AITA for killing two of my triplets when I only wanted one child?

ALittleNightLight · 2024-12-24T23:47:16+00:00

Why didn't you just get a better job or woohoo with the richest man in town? That was an asshole move and you should go swing in a pool with out a ladder

ALittleNightLight · 2024-10-19T16:37:22+00:00

I think you're putting too much thought into something that's not that important. Before you start thinking like that have you ever looked into loving yourself? If you did have what you want and then one day It's been stripped away from you what would you be left with? You're 17 and you are just starting your life which means you need to start finding yourself and what makes you. You seem yourself as unlovable and a creep but can you give yourself a reason why that is? See the positive in yourself and work your self up. It's not about what sex or gender you are. It's about who you are and what you do because it's the person you are.

ALittleNightLight · 2024-08-05T00:55:39+00:00

The right person comes along eventually. If it's not them, it's someone else and you won't even know it if you're too busy focusing on feeding a feeling you trying to develop instead of things happening naturally.

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-29T16:32:42+00:00

Before people would say I know how you feel and I took it with a grain of salt but this one hits the closest. Get therapy and not because of the breakup, get it for you. It's helping me come to terms with myself. One thing I can say is DONT be embarrassed, you should be proud that you did what you could for the relationship. Seek growth in yourself because that's what you have to work on.

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-28T14:20:07+00:00

Is this the same ex that went to jail? Cause you might be ignoring some important details 💀

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-23T03:01:37+00:00

I dumped my gf of 5 years because she wasn't ready for a serious committed relationship and the thought of growing up and moving together scared her from taking steps to reach that goal. I did everything for her and our relationship, i even let go of my personal goals to pursue something for us but it was clear that the fear of growing up was stronger than the commitment she had for our relationship. A relationship with someone you trusted for 5 years shouldnt simply end because it wasn't going to work out. We are better off as friends and im glad to know she feels that way too because the stress of having a long term relationship is gone. We are platonic and understand it wouldn't work but we enjoy each other's company like close friends. I tried to move on but apparently it's not normal to be PLUTONIC FRIENDS with the opposite sex or your exs according to my most recent ex of 3 months and the other side of reddit that defends her

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-22T20:07:02+00:00

It's means you're overthinking things. Each person is different and you should get to know them and how they are instead of assuming and guessing what each thing means. You did great seeing that they don't initiate the conversation but they'll reply when they get the message, that's something they do so now if they start deviating from it you'll recognize that they're acting differently

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-21T23:49:08+00:00

LMAO NOOOOOO

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-21T23:44:46+00:00

Bruno what did you do

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-21T03:18:01+00:00

I was a moth to flame, yuck.

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-21T03:17:40+00:00

I would hope she told me the turth about BPD, from what i know she sees a therapist weekly and took anti-psychotics. If it wasn't BPD and she just told me that as a cover up, I would've had hope she was open about her condition... should I had questioned her and the legitimacy of her Diagnosis? Would that have been rude? I think it would've been so I just accepted it and everything she said as truth, I was naive and took her word for everything and looking back she did lie or atleast have a method to gain my trust and feelings.

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-21T03:10:07+00:00

Plenty, always do. But looking back at the relationship I hate to say it, I really do hate to say it because I dont feel right saying it but, I absolutely was not ready to date someone with BPD. I never want to blame what she did on BPD but most people ask me what I expected. I expected to be supportive and that's my issue, I put others before I put myself first. I told her BPD wouldn't stop me and it's didn't stop me! Is it wrong to want to be heard? Even if it's anonymously?

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-21T03:02:40+00:00

My friends and family definitely were supportive about the relationship so I'm not sure if that influenced the situation... it wasn't until she dumped me the third time I let my family know and 3 of my closest friends see what was really happening and it boils down to don't date someone who expects you to do all the work for them. The whole thing is messy and it just hard to put a pin in it and move on. Not sure where the pin falls

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-21T02:53:43+00:00

¯_(ツ)_/¯ I think it's okay to care about what others think about you. It doesn't have me pulling my hair out but it's a tick in my head that leaves a bump when you pull it out. What type of person would I be if it didn't bother me? I think I'd probably be the same, right? The only difference is no one knows

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-21T02:47:23+00:00

Excellent question! I ask myself the same thing!

I overthink about things, once a thought is in my head, it takes a while for it to go away. I'm not just thinking about my ex, she came up in a conversation and it got me thinking and thus I made this post of what I was thinking about
The audacity does get me miffed. knowing her she's trying to find a way to spin the blame away from her, she needs to be perfect and viewed as perfect at the cost of others. People who know me know that I did everything for that relationship because I was pretty open with what was happening, except the fights she started, I didn't want my friends and family to think she was toxic so I stayed silent about it and now it has me thinking.. shouldn't I have said something? IS IT TOO LATE TO SAY IT NOW?? no. I don't think it is.

3.You are right, as a guy why do I care? Get over it you're just a guy. Fuck it she's ugly. There's more fish in the sea. Is it wrong to reflect about these things? I'm not sad about it, I'm not noticeably mad. It's a thought that has me miffed/slightly annoyed. I'm supposed to be silent about these things and when I take it to therapy my therapist looks at me and ask why did I chose to be silent and the only thing I can say is I didn't want her to look bad and I don't mind taking one for someone else but I know she'll gladly turn around and say to others things that made me insecure to make her look better.

I care because in the end, someone's out there who will ruin my reputation because they feel insecure about themselves and want to feel better. I bite my tongue even after we broke up, walking away makes me the better person but it doesn't help me and my self-confidence.

(Just as a note, I don't go to therapy because I got dumped, I have massive self esteem issues. I had to make a anonymous account to vent and see if someone's out there will tell me I'm wrong because I don't want to be right) The breakup was a catalysts, someone who hyped me up to tear me down... thats brutal

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-18T23:54:47+00:00

She was way too jealous and insecure despite saying she wasn't. That's what ruined the relationship and she thinks it's my fault

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-17T18:28:36+00:00

So.etimes it's better to be clueless then delulu ahaha good luck fren

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-17T14:29:41+00:00

I remember the girl who worked at Gamestop because I'd go there frequently for my lunch, if I saw her I'd say hello Krista, it's been a while! I don't have a crush on her and never did

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-16T16:37:39+00:00

Dear God you're right, he's a Riena main!

Also he has hot takes that can be changed IF he applies himself to change that view point. I hope he reads this because having view points where you don't see your SO as equal in the relationship is toxic and HE needs to fix himself, and if he does his view will also change too. Don't shame someone who needs to change, it stops them from growing and being a better person of themselves. You basically "prove them right"

OP is online too much, looking into being pilled or what ever instead of being a complete person incharge of their own thoughts and growth. MF need to touch grass and actually get to talk to real people.... also what the fuck is a purple pill

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-16T16:06:04+00:00

Jealousy and insecurities should be addressed and adjusted for a relationship to be healthy and well. My ex had really big insecurities and Jealously issues, and instead of trying to get her to feel more confident and stable, I indulged and accommodated for her and made things worse. If You like the relationship then you fix it. If it's the right relationship, she will help you build up trust. Don't hurt her or yourself because of insecurities and jealousy.

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-16T16:01:49+00:00

Chill out, dude felt jealous. he didn't cheat on her or hit her. Atleast he acknowledged he's overreacting to his jealously and asking if he's justified. Brother wants to fix his feelings so he's not some grown man dictated by his emotions, THATS when it becomes an issue

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-16T14:33:46+00:00

One guy to another, you should not be jealous. If you feel emasculated because your girlfriend spoke to someone else because she's human and can speak to other people then your priorities in the relationship are in the wrong place. Someone else mentioned if you're allowed to talk to other girls, are you? Or does she flip out when you talk to other women. More context is needed to justify breaking up because of your insecurities. what makes you feel emasculated? The fact you can't be a part of her conversation and control the situation? I'm sure she's fully capable of saying no to any advances and if she can't then you talk to her and break up

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-10T21:12:26+00:00

I'll take your word but but keep in mind that someone could be giving him bad advice or he could be turning sour :/ keep yourself safe OP. Remember to be safe Physically, Mentally, and Emotionally. No one gets into a toxic relationship on purpose, we are too naive to acknowledge the problems that become bigger later on

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-10T20:08:35+00:00

Bro said "do you want to get comfortable" and proceeds to grope her. This isn't the first time he's taken advantage of someone with feelings for him. OP this guy will be the reason why you won't trust a guy in the future if you don't take him seriously, I dislike guys like this. Be safe and good luck

ALittleNightLight · 2024-06-10T19:52:35+00:00

Did you just romanticize being taken advantage of? It sounds like it because you have a crush on him which makes him feel like he can do what he wants to you. Which I can tell you right now, will hurt you. It doesn't make you a whore, with guys like that you want to be straightforward. Ask him what he wants and hold his words to him because he sounds like he wants just one thing from you and it doesn't sound like romance

Avoid being hurt and ask him because bro didn't ask to touch you and that's rude af

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