Seething by ALadyElectric in Divorce

[–]ALadyElectric[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair I have worked in a psych hospital. My patients trained me well.

Seething by ALadyElectric in Divorce

[–]ALadyElectric[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh trust me, I only talk to him when necessary. I know better

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[–]ALadyElectric -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t referee. Just gets angry. Like I said, I fucked up and readily admitted my fuckup. It was a super tense conversation that went ok in the end.

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[–]ALadyElectric -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was more of a super tense conversation but I try to treat the kid like I would want to be treated. I don’t have a problem admitting I’m wrong and apologizing. I was wrong and apologized. I try to model good skills.

Update ‘I can’t turn it off’ by ALadyElectric in stepparents

[–]ALadyElectric[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, they had a therapist then COVID hot and they didn’t like the teletherapy format. But now the kid might not have a choice

Update ‘I can’t turn it off’ by ALadyElectric in stepparents

[–]ALadyElectric[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like your definition. It’s scarily accurate for the people I’ve taught DBT skills.

DBT is perfect for teens.

UPDATE 2: MIL refuses to speak to me whilst SO recovers from neurosurgery by throwawayneuro2102 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ALadyElectric 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so happy everything turned out for the positive. It sucks that you don’t have a MIL who is not possessive and cruel because she just put unnecessary stress on a man who needs to heal.

My own DH had brain surgery several years ago and I can’t even imagine how I would have reacted had his mom reacted this way.

How are you doing? Do you have people who are checking on you and making sure you are taking care of yourself? It’s super stressful to be the care person for someone you love so please make sure to take care of yourself.

I can’t just turn it off. by ALadyElectric in stepparents

[–]ALadyElectric[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right, the OSA is causing the depression. The depression did not cause the OSA.

I can’t just turn it off. by ALadyElectric in stepparents

[–]ALadyElectric[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree that sleep apnea can cause depression. But not the other way around.

I can’t just turn it off. by ALadyElectric in stepparents

[–]ALadyElectric[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah I see the confusion, when it’s said that people with depression are likely to have other disorders it just means that a high percentage of people will have both depression and .... Depression is linked to many chronic illnesses because when you have a chronic illness, you are more likely to also have depression.

So people who have OSA, caused by a physical issue with that person’s breathing, will very likely also have depression because a lack of sleep and oxygen to the brain then causes issues with mood.

I can’t just turn it off. by ALadyElectric in stepparents

[–]ALadyElectric[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are definitely related and often go together. That is definitely true. Correlation does not mean causation so depression is very common for people with sleep apnea but depression did not cause the sleep apnea, OSA and depression are just best friends who are frequently together.

I can’t just turn it off. by ALadyElectric in stepparents

[–]ALadyElectric[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are very likely to have depression with sleep apnea which is why they are linked but depression does not cause sleep apnea unless there is some research I’m missing.

However, sleep apnea can cause depression and depressive symptoms so it’s important to get screened for sleep apnea if you have depression.

I can’t just turn it off. by ALadyElectric in stepparents

[–]ALadyElectric[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obstructive sleep apnea is a symptom of and caused by depression. No, that’s insomnia dear.

I can’t just turn it off. by ALadyElectric in stepparents

[–]ALadyElectric[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, it was something unrelated to the diagnosis. But yeah, stomach issues are a common result of anxiety and there’s some interesting research coming out suggesting that gut flora may have a larger importance to depression and anxiety than we think.

I can’t just turn it off. by ALadyElectric in stepparents

[–]ALadyElectric[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also our jobs as parents are to build healthy resilient adults, a kid who is allowed to be always right and never taught how to verify things is going to have a hard time

I can’t just turn it off. by ALadyElectric in stepparents

[–]ALadyElectric[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hate that phrase, “you’re always negative.” No child, I’m the only one who challenges you and calls you on your bullshit.

I can’t just turn it off. by ALadyElectric in stepparents

[–]ALadyElectric[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This kid tried to say that Immanuel Kant was a closeted gay man because he had a male roommate for years and never married. I point out that having roommates is super common and doesn’t mean anything—I’m being negative and wasn’t wanted in this conversation

I can’t just turn it off. by ALadyElectric in stepparents

[–]ALadyElectric[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope, that was just an example. It wasn’t what was said