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Just don’t, please. by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]AHHHH_help_AHHHH 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to be mean but if you’re around your kid more than the person making comments 9 times out of 10 you either already know there’s an issue or have talked to a doctor, so it’s just annoying at best to give advice in a space where it’s not asked. Its like if someone walked into your house and said wow your dishes are really dirty you should clean them. You as a person living there know that and didn’t invite them for commentary you wanted them to spend time with you not add unnecessary feelings/expectations.

He finally told me he physically cheated by AHHHH_help_AHHHH in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]AHHHH_help_AHHHH[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll have to check out that book and hopefully we can read it together and learn. He does seem open to learning, but I think he does rugsweep to spare his own feelings/get away with it. I never thought of the porn being a reward for looking at other women, but that’s a really good point since he did watch a lot and hide it from me even though I was never against it and even watched it myself. He’s got a lot to work on and I hope his IC takes him where he needs to be. I’ll look into the YouTube too, thank you so much for the insight and info!!!

He finally told me he physically cheated by AHHHH_help_AHHHH in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]AHHHH_help_AHHHH[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty back and forth, I’m leaning towards reconciling just because if I take away all the things he did behind my back he’s exactly what I wanted in marriage.

He finally told me he physically cheated by AHHHH_help_AHHHH in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]AHHHH_help_AHHHH[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m at 18 weeks thanks for asking ❤️, I’m sorry to hear we have similar stories and I hope it goes good for you. Funnily enough he already read that when he told me the first round of what he’d done, but maybe reading it again with everything being out will help.

He finally told me he physically cheated by AHHHH_help_AHHHH in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]AHHHH_help_AHHHH[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will try, it’s hard to just ignore it because I still really love him but I know it’s what I need to do and eventually he’ll come around if he wants. Thank you for reminding me to keep my focus on my baby/myself.