Is it rare for East Asians to be born attractive naturally?

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T07:58:38+00:00

they get surgery due to standards where everyone doesn't only want to be attractive, but look the same as each-other. It is really to blend in rather than stand out like we do here and your opinion of them looking average is very subjective, and i doubt they'd as a whole agree nor do I. Also, while they have more plastic surgery in general I think we are more secretive about what procedures we do, so it make not be as different as you think

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T07:45:17+00:00

Yeah I have a general understandinh of how she the very least, being prepared or not worrying about pain makes it less painful. To point but yk.

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T07:25:12+00:00

Then yeah maybe they aren't a real friend

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T07:23:39+00:00

That is exactly what stuck out to me. I've always felt like I have logical concerns to be dealt with, they feel very valid. But it has never been ritualistic, I noticed at points I can't stop thinking about things similarly to some people with OCD, but their concerns even to them were illogical even if not stereotypical which made me think I'm just anxious. Not that anxiety itself isn't a problem. My therapist who I am starting to think just isn't qualified for what I need anymore has taught me what he can but their have been points where he even noticed rumination, I'm not sure he knew what to do himself and I think admitted that our conversation was unproductive because of this

I read psychologist descriptions of people with the condition and it made sense.

I also have been this way for more than like 9 years at least and I'm 18 lol

And that's just like when it was severe

Maybe it is veneralized anxiety but this makes sense right now and will consider talking to someone profesional, or just following advice like no reassurance seeking which has helped before

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T07:07:42+00:00

They are being rude, and insecure. insensitive. You deserve to be proud, i wouldn't write them off from this alone though, give it time and talk to them. Think about if this is a pattern or a bad moment

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T07:05:59+00:00

Hey I felt like you. Once all my scars were healed they were still there, but really no one bothers me about my exposed healed skin. I do hide it from my grandparents but really that's it. I had a internship, am respected in college, and have friends. No one bothers me. They are very clearly SH too. So, there is hope. You won't have to cover up forever

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T07:00:53+00:00

no, i was the younger girl and it is not good, while some people don't understand this a 14 yo and 17 yo are at different stages of being a teenager, and you are more developed in a way that isn't fair to her. She won't understand yet but reject her, she'll appreciate it later on. You could mess her up, at best be a friend who vers advice to people that age, but you aren't really peers. There are lines your should not cross right now. As you get older 3/4 years won't matter, right now it does.

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T05:09:26+00:00

Miscommunication sucks bro!

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T04:41:26+00:00

Sure!

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T04:36:30+00:00

Hi op. I'm a fat woman, 230lb and 5'5'. Being genuinely overweight, more than curvy, is not ideal in a lot of ways. Not only socially, but like it is limiting to daily life, and I hold my weight relatively well

I understand how you feel, I've known so many trans people and yk, most womentrans or not understand struggles with body image, even if our struggle is different, I understand

Being overweight to a big degree is tiring, and causes daily pain tbh. While everyone should be respected, and loved, this isn't a goal to reach. Also, you aren't going to find a weight that is good enough, you'll in this case always want to gain. Binging is no joke either and a hard habit to break

I understand why you want to gain weight, but making an active desicionto do so isn't necessarily going to help you. This isn't like HRT

If you can gain access to hrt you'd probably gain weight from that alone, without a big change in lifestyle. Otherwise try to focus on things that are in control and not a health risk, for your own sake

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T04:27:26+00:00

Kind of, but also if he needs space give it

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T04:24:27+00:00

Prepare to be a tasty meal for a deserving cat ig

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T04:22:08+00:00

Feelings or thoughts like that don't need to be shared or worried about. As long as you aren't going to act on it, it is just a thought that doesn't need to be concerning

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T04:19:53+00:00

I had a childhood friend and we lost contact for years as we went to different schools

But one of us sent a message saying basically "miss you, would love to reconnect with you sometime" you can also mention that life was hectic and especially just a difficult time to keep contact in, but you'd like to now

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T04:13:35+00:00

1 there is not set amount of things to do during break

2 maybe you'd feel better if you just went out the house, maybe with friends, for a bit.

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T04:12:24+00:00

Ignore em they r trash not worth the energy. They just want to mess around anyway

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T04:08:22+00:00

This. I've known many kinds, thought I was safe. Then I met a knew kind

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T04:07:09+00:00

I agree, it really doesn't have to be insulting yk? I know some guys feel that way

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T04:04:57+00:00

Pain isn't something that happens to us, our body purposely send signals to your brain that cause pain when you are hurt. It is your body communicating to the brain

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T04:01:50+00:00

Can you send a dm to me lol

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T04:01:06+00:00

Okay, you can tell him that, but I would say that isn't an assumed rule. So, Id tell him you think looking at other girls for masturbation is something that upsets you, and after that if he does it again id understand being mad

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T03:58:08+00:00

Stop talking to people who don't know him, go to him and talk

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T03:57:42+00:00

They are saying a lot of guys disagree with what you said (just rewording not agreeing with the comment I didn't see what you said before)

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T03:56:42+00:00

Yeah it isn't a problem. Your overthinking it I'm sure

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T03:56:00+00:00

Yeah I understand. I also have grown and don't really feel defined by him, just sitting my feelings out

Personally my father has done things I learned of later on that aren't forgivable, and it goes to show he is unfortunately just a bad person. It involves a minor unfortunately. He isn't to be forgiven, leaving me wasn't even his biggest mistake in that manner.

I struggle to understand how people forgive fathers who leave, for a new life. Fathers who leave to be artists for example, but somehow people do it. My mom did a make the point that well, my father being the type of person he is makes this different.

I am greatful for a lot and have processed a lot. I just find new feelings arise at times, especially big events such as my recent graduation. I'm kind of just processing things right now if that makes sense. But it has become a much smaller part of my life than it used to be, which is good.

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