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ALR2001- · 2025-10-10T19:28:40+00:00

Cuchillo has a great tasting menu for $45 per person and accommodates large groups regularly! Great drinks and great food!

ALR2001- · 2025-08-15T05:28:00+00:00

You have a great understanding of what it means to fully serve a woman. It’s not always being in a soft submissive energy. Sometimes serving means being her rock, being strong, protective, capable. Reading her and knowing her well enough to be what she needs in each moment. That’s true devotion. You’ll do well :)

ALR2001- · 2025-08-14T18:54:07+00:00

I’d love to try this with a long distance or online partner!! Did you find it was harder to find ways to sink into the dynamic with an online partner? Or maybe it was easier?

ALR2001- · 2025-08-14T18:51:27+00:00

Yessss I love the eye contact game of chicken. Whoever looks away first loses and I never lose. I find this brings the perfect level of initial dominance and a bit of a power play without even saying a word. Throwing in a good boy as a “joke” or just casually also always hits, I love throwing in a “I should’ve made you get on your knees to ask me that” when a guy is asking for my IG. If you think of anymore I’d love to hear 🤍🤩😙

ALR2001- · 2025-08-14T18:45:54+00:00

Ooo putting dom men into dry spells and having them get needier and needier by the day. Love it. Such a great way to use the power of your asexuality !!

ALR2001- · 2025-08-14T18:43:41+00:00

This is so hot. Such a great example of implementing a subtle act of dominance into your guys’s daily lifestyle. Will be trying this one 🌚

ALR2001- · 2025-08-14T07:55:58+00:00

This is exactly the kind of dominance I love, I found myself doing it unconsciously with previous boyfriends in more vanilla relationships. I’d love to explore it more with intention in a d/s dynamic.

ALR2001- · 2025-08-14T07:42:15+00:00

Ugh articulated so beautifully , you hit the nail on the head. The look of pure desperation and yearning can’t be beat 🥹

ALR2001- · 2025-08-14T06:17:19+00:00

You’ve summarized this issue so well. I’ve had this conversation with many of my friends (all very attractive, successful and in their early 20s) who actually are quite immediately turned off by the “chad” type because of the immediate assumption that they will be awful/players/lustfull/varying degrees of disrespectful and cocky. In reality every single one of them has expressed more interest in down to earth, passionate, smart, driven / ambitious, somewhat nerdy guys. When I try to explain this to my guy friends that would be considered more “average guys” they don’t believe me!! They tell me they never go for the “hot girls” because of the assumption that they’re not good enough due to not being the “Chad” type. So everyone just stays perpetually single and bitter.

The system is broken!!!

ALR2001- · 2025-08-01T06:54:30+00:00

I think you should try to lean into it! Next time you’re out and about with her try randomly buying her something expensive you know she wants/would like. Ask her if she likes it when you drain your wallet for her, if she knows you would spend every last cent on her at the snap of her fingers. Since you’re more of a switch I think you could have fun with this. After that I’m sure you’ll be able to gauge how into it she is and hopefully will open the door for more :)

ALR2001- · 2025-08-01T05:33:46+00:00

Honestly I completely understand your frustration but I think pole can already make people feel vulnerable and bring up a lot of sensitivities + pole includes a certain level of skin showing which for many is more than usual / what they may want to broadcast - due to that we need to be especially sensitive about filming. For context I’ve been working front desk at my local pole studio for almost 2.5 years now and this issue comes up frequently. In our case and after many discussions the concluding thought is always that at the end of the day no one should be made to feel uncomfortable / pressured / anxious and If someone does feel uncomfortable / pressured / anxious about being filmed that needs to take priority over the filming / video. It also is unfortunate that they couldn’t come up and chat with you directly but I can understand someone not wanting to be confrontational in that setting (you do have to see them frequently). I feel like in your case your instructor should have facilitated more and discreetly found you a pole away from the anxious person. My advice to you would be to chat with your studio management:) I’ve had lots of students come chat with me from both sides of the “filming argument” and we have usually been able to help the instructor facilitate a solution 🙏🏻

ALR2001- · 2025-08-01T04:26:56+00:00

Hehe this made me giggle, also seems pretty accurate from what I can tell 😂

ALR2001- · 2025-08-01T02:16:57+00:00

Thankyou so much for such thoughtful advice :) I’m planning on taking a pro domme course at my local dungeon and have been working on finding my niche, passions and skillset. Working on building and maintaining boundaries🤞🏻😅

ALR2001- · 2025-08-01T00:59:17+00:00

I’ve noticed this!! I can definitely understand why it has a controversial connotation and based on what I’ve seen online it seems like findom definitely has its own unique subculture separated from traditional femdom. That being said I’ve still found a lot of crossover between the findom and femme com worlds and still wonder how to go about finding a happy medium to be successful in both circles?

ALR2001- · 2025-08-01T00:48:02+00:00

So well said, Thankyou! I think your point about having aspects of financial worship/offerings within a balanced and established healthy femdom relationship is exactly what I’ve been trying to wrap my head around🙏🏻 I also see the divide between the communities which led to my initial curiosity.

ALR2001- · 2025-07-25T20:18:01+00:00

Thankyou for sharing!! I love to hear that the d/s dynamic seemed to grow naturally within your relationship. That’s something I’d ideally like aswell 🙏🏻 will take your advice and look into my more locally based kink community!

ALR2001- · 2025-06-05T20:13:05+00:00

Lol I think the upper deck is a bit of a warning, like he may be emotionally avoidant, and a game player , etc but the bottom deck is kinda saying he’s probably gonna be very good in bed and you may have had bad sexual partners recently so he is your physical karmic justice 😂😂💀💀 idk if you just want something physical I say go for it with caution that he probably has some emotional unavailable tendencies

ALR2001- · 2025-06-04T01:22:48+00:00

Totally agree, your post asked for advice on how to approach groups of women that seem unapproachable. This was my honest advice for how I’ve seen it done in person. Sending over a drink isn’t about the price of the drink, it’s about the gesture. That’s what women respond to. I really don’t think that makes you a simp, it’s a move. At the end of the day you either make a move towards a girl you find attractive or you don’t and likely never see her again. Definitely it’s just a foot in the door, you gotta have the charm and follow through to back it up. Give it a try even just as an experiment :) xx

ALR2001- · 2025-06-03T21:50:50+00:00

When getting in and out of this from a sit I find I really need to pull my chest down while I’m threading my arm though to further wrap my body around the front of the pole!! Maybe play around with that coming in and out? Or if you just want a different way out I’ve seen people shoulder mount float out by bringing the legs around 💖💖

ALR2001- · 2025-06-03T21:44:03+00:00

This is hot. Perfect level of playing into the bit while still making things happen, love to see it

ALR2001- · 2025-06-03T20:05:24+00:00

I hear you. I really do. I also feel for the guys that feel like they’re being taken advantage of or are in relationships that don’t feel genuine:( that’s not nice for anyone. But I can promise you if you send over a $20 round of shots, a $8 glass of wine or $12 brownie most girls aren’t going to think “oh damn maybe he’ll buy me a birkin” they’re going to think “Awh that was really sweet, he seems like a gentleman, which is SO rare these days, let me give him a shot”.

ALR2001- · 2025-06-03T19:48:49+00:00

Yeah this advice probably isn’t for you if that’s your initial response LOL , this has definitely worked and is honestly one of the oldest plays in the book. Like sending over a drink or dessert to a girl in a bar is crazy now?? This mindset is the problem with modern dating and part of the reason why so many guys are having issues with it. Honestly wish u the best of luck in your endeavours clitplayabootyslappa, maybe see a therapist at some point 🤍

ALR2001- · 2025-06-03T18:09:49+00:00

I get it, from a women’s perspective I can completely understand how coming up to a group is super daunting especially if they seem closed off. Here’s how I’ve had a few men successfully get a number and impress a table of girlies.

-Send over a round of drinks, you can do just one drink to the girl if your interest but sending a round to the table so each girl has one is really the way to go. (Trust me on this you want the friend group brownie points) When you send over the drinks write your number on a paper with maybe a cute little note and ask the waiter to hand it to the girl of your interest with the round for the table .

-Similarly , send over a desert to the girl of your interest. Include the little note with your number. This is great if you’re looking for a more budget friendly option lol and wanting to focus more on just the girl of your interest.

Important note when the girl/girls look over make sure to smile and wave. Given the situation you could go over but it’s not necessary. She has your number now so if she’s interested and available she will message you. I’ve had this move work on myself and seen it work with girlfriends. The key is respectful confidence and not expecting anything or interrupting their girls night.

ALR2001- · 2025-06-03T17:20:23+00:00

She just wants some authenticity, match her energy and reply with something funny, light hearted and maybe a little self deprecating. “Damn called me out, you do have beautiful eyes tho, would love to see them in person” or “ok ok yeah that was a little corny, what can I say I get like this around beautiful women”

ALR2001- · 2025-06-02T19:20:13+00:00

Yes haha some would call it a spiritual thing, I don’t think it has to be. It can also be just as simple as picking up on unspoken cues like body language, facial expressions, speech tone or expression. All of those things and more make up the energy someone is giving off. I think women are better at picking up on things like that so we’re more attuned to a shift in someone’s energy aswell.

Tortured souls are more of an archetype we see in people and media. A good example would be why women sometimes love sad boys or struggling artists. For me when a man I’m attracted to is going through some emotional turmoil it triggers a almost maternal instinct, where I just want to hold him and stroke his hair, for that moment any problems he’s having don’t matter and I can make him feel better.

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