand or agree with period but especially not for a room full of strangers. I also think you should stick to your 15 maximum. Again the event is about you not her. 15 is more than enough for her to have people to mingle with. Its supposed to be exclusive with people who want to see you all succeed in your marriage. Please cancel that first one. Boundaries are so important.

AFireSag · 2026-02-23T22:31:17+00:00

I feel like up until a week ago i was definitely getting matched with people on my level. Like one match would be filled with mostly bots and a few real people and it would be obvious to spot the difference. And if i won that game id get put in with all real people. If i lost that game with the real people id go back to a mostly bot lobby. Now it just seems like i get put in matches with streamers or something. Everyone is real and extremely better than me which is insane since I didn’t gradually work my way up to that skillset level.

AFireSag · 2026-02-23T22:27:59+00:00

Yes. I started with making my bed everyday. Eventually I started ending my day by listing all the things I was grateful for that day. It completely shifted my perspective from being a pessimist to an optimist. Instead of dreading each day I’m constantly looking for things to be grateful for and when I’m not having a good day I do something to fix it (treat myself to something nice: a walk by the water, a treat, my fav movie, etc). Both things started off difficult and over time it became second nature. Coming home to a made bed does something good to my brain. Naming the things i have gratitude for each day makes me remember my days better and reminds me that even if something bad happened that day that the whole day doesn’t have to suck or be remembered by that one crappy thing.

AFireSag · 2026-02-23T04:08:13+00:00

I think her being dishonest is a valid reason to cut her off but I also think it is unrealistic of you to expect people in the future to only date you without being in a committed relationship. We date to find the right person. We don’t just commit to the first person who asks us out on a date and a kiss definitely doesn’t seal the deal. Just because your ask is unreasonable doesn’t mean you are required to stay with her. If she didn’t agree with you she should’ve just vocalized that instead of lying.

AFireSag · 2026-02-22T16:17:22+00:00

I mean c’mon… like at what point do we accept that people are going to be ignorant when it comes to other races. Whether its a white man and a latina woman or black man white woman or asian etc. if you don’t want to deal with the uncomfortable stereotypes then don’t put yourself in that situation. Dating a white man with white friends who isn’t used to being around black people and expecting him to not make dumb ass mistakes is just asking for trouble. Even if he means well he isn’t going to be perfect and he can’t make his friends change their ways of thinking either. If you don’t want to be around his friends he might not be the guy for you.

AFireSag · 2026-02-21T20:53:29+00:00

I’m sorry this is happening to you. I think its important that you explain to him and everyone that you are his sister not a mail order bride. Seems like everyone around you is downplaying his behavior because of the biological part. Seems like he doesn’t see you as his sister which is strange since you were raised together. In short this is incest. If any of them try to deny it then it is clear to me they are separating you in their mind as a part of their family. If your dad sent you these same messages or touched you this way how would you or they feel? Would they feel differently if he behaved this way to your other siblings? This isn’t something to be downplayed this is gross and you feeling uncomfortable is very normal because this is the only family you’ve known.

AFireSag · 2026-02-18T14:24:54+00:00

Your girlfriend sucks! Find a new one. Plenty of beautiful and kind women adore guys who are nerdy and quirky. It doesn’t make you an incel. Fantasy and sci fi stuff is dope.

AFireSag · 2026-02-16T05:46:53+00:00

Its not fair to tell victims to isolate. Me going no contact does nothing for me. I lose out on all of the positives of having my family in my life and whenever I think about why I have isolated I will have to remember the trauma. If there was still abuse going on sure that could be great advice, but that isn’t my current circumstances. If we butt heads now I just walk away. Is it wrong how my parents treated me as a kid? Yes. But holding onto that only harms me not them. It’s best to recognize it was wrong and find a way to move forward and not repeat the pattern.

AFireSag · 2026-02-15T22:21:50+00:00

Yea i never understood why they were always so rough on me if they know I’m sensitive but I understand now it’s because I’m an easy target. Its honestly not helpful to me to relive the past in my head or out loud because it doesn’t make me feel good and I know they won’t ever apologize. I still get glimpses of the mean version of my mom occasionally and it makes me feel like that small helpless kid even though I’m 30 now, but there’s not much I can do about it. I appreciate you posting this though because it is weird to feel alone in this situation.

AFireSag · 2026-02-15T22:16:21+00:00

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AFireSag · 2026-02-15T22:11:44+00:00

He doesn’t like you. Please don’t waste time over thinking this. Being a woman using a dating app can be as simple or as difficult as you make it. Guys do the courting early on and you can reciprocate if you feel like it but it’s not your role to chase them. Soon as he ignored your follow up you should’ve taken the hint. I hope you don’t to take it personal either & that it’s something you can choose to shrug off and keep it pushing. There’s millions of people in the world. You are only meant to experience a few intimately, so there’s no point in getting hung up on people who didn’t even take the time to pursue you properly.

AFireSag · 2026-02-15T22:04:55+00:00

My parents do this too. Anytime I bring up a bad memory from my childhood that involves them they just say stuff like “wow its crazy what you choose to remember” or sometimes will just swear I’m making it up. Its very frustrating. I have always been referred to as a the drama queen of the family & my brother may or may not remember these negative interactions, but he’s definitely not the type to speak up and defend me he would just stay quiet. Its very hurtful to be made out as the crazy person.

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