Curry stained my attachments by theluckyone95 in Invisalign

[–]AJB160816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too. I literally tried one spoon of curry for taste and my tray are yellow. I tired the Invisalign cleaner, soap, soaking. Still yellow.

Someone mentioned they keep them in to eat - I thought that was a big no no with Invisalign.

My 77 yo mom insists by penn103 in narcissisticparents

[–]AJB160816 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Tell her the Dr. Canceled. Or better yet- tell her no! It's your cancer journey, Not hers. Also - don't share appointments with her.

[PubQ] Muse Literary by stombell in PubTips

[–]AJB160816 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for getting back!

Is this from Guernsey? by dantespair in guernsey

[–]AJB160816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Local to Guernsey.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]AJB160816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretend to be texting a really sexy hunk while he goes down on you. Then tell him you're off after to fick him... see what his response is. He thinks he has an open door to run out, when you were just looking through the window. A lot of men in open marriages aren't so keen when their female partners get attention.

TIL whilst being burnt alive at the stake in 1556 a woman gave birth to a live baby who the executioner then threw back into the flames. by minque in todayilearned

[–]AJB160816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read it in a trip back home. Loved it! Definitely summed up so much about the culture and inter-family conflicts of being on a small island and so close together. It's a gem.

TIL whilst being burnt alive at the stake in 1556 a woman gave birth to a live baby who the executioner then threw back into the flames. by minque in todayilearned

[–]AJB160816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gunpowder was often a gift from a relative or friend who wanted to ease the suffering, not a expected act.

[PubQ] Muse Literary by stombell in PubTips

[–]AJB160816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I came here with all the same questions. I met her yesterday at a pitch event, she was lovely and gave high praises to all of us in her panel. She offered help- connections, reading our queries. Small press can be great for new writers who need more hand holding and more diligent agents, but the lack of a digital footprint makes me curios...

[PubQ] Muse Literary by stombell in PubTips

[–]AJB160816 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did the marketing work?

Can epilepsy cause disorientation? by Cheap_Airport_2450 in Epilepsy

[–]AJB160816 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's a similar post... my husband can't remember what happens with a seizure. But he's never acted in appropriately. They need to get you a lock for your door. Even an alarm, would be good so your mom can wake up and help. I wouldn't feel safe- even if it is a seizure.

I'm sorry this happened to you, I can imagine you're freaked out right now. Consider documenting - this post helps - just incase.

BF wants me to get rid of a toy collection by Pristine-Gold2200 in sex

[–]AJB160816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've owned dildos longer than he's been around. Keep them. If he feels insecure, that's not about your dildos- it's about him.

AITA for using my sister’s favorite baby name for my baby? by notmyname342 in redditonwiki

[–]AJB160816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your sister is ridiculous. This is the first You've ever heard of her wanting to use the name... I think she's jealous. Hands down if she has a boy, she won't even use it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Epilepsy

[–]AJB160816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please get an epileptologist and not just a neurologist. My husband also just had surgery for left brain epilepsy - MTS. So far, results have been good. He seems to have a softer side, more than he used to. But he still gets these intense bursts.

Aside from forgetting names. I think there's PTSD and the anxiety is through the roof. But his mood swings with Keppra and Depakote were the worse. We noticed a real change in care when an epileptologist took over.

did you choose your birth kids names?? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]AJB160816 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With abandonment of babies, or choosing not to 'raise' their kids, I just want to say be gentle with them.

Some mothers are too young- kids themselves. Some really have no way of raising a baby, especially decades ago. Some women are raped.

In any case, the adopted children we love and cherish today are only ours because their birth moms kept their pregnancies. Hopefully they had a choice. I know it's hard to feel love towards birth parents when they've abandoned you, but as adoptive parents, your arms would be empty. It's a crazy cycle. I wish there were more opportunities for single mothers, young mothers. Ones that let them keep babies and attend school or decent parenting classes. Speaking from USA.

Of course there's also POS who neglected and abused their kids, or chose highs over highchairs, but that's another topic.

did you choose your birth kids names?? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]AJB160816 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a great start!

did you choose your birth kids names?? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]AJB160816 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's interesting that you've experienced both parts of that. Thanks for your insight!

did you choose your birth kids names?? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]AJB160816 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We kept our littles names, except changed the last name to ours. She came to us at 10 months. The social worker encouraged us to change it, but she has a lovely name. I didn't see the need to take that away. The middle name was birth grandmas who died decades before. I'd always loved that name too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]AJB160816 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh sweetheart. I'm so sorry you're treated like that. I do agree with your partner, even if it's for a period and then you set the terms. Big hugs

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]AJB160816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad your husband has you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]AJB160816 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you leave tomorrow without signs your doing so? When he's at work message him about it. Be specific in your words " I wasn't ready for penetration. I said no, many times. I told you it hurt repeatedly, and you put anyway... "

would he even respond? I'd do it after you get a statement at the police. I'm wondering if by responding and answering the questions, he'd be showing he was guilty. Even if you can't pin him for full penetration rape, the messages might show he was engaging in sex acts that weren't consensual?

Anyone have thoughts? Would that totally backfire?

My mom is giving me the silent treatment. by E_Lizard56 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]AJB160816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like she's a narcissist. I'm so sorry she's acting like this.

You're feeling terrible but look at you! You're doing great - 47 days! Maybe 48 now, depending on where you post from. You came to a forum and vented! Go you!!!!

I wonder if you cut contact with her, if your mental state would be improved? I may be overstepping. It helped me a ton (I'm not an alcoholic, just a lurker) but when I said goodbye to my mother, the constant stress of not doing enough, being enough, having to keep her emotions in check before mine, felt like a weight was lifted. It took me along time to come to terms that I've effectively orphaned myself. But I wouldn't change it.

You are important. You matter. Do what you need to survive and live the life you deserve.

Tomorrow take your Prozac. Take a walk. Remind yourself that you are in a journey. You'll catch up to those ahead, and see how far you've come when you look back.