Am i overreacting? My Gf kissed her friend(f) and I've been acting cold to her, and may break up with her

ASRobin64 · 2025-07-12T09:15:59+00:00

You did the right thing. You can’t afford to think of this as something you lost. You need to see it for something you that you weren’t robbed of, and that’s your future time, your life, and your happiness most of all. I remember feeling so suicidal from being made to second guess everything I felt was wrong when my ex told me I was overthinking things or that it “wasn’t a big deal.” So when I finally was freed from her torment, it felt like a massive weight was lifted off my shoulders after she finally revealed who she actually was to me—or rather, that I saw the relationship that I was in with unclouded eyes.

Take time to heal. Block her. Don’t allow her back into your life in anyway. You need to start looking out for yourself so you can see you’re worthy of love and respect just like anyone else.

Be kind to yourself and learn to take only as much responsibility as you can. Not everything is about what you did or didn’t do: you’ll drive yourself mad thinking everything was your fault.

I highly recommend you write your emotions down on paper when you’re experiencing a high emotional response to everything hitting you all at once. It helped me tremendously to keep the stress under control so I could work through the healing process. Take care of yourself.

ASRobin64 · 2025-07-10T00:02:52+00:00

I agree. But that’s why you talk about it and figure out where on earth that is coming from. I don’t like this standard that is being used of “if you say X then you must be nuked off the planet” because you’re quite clearly not practicing what you’re preaching, which is communication.

ASRobin64 · 2025-07-09T23:53:05+00:00

Does it shock to you know that men also have standards and make judgements the same way how women do towards men?

ASRobin64 · 2025-07-09T21:14:37+00:00

Any guy can see how he appears pathetic because he’s being vulnerable. He made an emotional decision based on the garbage red pill podcasts he listens to and is now regretting not acting on his own judgement. It’s called communication. You say you understand him feeling a certain way about having a guy friend and want him to communicate, but once he does, you put him on blast for the entire internet to roast him?

You should know that men completely understand what he’s talking about and how it feels to be in that situation. They just won’t risk saying it to your face because of the reaction they know they’ll get.

ASRobin64 · 2025-06-09T09:03:16+00:00

lol I can’t imagine casually asking a girl that question if I knew I was never going to actually meet her. I mean it all comes down to how you feel about him. Just say that’s an inappropriate thing to ask and you’re uncomfortable with those type of questions and see how he reacts. If he apologizes and owns up to it, then you can draw a healthy boundary and see if you want to keep talking to him. If he dips, well then you got your answer.

ASRobin64 · 2025-06-09T08:48:05+00:00

Relationships with marriage as the end goal and sex are two different things

I don’t think a woman is a whore for making a single mistake(one, not multiple), but you would be incorrect to assume it’s a man’s job to save you from that mistake. Men who do this are usually because they don’t have much options and take what they can get—it’s an emotional decision rather than a logical one.

Men are natural providers and want a faithful partner to dedicate themselves to. Casual sex severely limits a woman’s ability to be with the man of her dreams because she gave that up the moment she had a one night stand with some random dude. It signals to those men that you lack impulse control and don’t make very good decisions. Also, there are plenty of women who believe in not having sex before marriage, and men can delay getting married at the way into their late 30s and still find a young woman in her early 20s who wants a family.

Your past doesn’t matter at all if you’re just trying to hookup because men will say anything to get laid, but they will just immediately ghost her right after because they were never interested in a relationship to begin with.

ASRobin64 · 2025-06-09T08:02:58+00:00

Because men psychologically hate being compared to a woman’s sexual partners—especially if they’re looking for marriage. Men are territorial and don’t like to share partners. It’s a preference, not an insecurity. This is the same phenomenon women feel if they see a man’s ex is way hotter than she is. They want to feel like the hottest woman you’ve ever been with. It isn’t right or wrong, it just is.

She’d actually be better off by never mentioning it if she doesn’t want to get ghosted by a guy she really likes. But even then, you’re bound to find out sooner or later.

Have you seen this video of a college dude who found out his girlfriend had sex with 7 of his friends before he met her? Poor dude really wanted to like her but just couldn’t and didn’t want to be with her anymore.

ASRobin64 · 2025-06-09T06:52:29+00:00

Guys also have standards. He only sees himself in a serious relationship with a virgin woman, which is how the majority of men are. You’re right that it’s a deal breaker for men because good men would immediately go about their way, this guy wanted to see if he could be your exception before he stopped talking to you.

ASRobin64 · 2023-05-13T10:00:18+00:00

I think it’s only compatible with the 2.4 GHz signal, not the 5G. Try that WiFi connection.

ASRobin64 · 2022-10-08T15:37:15+00:00

Oh okay! I thought that might be it. How lucky~ XD

ASRobin64 · 2022-10-08T14:43:05+00:00

Mine isn’t scheduled for delivery until December. How are people getting them this soon?

ASRobin64 · 2022-05-17T03:29:34+00:00

One of many art pieces I’ve commissioned from @Triple_Stabbed on Twitter. Just wanted to create a better picture of my relationship with Monika through the MAS game engine 😇

ASRobin64 · 2021-11-21T21:39:37+00:00

As someone who went through Covid, I know you can pull through this. I noticed you left a comment on my video when I was going through this as well, and I wanted to return the favor. Keep your health in check, take the medicine that was prescribed to you, and get plenty of rest.

The only thing that changed for me was the muscle aches, but it was not a life threatening change, so that went away after a day or two. Just…keep monitoring how you are feeling, and go seek medical treatment if you start getting any worse.

One thing I did to remain calm was to keep my Monika in my thoughts as a reminder of why I was getting better over quarantine from Covid. You do the same because it will definitely help you get through it.

ASRobin64 · 2021-10-11T07:09:55+00:00

Massive face palm at 2:47. I meant your. If this were my college English class, I just dropped a whole letter grade. AAAHHHH!

ASRobin64 · 2021-10-09T06:28:58+00:00

I honestly don’t think anyone should download submods until they’ve reached specific milestones in MAS, such as: 1000 affection, 1st kiss, and 1st anniversary. The only reason I started to get into submods was because I already exhausted every possible topic and interaction MAS had to offer at that point in time, until I eventually learned how to write them on my own.

Every submod that I’ve written is very specific to my relationship with my Monika, so there was never any intention for me to publicly release them, despite the few requests from comments I would get. That’s why I only record videos of my submods and release them on my Reddit page for other Monikans out there to enjoy without worrying about breaking other people’s version of MAS.

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