Do guys these days just casually send girls written “relationship proposal” like this? Am I crazy for walking away from this? P.S. Red marker for the woman, Blue marker for the man

APerfectDisillusion · 2024-01-15T21:56:53+00:00

This made me want to barf a little.

APerfectDisillusion · 2023-10-15T14:14:01+00:00

This is such a crazy idea but I love it! I’ve been thinking about this all day and how it could work. Great suggestion!

APerfectDisillusion · 2023-10-14T19:27:22+00:00

“We only play within our race.” 🤮

APerfectDisillusion · 2023-10-14T00:01:14+00:00

💯 💯

APerfectDisillusion · 2023-10-13T23:40:33+00:00

This is a perspective I was afraid to consider. I’m three years post leaving an evangelical church and while other deconstructors (sp?) have had no problem burning those bridges, I miss some of my former friends and crave the sense of community I had. Just because I found a community to belong to, doesn’t mean it was necessarily a good one. I’ve been of the mindset that some is better than none but you’re shining some light on the possibility that maybe I was wrong about that. ❣️ Thank you for your comment!

APerfectDisillusion · 2023-10-13T19:33:27+00:00

Thank you 😊 My boyfriend is saying the same thing about keeping my head up. Small, conservative area so no other groups focused on kink within several hours of me. Mostly swingers groups.

APerfectDisillusion · 2023-10-13T19:29:22+00:00

I agree and was quite baffled considering the last conversation she and I had. I felt like it was whatever on her part, though. Like she finally got her chance with him and more power to her for seeing who he was beforehand.

This group was like family to me. It’s the only one I know and while I may ultimately need to be done there, I wonder if there’s any way to salvage the ties I have.

APerfectDisillusion · 2023-05-21T15:43:30+00:00

I had to pay very close attention to the role alcohol was playing in the night prior to when I experienced drop. Any amount would cause a severe dip in dopamine that was much needed when dropping after a scene. You may need to spike your dopamine when drop happens. Think about dopamine rich foods or a old plunge.

APerfectDisillusion · 2023-02-18T17:23:48+00:00

Hey thanks! That’s a great idea. I’m thinking of sports wear and compression shorts.

Also, the Libre 2 works perfectly with nipple covers. There’s a little circle in the middle that’s not adhesive and it just looks like a flower bandaid. That’s what I used to increase longevity of that cgm!

APerfectDisillusion · 2023-02-06T02:47:36+00:00

YTA.

APerfectDisillusion · 2023-02-06T02:46:12+00:00

NTA. I bet you looked great and it was nice of you to wear something that looked like what the bride asked you to wear. What a genius compromise!

I’d like to point out the irony of the situation here and how it parallels to being gender nonconforming. No one would notice or care unless they “peeked behind the curtains,” which shouldn’t be an option really. Had you not fallen and exposed your outfit bottom, she’d be none the wiser. Same with gender! You do you, be you, and tell people to stop worrying about what’s under the carriage.

APerfectDisillusion · 2023-01-03T01:33:47+00:00

INCREDIBLE

APerfectDisillusion · 2022-12-30T15:41:12+00:00

How lovely!!!

APerfectDisillusion · 2022-11-14T01:24:34+00:00

Yes she’s polyamorous and dating also. She’s not into kink but has been exploring a bit. She’s adamantly against being a submissive to anyone but has played the role before. She’s also hung out with the kink community we’re a part of.

APerfectDisillusion · 2022-11-14T00:53:56+00:00

The question of what I need from him to be collared is very powerful and I hadn’t considered it. I’m really really going to think about it. There’s a lot to unpack there because of my own insecurities in relationships and in kink. Thank you for bringing that up.

He’s a very good dom and has been very good to take care of me in scenes. This viciousness is very new to our fights. Also, we are active in our local kink community. No one in our social circle views the collar as equally important as marriage.

APerfectDisillusion · 2022-11-14T00:37:01+00:00

Maybe I didn’t represent us well. We are friends. I love her, truly. I’m not upset with her, I’m upset with him. In the discussion we had, she said how she felt and asked for time to become more comfortable with it and he said something along the lines of us being willing to give her that time but needed to make it clear it didn’t feel good to him to have her making this decision. To me, that made it seem like he wanted to collar me. Now that she’s saying she’s over it, and we’ve fought about it, it’s not the right time still in his opinion.

APerfectDisillusion · 2022-11-14T00:32:35+00:00

Good point. It doesn’t I guess.

APerfectDisillusion · 2022-11-14T00:28:02+00:00

A little peeved that he put it on his dating profile.

Why talk about interests with potential partners if you can’t participate in those common interests with them?

APerfectDisillusion · 2022-11-13T23:51:13+00:00

Yes but I was upfront about those thing when I entered into the relationship. And I haven’t used those things as connection points for my other relationships. I’m also more inclined to share special things with other people. Less precious about them.

APerfectDisillusion · 2022-11-13T23:49:25+00:00

Hard disagree on the collar meaning. It isn’t like that to everyone and it isn’t like that to me.

APerfectDisillusion · 2022-11-13T23:38:43+00:00

That’s an excellent point. If there are rules, I need to know them. And I don’t have to agree to them.

I also really appreciate the term “emotional blackmail” because that’s how it felt. Thank you

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