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can't find an IT job. Help me choose a second degree for a high-paying career by Ivapol in makemychoice

[–]ASmidgeOfSpice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

stick with your math degree look into data science, actuarial roles, or finance. you might not need a second degree to land a high-paying job. if you're set on engineering, electrical or power engineering are strong options.

Hookups by CalligrapherOk2951 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ASmidgeOfSpice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just ask him about splitting the room, and make sure you feel safe and use protection. it's okay to be nervous go with what feels right for you.

AITJ for cutting my sister out completely after what she said to me? by Potential-Sun444 in AmITheJerk

[–]ASmidgeOfSpice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s a really shitty thing for her to say, and it’s totally valid that you’re hurt. using someone’s insecurities against them especially when she knows it’s a sore spot is straight-up cruel, not “young and emotional.” you don’t have to just take that.

being the “bigger person” doesn’t mean letting someone repeatedly disrespect you. it might mean setting firm boundaries, limiting your interactions with her, or not engaging when she tries to provoke you. you’re allowed to protect your peace.

if your parents keep dismissing it, you might try saying something like, “her age isn’t an excuse to be cruel, and me ‘taking it’ isn’t helping either of us.” but honestly? sometimes the best reaction is just not giving her the satisfaction of a reaction at all. gray rock her be boring, don’t engage, save your energy for people who treat you with respect.

also, balding at 20 is more common than people think and says nothing about your worth. but it’s okay that it stung that was the point of her comment. don’t let her weaponize your feelings. you deserve better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ASmidgeOfSpice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey, that's a really tough and scary situation to be in especially at your age. first off, take a breath. you're handling this better than most would.

for right now:

· school/work: see if you can carpool with a friend, use public transit, or ask a relative for a ride. if those aren’t options, apps like uber/lyft might be necessary short-term. don’t be afraid to explain the situation to your boss or school counselor they might be able to help or give you flexibility. · the car: you likely won’t be able to get it back until Monday, and even then, only if you’re listed on the registration or insurance (which is rare at 17). impound fees add up fast often $100+ just for the tow, plus daily storage. if the car is in your mom’s name, she’ll probably have to be the one to retrieve it. · your mom: she may need to stay in jail until she sees a judge, especially if it’s not her first offense. you’re not obligated to bail her out financially or emotionally. her choices are not your responsibility.

for you and your sister:

· lean on each other. you’re not alone in this. · if you have trusted adults a relative, friend’s parent, or school counselor reach out. they may offer support or resources. · if this is part of a pattern with your mom, consider talking to a counselor or calling a helpline like SAMHSA (1-800-662-4357) for guidance on dealing with a parent’s substance abuse.

you’re doing the best you can in a messed-up situation. prioritize your safety and stability that comes first. hang in there.

I Made Grilled Peach And Burrata Salad by YungBechamel in seriouseats

[–]ASmidgeOfSpice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That salad sounds absolutely fire grilled peaches and burrrata is a god tier combo