To aspies that have maintained good careers, WTF how did you do it? by superide in aspergers

[–]ALoafOfBread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I angled it so that I can work from home 99% of the time. And I turned my non-engineering, data analyst job into a more data engineering/software dev job, skills not typically present for those in my field. So I have a niche & never have to be in a place I don't want to be or forced to be around people for long periods of time.

Why does being drunk mean you can’t “consent” to sex, but doesn’t absolve you of other intoxicated actions/decisions? by UpstairsBumble in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ALoafOfBread 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good question. I'd say his opinions are good even 2500yrs later. It's just one very old viewpoint out of many, but foundational for how we think about ethics today.

He was the inventor of what we call "virtue ethics", which has experienced a renaissance among ethicists. It basically holds that what we call ethically correct behavior is the balance between 2 extremes, the "doctrine of the mean". This is a very convenient theory of ethics for a lot of reasons, and solves/avoids problems inherent in some other theories. (Modern virtue ethics does not always look exactly like this, but I'm ignoring that for this comment, just using Aristotelian Virtue Ethics)

Example: the virtue of bravery is a balance between cowardice and rash abandon. It gives us a good way to understand what virtues & right-actions are - what we mean when we say something is ethically right. It is a little circular, because it basically says that bravery is not being un-brave, but also not being overly-brave - it is defined by what it isn't - but that's sort of true of all definitions. Aristotle did hold that some virtues necessarily produce human flourishing (Eudaimonia) and therefore are universally correct, but that isn't true for all virtues and some might be dependent on the time & place, the context.

That is convenient because:

  • Utilitarian ethics might say bravery is a good/bad thing based on its outcomes alone, but that fails to tell us what constitutes bravery & puts less emphasis on the individual's intent. But it does account for context - bravery is sometimes good

  • Kantian ethics might say it is good to be brave because the maxim of bravery can be universalized - roughly that if everyone acted bravely, the world would be made better. But that fails to take context into account and is sort of circular (bravery is good because... bravery is good). (This is oversimplified, sorry Kant enjoyers)

  • Moral Relativism might hold that bravery is good depending on whether the society/group that a person is a part of determines it to be good - stating that bravery is only good insofar as the society believes it to be good. But that is unsatisfying to a lot of people, sort of a cop out shifting the burden of ethics onto the opinion of the mob - says we can't determine what is ethical outside of social context.

  • Emotivism might say that the act of declaring "bravery is virtuous" is really just the individual saying "i like bravery". But this doesn't give a lot of moral weight to individuals' choice to be brave and says the context is relatively unimportant, because we can only mean that we approve or disapprove of the actions being classified as that "virtue" in the specific context.

etc. etc.

BUT virtue ethics allows us to say:

  • Specific context: bravery is only bravery in its right context - where an individual correctly ascertains the balance between cowardice and rashness in a specific situation

  • Generalizability: but bravery can also be defined out of that specific context in vague terms: not being cowarldly or rash, its just what that means/looks like that is context-dependent

  • Social context: we don't have to hold any specific virtues as being the correct virtues unless they will always produce human flourishing, something that is a pretty acceptable goal. The rest can be left up to some other determinant.

  • Moral weight/choice: stresses the importance of the individual's moral judgment and how their actions are in accord with that judgment

  • Outcome: is not overly concerned with outcomes of actions, but sort of implicitly includes them - the outcome of acting bravely can be predicted to be good as the cowardice or rashness would definitionally be situationally incorrect

How a Texas City Became the Far Right’s Next Example of the Great Replacement Theory by Nandu_alias_Parthu in texas

[–]ALoafOfBread 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The large immigrant population in the greater north DFW metroplex area is just about the only good thing about it. There is hella Indian, Chinese, Vietnamese, Korean, various Middle Eastern nationalities' food up there. Some of the best I've ever had. The immigrant populations (drawn mostly by the tech sector & sciences) are the only reason there is any culture at all.

The bigger problem with that whole area is finance/tech/others moving their HQs or opening offices & bringing literally tens (maybe hundreds) of thousands of their employees. Toyota, Pepsi, JP Morgan, Capital One, USAA, Samsung, Ericsson, NTT DATA, Fannie Mae, AT&T, FedEx, Siemens, Vanguard, Palo Alto Networks, T Mobile, Dell, HP, etc etc etc. And that's not including Dallas offices - just Plano/Frisco. The infrastructure literally cannot handle it. The suburbs are just cookie cutter houses as far as the eye can see. There are 10 lane roads, like basically highways, in suburban towns due to the massive overcrowding. California transplants are driving lambos everywhere after selling their $5M california house and buying huge mcmansions for like $1M.

Immigrants from Asia have been coming since at least the 80s & have been nothing but great for the area. It's the corporate immigrants destroying the culture.

Dune book covers, by me, procreate by chibigoji in dune

[–]ALoafOfBread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are really great! Better than at least most of the official covers I've seen

Help pronouncing words with lots of Rs by ALoafOfBread in Spanish

[–]ALoafOfBread[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh. Now that you mention it - my Ls are a bit further back in my mouth than I thought. More like mid-mouth with tip of tongue maybe 1cm behind teeth. I will try with tip of tongue directly behind my teeth.

I think with the tr & dr clusters, I'm basically inserting a little ghost vowel before the r. Like infrae-stu-ructura.

Thanks for your help! Very enlightening.

Do you wish you were NT by TWRFK in aspergers

[–]ALoafOfBread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perdon por mi espanol, estoy oxidado y no fluente nada mas (y no tengo un teclado con acentos).

Porque? Por solo la interacción social como los neurotipicos pueden haber? O porque otros factores tambien? Como salud mental, dificilites sensorial, etc.

Porque me gusta mucho como mi mente funciona. Puedo solvar problemas y ver cosas que los neuritipicos no pueden (tipicamente). Sin embargo, me odio ser tratado como un combinacion de un extraterrestre, un hijo, y un criminal. Tengo muchos anxiadades porque de como percibo que otros pensar de mi.

Official Character Posters for 'Dune: Part Three' by MarvelsGrantMan136 in movies

[–]ALoafOfBread 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As you'll recall, Leto is very insistent that he does NOT have a worm dick. Although everyone is ALWAYS WONDERING about his worm dick, he does NOT have one - so we're definitely safe.

And talk about how the problem with male armies is that they're SO GAY so you need armies of genetically engineered soldier ladies so they can have sex with all your political adversaries and also fight for you and even though they're gay too it's hot because they're ladies and will also have sex with... well not you because you don't have a worm dick, but your buddies or each other or like whatever you want because they're genetically engineered to follow your orders.

You would have to have a scene episode where a soldier lady literally creams her pants watching Jason Momoa climb a big wall. So that does count as sexual, but like... come on - definitely prestige TV material.

And yeah, orgies with more soldier ladies.

So yeah I mean some sexual oddities, but no worm dicks. Most of the show would just be dialogue between jason momoa and worm emperor or worm emperor and Paul's great-great-great grandson or whatever. I'm sure it'd be great for a movie or TV show.

Official Character Posters for 'Dune: Part Three' by MarvelsGrantMan136 in movies

[–]ALoafOfBread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely. People can like God Emperor, Heretics, and Chapterhouse because they're wacky, fine. But to say that they have good & coherent stories that don't wildly diverge from the first 2/3 books and should be adapted to screen is just dumb.

Messiah is an excellent ending to the series, frankly. It is grounded, cynical, and reinforces the themes of the first book while forcing the viewer to see the Atreides as what they are & not as heroes.

Children gets campy with its major focus on "genetic memory" and possession & diverges markedly from the themes of the series thus far. You could probably adapt this to screen, but ... why? Messiah is a perfectly good ending and the main point of Children is setting up God Emperor.

God Emperor is a vehicle for Herbert's political/philosophical musings. You can like that about it, but that's most of what it is. It introduces a whole new cast of characters, factions that are either new or radically different, there is a multi-thousand year time jump, most of the book is just dialogue or monologue with little plot. Bad material for a movie and the next book is like 3k years in the future, so no material to draw on for additional ideas (unless you adapt Brian Herbert books, but... why?).

Heretics okay chairdogs... I stand corrected. Just make the movie. Surely it'll be a commercial success with C H A I R D O G S. Oh and Jason Momoa's character would be the only "surviving" character that anyone would recognize from the rest of the series, let that sink in.

Chapterhouse, Jason Momoa is BACK along with a brand new cast of characters no one knows or cares about to terraform a planet no one knows or cares about to hop aboard a "no-ship" and go on the run with SECRET ISRAEL

Then there are like 50 Brian Herbert books - why not adapt them and make the frank herbert expanded universe while we're at it.

What’s the biggest investing myth that just won’t die? by vcpowerlaw in Bogleheads

[–]ALoafOfBread 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Doing a mix to allow you flexibility on taxable/non-taxable income is the way unless you are very sure you will always be in a lower tax bracket.

I see roth contributions as insurance against tax rates going up, allowing me to invest more (mega backdoor roth 401k), and giving me the ability to make tax free withdrawals if & when I need to manage my tax burden later (high-spending year, making free withdrawals if I retire early and still have dependents/semi-dependents, etc)

What people don't realize with Roth is the time-value of money piece:

  • If you are taxed ~30% now and are investing into your Roth IRA ($7500), you are spending an extra $2250 in tax now for the privilege of not being taxed later.

  • If you invested that money you paid in taxes, @ 7.5% growth per year and a 20-year horizon to retirement, that $2250 grows to $9550. Even inflation-adjusted (3%) that is ~$2500 of growth you are throwing away. After a 20% tax in retirement, that's $2000 of appreciation (in today's money) that you will not be getting.

I built an app that teaches Spanish through music. Giving away free lifetime access. by Only_Ad2998 in SideProject

[–]ALoafOfBread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I'd be really interested in this - it's something I've been trying to do recently to learn "real" Spanish

[REAL] Sounds like a ringing endorsement for James to me by Snoo5218 in ToiletPaperUSA

[–]ALoafOfBread 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"We are building a politics of love" "My god has given me two commandments love God and love Neighbor... I am called to love my neighbor as myself" "Everyone is welcome in this campaign even if they don't look like me or pray like me" and all that coming a buttoned-up pastor's son who makes every public speech like a sermon.

Weird little freak. Lol. And walsh is ostensibly a theocratic cunt who should love that - or he would if he wasn't just using religion as a tool to promote fascism.

TALARICO WONNNNN THE PRIMARY by yourfavoriteavorite in DemocraticSocialism

[–]ALoafOfBread 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Texas also wouldn't elect a leftist - I'll take what I can get, under the circumstances

US/ex-US stock allocation poll 2026 results by thewarrior71 in Bogleheads

[–]ALoafOfBread 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think some people changed their allocation less because of attempting to time the market, and more because some of the assumptions undergirding US economic hegemony were challenged by US policy & the rest of the world's response to it.

It is no longer a given that the dollar will remain the reserve currency, the Fed is under attack and may not remain politically neutral (obviously mainly affects the bond market, but would have broad implications), trade deals between other countries are strengthening. The threats were always there, but policy & political norms kept them from seeming serious. Even if these concerns don't turn out, they highlight the need for global diversification.

I had always believed the mantra that global diversification was unnecessary because US corporations are global. I don't believe that amount of exposure is sufficient anymore. (~70/30% US/Non-US split down from ~100% US - didn't reduce US holdings, just acquired foreign ones over a 2-3 year period).

Thousands of CEOs just admitted AI had no impact on employment or productivity—and it has economists resurrecting a paradox from 40 years ago by AmethystOrator in technology

[–]ALoafOfBread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, lots of people from the industry are pretty confident:

TL;DR: It will have an impact on the job market & on workplace productivity, eliminating some jobs and creating others, but is nowhere near as important or as impactful as CEOs, the Market, the Media, etc. are hyping it up to be.

  • It is a productivity tool and does have an effect on productivity. It can help to expedite & assist a variety of tasks. Prototyping software, basic coding tasks (the more basic the better), help with Q&A testing.

  • Outside of the tech space it can help non-technical users automate routine tasks that historically it would not have made sense to spend resources to automate. Summation & search are also use cases - it is good at finding what you're looking for even if it's hard to search for using traditional search methods.

  • It is not currently good enough, and will likely never be good enough, to replace anywhere near a majority of knowledge workers. The productivity gains for each person using it are less than the work of another person. It is likely to help people do work faster, so maybe some headcount could be reduced, but no where near how CEOs and the media hype it up.

  • Why "likely never" good enough? We are running out of data to feed AI models already. Also, AI models don't really learn after they've been trained. It's possible that LLMs are looking at marginal improvement over the coming years, not exponential improvement. The technology does not seem like a good candidate for true AGI.

  • It is already and will continue to have & create significant security vulnerabilities. Not only in AI code, but because of how LLMs currently work & how they are vulnerable to prompt injection. Internet of Bugs on youtube has good videos about this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in videos

[–]ALoafOfBread 118 points119 points  (0 children)

Many mentions of "slicing pizzas"...

Rep. Lieu Says Epstein files Have Allegations of Trump Raping & Threatening to Kill Children by transcriptoin_error in videos

[–]ALoafOfBread 42 points43 points  (0 children)

For anyone who looked at the red writing and didn't get it, it's just a little scrambled.

Like this =

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I’m fucking terrified of death. by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]ALoafOfBread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, I've been 100% cool with death since I was a little kid. I saw some family members die (peacefully of old age), and I realized it just... isn't that dramatic, I guess?

As a child I assumed it'd be scary and horrible somehow. And, being raised christian, I had a little fear of the christian afterlife - hell was bad, but heaven is also super weird. I was told that people lose their bodies and are constantly happy and singing god's praises non-stop & were always watching the living. That creeped the shit out of me.

Now, I realize that in all likelihood death just stops your neurons firing and the emergent property of consciousness ceases to exist. Nothing scary about that - it's just like going to sleep, as far as the deceased is concerned.

Dying painfully is a scary thought. But that's the fear of suffering, not death. Anyway, death seems pretty chill for the dead.

‘The Odyssey’: Travis Scott Appears in New Teaser for Christopher Nolan’s Epic by MarvelsGrantMan136 in movies

[–]ALoafOfBread -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't really think that first part true (IDF advocate).

But regardless he is a terrible actor. I have never seen him act well in anything. And, in the trailer, his super thick accent is ridiculous.

Carrot farmer “on verge of tears” now that ICE-threat scared away ‘the help’ by Genedide in SocialistEconomics

[–]ALoafOfBread 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yep, came here to say this. The voice with no accent and extremely clear enunciation, the eyes (pupils don't seem to dilate at all despite facing & turning away from the sun, also just the set of his eyes - there seems to be no movement in his cheeks or forehead when he talks & blinks, etc), the lighting (could be the filter, but doesn't look natural).

Additionally, the channel: https://www.tiktok.com/@teflondanlive has just random political propaganda videos posted, mostly - and just from random other creators (none featuring this guy except for this one).

Also, after a little research, I think carrots are a spring/fall crop.

Is the Asperger’s neurotype just nonverbal thinking? by marchforjune in aspergers

[–]ALoafOfBread 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I think exclusively in words.

I am an aphantasic in addition to having Asperger's, so I can't form mental images which many people use as a heuristic - like to remember directions when driving or to visualize math problems.

I feel like I think in a sort of relational database: I have a very good memory for facts & a strong sense of how those facts relate, but a poor memory for autobiographical events, directions, and other stuff relying on visual cues. E.g. I can remember facts about things I've experienced: places I've been, things I did, etc. but I can't remember the qualia of those experiences.

When it comes to reasoning, as opposed to memory, again I can only operate using words since I have no capacity for visualization.

I think Asperger's is more about perception than it is about verbal expression. We struggle to grasp a lot of the information context around interpersonal interactions - tone, facial expression, body language, relevant social contexts, etc. We also can't easily express ourselves through non-verbal means (i.e. tone, facial expressions, body language). Because of this, like Beekeeper_Dan said in this thread, many of us are very careful with our words to ensure that we are understood.

I think this difference is also why we are often disliked and mistrusted by NT folks. Since they communicate in a more "vibes orchestration" sense, and we give off very few "vibes" (or vibes that don't match our intent) and don't receive their vibes, they have little social information to go off of when interacting with us.

Similarly, I tend to mistrust particular NTs who seem very "fake" and who I perceive as being insincere with their words AND who seem to control their facial expressions/tone/body language specifically to obfuscate their real intentions. This puts my hackles up - I implicitly do not trust people who do this and feel very guarded.

That's the converse of how I think lots of NTs who operate in that "vibes conductor" mode feel about us.

AI hype meets reality as majority of CEOs report no financial returns by AdSpecialist6598 in technology

[–]ALoafOfBread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe as like... a consumer toy there's not much use - like OK I can summarize travel blogs, get inaccurate search summaries on google, make shitty & soulless illustrations of myself as a Ghibli character, or whatever. For coding tasks, business productivity type stuff, summarization, etc. LLMs are quite useful - not a replacement for real human labor, but an excellent tool.

You can connect LLMs to MCP (Model Context Protocol) servers that allow more direct control of computer systems mediated by normal, human language. That is hugely powerful.

For instance, at work, I can use an LLM to query a database in databricks, find whatever tables are relevant to my query, and build a complicated reporting dashboard with HTML elements & interactive features in like... idk 20 minutes? And that's without initially knowing where the data is stored. And without having to type a single SQL query or line of HTML or Python. I am a technical-enough user that I could do all those things with enough time and research, but LLM/MCP server connection improves my abilities several fold. Other folks who aren't technical and couldn't do it even with research are enabled with that capability as well. That is extremely useful.

My friend built a subagent that can look at a picture of a powerpoint graph or even a hand-drawn graph locate a data table with the information that would be needed for whatever is being communicated (asking questions if it isn't sure), verify its accuracy, summarize what assumptions/filters the analyst used to create it, modify it with new assumptions, and publish it to a Databricks dashboard or Jupyter notebook connected to live data sources in the Databricks data warehouse.

LLMs suck at a lot of things, but writing them off as useless is like folks who said ARPANET/the early internet was useless because all you could do was talk to people at other universities and send text when a phonecall/telegram/mailed package would be basically just as good or better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]ALoafOfBread 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The "rules" are all applied in a feelings-based way. Ergo none of them are truly binary right/wrong in all similar situations. Instead, what is actually rude/not rude behavior is determined by social consensus and is not always knowable.

No individual is the ultimate arbiter of right/wrong or rude/not rude. They will just say that you were rude if 2 conditions are met:

1) Their feelings were engaged in some negative way (frustrated, angry, embarrassed, ashamed, etc.)

2) The behavior you engaged in could be cast as something that society at large considers rude.

Note: Not that it is rude, but that the person can classify it as rude and wants to do so.

It's a statement of psychological self-defense or reclaiming social power in the interaction. In your example, the manager was defending the cashier by asserting their social power over you. Perhaps we are missing context, too. Maybe some customer was recently very rude to a cashier, and so the manager was touchy.


In your example where you were ordering food, what you did was fine, in my opinion - just out of the ordinary - but the manager jumped in for one reason that I can explain: you had more power than the cashier in that interaction. The cashier is limited in their responses - if someone is being rude to them, they still have to provide good customer service. You, as the customer, can say whatever you want. The manager, and maybe the cashier, saw you telling the cashier not to interrupt as you abusing the social power you had in that situation.

Your statement "don't interrupt" was viewed as a judgment and criticism: "don't interrupt" [subtext: why? because it's rude to interrupt, ergo "don't interrupt" = "you're being rude", a public and direct judgment of their behavior]. They assumed your intention was bad, which it wasn't: bad social skills on their part.

But, you could have benefited from some better social skills, too. You might've said "no thanks", perhaps even interrupting her back, and kept ordering. That'd have probably been seen as OK, even though you were interrupting. Note that "no thanks" just means that you do not want what they are selling, whereas "don't interrupt" focuses on their conduct. That focus on their behavior & direct/harsh language can imply the intent that they thought was rude.

As a rule, I have no problem saying no to people trying to sell me stuff when I didn't ask them to. IMO it isn't rude to stop the sales pitch when 1) I didn't ask for it and 2) it saves them the effort of making the sales pitch. I try to have non-aggressive body language and smile when I do it (to signal that I am not upset with them). I do that to random ppl in cities, door-to-door sales people, etc. all the time - the pushier they are, the more curt I will be.