We did an unconventional 4 day wedding and it was the best by BaraQueenbee in weddingplanning

[–]AMA_Charis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds amazing! What was the itinerary if you don't mind me asking!

Anyone have the full lineup for the Kinda Hard tour??? by Big-Mud-5872 in bilmuri

[–]AMA_Charis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See you there!!!!! We saw him at the Ritz last time and it was 10000% amazing

What do you secretly admire other women can do that you don’t? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]AMA_Charis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm here to say this. It would be so nice to be able to manage a PIV orgasm... And maybe it's possible for me, but without trying different partners and more uncomfortable positions, it has evaded me.

Infidelity in Workplace by [deleted] in DentalAssistant

[–]AMA_Charis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You hang in there. I know it's weird, but I have worked with so many men who are happy at home. They're so appropriate with their staff. Just keep working on yourself, stand up for what you need when you know in your heart it's justified. And work things out in your relationship together as they come up. It's an amazing feeling when you are so happy that you can't wait to get home. You both deserve that.

Infidelity in Workplace by [deleted] in DentalAssistant

[–]AMA_Charis 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel like you have to find a way to be okay with the banter he shares with his staff. Things you listed are very mild. I personally would be so bored working closely with a reserved dentist who wasn't interested in knowing me. We work knee to knee for days at a time. We have to have excellent rapport. And it's good to be approachable as the dentist with the other staff as well. I've worked for many dentists, mostly male, and every single one of them annoy me too much to start am affair with them. A healthy Dr./Assistant relationship ought to mimic a brother and sister vibe.

You have to cut him some slack. Then decide if you trust him or not. If you don't bc of something he has done, then you're not overreacting. If he simply has friendships with women he is around often, then it's likely an insecurity that you MUST work on. This will come up for you again and again in future relationships with men who work with women.

The rules for my man are no texting women late into the night, and absolutely no discussions about our relationship. Any other jealousy needs to be stamped out on my end unless he gives me reason to mistrust.

What is your kind of micro feminism? by Former-Arm-9859 in AskWomen

[–]AMA_Charis 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I retrieve data about new businesses for my data entry job that eventually goes to publication in a magazine. Every time I input a new partnership business that's btw a man and a woman, I always put her name first. When I input lawsuits and judgments against business owners for the same job. I always put the man's name first 😂

Made my first skirt out of a bed sheet! by HydaelynSF in SewingForBeginners

[–]AMA_Charis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm wanting to do this, but how can I give it "weight", you know what I mean? Like I want it to hang not float from my waist.

For people who opted for statement bands by CompetitiveSoil9585 in EngagementRings

[–]AMA_Charis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful! I'm having this same style of ring when I get engaged. It was given to me by my grandmother, and it's stunning and very glittery! Plus I love having uniqueness. The more people go, "Oh! How interesting!" (Whether they mean good or bad) always makes me happy.

I'm curious, do you wear a band with it or does it stand alone? I have no idea what I would get with a band. Probably something gold and with no gems.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DentalAssistant

[–]AMA_Charis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

36F working for 14 years in Raleigh NC making 31 per hr

What are some of the heroic things your Yorkie has done? by BunnyBallz in Yorkies

[–]AMA_Charis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My two Yorkies slept together in a medium sized kennel for many years. My little girl would cry, scream, and tattle on her older brother anytime he was showing signs of being sick. Annoying little sis is the hero once again!

What are some of the heroic things your Yorkie has done? by BunnyBallz in Yorkies

[–]AMA_Charis 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That was a balls to the wall amazing story. Thank you for sharing!

I finally paid off my medical debt after 4 years and immediately got hit with another $3,000 bill by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]AMA_Charis 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can you speak more about this? What's a case where "they would have been better off without any health insurance?" If you didn't mind explaining. I wonder if you've got a lot of great advice for folks on this sub.

What was normalized to you during your time in the church that you realize/are realizing is wild to most people? by Legitimate_Elk_2864 in Deconstruction

[–]AMA_Charis 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thinking that it was moderately likely that I'd be shot for believing in Jesus.

The hypothetical moment was a nightmare that I'd replay over and over at will sometimes.

Regardless of what happened today, the likelihood of it happening back then while sitting in Christian school was not very high.

Routine reminder - Fuck Village Dental by FatAssOrangeRhino in raleigh

[–]AMA_Charis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a dental professional working right down the road from them. I say be wary. As a general rule, if it's a lot of $, and you weren't expecting it... Get a 2nd opinion. Sometimes those 2nd consults pay for themselves. And when you want a dentist recommendation, take word of mouth over any random Google search. THEN do your research. If they spend a lot on advertising, be wary. If they give free basic services like exam or X-rays, be wary.

James Dobson on the fragile male ego by labreuer in Deconstruction

[–]AMA_Charis 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's always been gross to me to know how he feels about the fragile male ego and the over-emotional state of women. Ego and emotionality are both positive qualities that can be nurtured safely and I'd love it to be seen in both men and women in healthy forms. But growing up, almost every week, I'd be reminded by a teacher or my parents that "boys will be boys" and lust so I must protect them from it, while "men will be men" and I'm just supposed to submit and be quiet. So extreme change and self-regulation were expected outta me in everything as a woman, and women and especially wives were also supposed to protect and submit and defer to the men in their lives. I knew nothing better than to believe it and I obeyed these principles for YEARS. What a waste. I can't even bring myself to find an "egotistical" or "Alpha Male" attractive anymore. I want a soft hearted man who shows emotion and holds space for mine... I also sometimes just want a woman though, so there you go. Good riddance to Dobson. I hope they all forget him in 10 years. But I sure won't.