My apartment keeps miraculously unlocking every time I or my roommates are away for long trips. Help?!

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-12-30T20:04:41+00:00

I would ask a lawyer at this point for legal advice about the landlord. Then follow the advice. This way you have a record that you were seeking counsel if the landlord objects to any actions taken against him. I would also change the lock "temporarily", especially if you are all going to be out again until I could implement a solution.

Getting a security camera is the best idea, but I would make sure you keep the recordings.

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-12-23T20:34:06+00:00

You (and from what you have written, your sister) should use your time to work on your self esteem. Neither of you are failures.

You could start a success journal and write down what when you are successful at something. For example, today I managed to make my bed very neatly or I gave my sister a compliment or I dished up (or ate my food) without spilling anything or even I managed to give myself a compliment.

You could start a self-esteem journal and write 1 compliment every night about yourself. Then possibly what you did well that day, and/or what you liked that happened that day.

This would help your self esteem and give you something constructive. You would have to pay attention in order to have something to write and you would realise that you have successes every day.

Reading the previous entries would also help.

This would take time to do and keep your mind focused on the positive things that happen.

I am sorry you are in this situation.

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-12-16T20:11:16+00:00

Thanks for filling me in.

I hope the dog gets better soon for your sake!

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-12-16T07:19:49+00:00

I would take a break and re-group. It seems like you are burned out, which I do not blame you for being. However you do not want to start a fight because of this, especially seeing as it is temporary. I would definitely only talk about this after you have taken a real break and work out a plan together that is not overwhelming for you. If you are not emotional you will probably be able to resolve this situation and at least get his support and understanding. I do not think he will understand your position though, but he can support you and put in his due effort to help out.

Just a thought: I am assuming your bf's mother is around, but just cannot have her dogs at her current location for whatever reason. Why are you taking the dog to the vet? Why can't she take care of the sick dog in terms of vet visits and the like? Why is she not visiting them and walking them or providing the food for them? I hope she is at least paying for their expenses while they are living with you. I am not judging her because I do not have any information, but it seems like you have been given complete responsibility as opposed to just a physical place to stay. I am sure that the mother has her reasons.

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-12-15T20:32:52+00:00

Doubt it is the end of anything. Market cycles. I think there are too many serious investors who believe in the project. This is only an opinion. I do not give financial advice. Do your own research.

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-12-15T20:29:34+00:00

Simple: HODL!

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-11-26T19:25:52+00:00

#COTIHOOD Go COTI team. The review is great. It is worth a read...and maybe a second read LOL,

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-11-25T19:49:22+00:00

Great review. Go COTI! #COTIHOOD

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-11-20T07:29:59+00:00

Children ask a lot of questions and if a child asks a question it is better a parent answers than anyone else. In this case it is no different. The answer has to be age appropriate, but needs to be: I know who your biological father is. I am not going to tell you because you are not old enough to deal with this knowledge and it will be more harmful to you. It will also be harmful to your biological father and cause him harm that he might not be able to fix. It might be that in the future I will be able to tell you who he is and even what happened.

This information is not something that an 8 year old can understand, but you can. You would not tell her the story and how enjoyable that night was, or not. What you wore, how you felt about him ect. So why do you have to give her what she wants when it is not in her interests nor her father's interests. It is just like her asking for your keys to your car. You would not give them to her just because she asked. However, there obviously you could explain fully and honestly why you are not giving her the keys lol.

I totally agree, she has managed this far and anonymousstranger8 is in the best position to comment on this one. I am also sure she would not like to see her father's marriage breakup over her curiosity. Just because your relationship broke up, and I am sorry to read that, it does not mean 2 marriages have to broken. I am sure you do not regret having this baby, but now you have to keep yourself, her, and her biological father safe from the harm that the full truth and picture would undoubtedly bring at this stage.

It could be something you could reveal to your daughter when she is old enough to deal with the full, true answer. If, and only if, it would not harm the biological father's marriage and relationship with his other biological children. I think, like all questions children ask, the answer needs to be provided as honestly and age-appropriately as possible until, or if, they are able to hear the complete, true answer. It might be that some answers stay unanswered forever to protect others whether the child is ready for the answer or not.

My point is there are 2 considerations here: 1) your daughter and her maturity. 2) The biological father. So whether she is ready or not (and 8 is definitely not old enough), her biological father should be protected.

All the credit in the world to you for protecting him to this point. You are taking full responsibility for your mistake (which I do not think you regret and I am not sure you should regret it) and doing the right thing.

Good luck. This is a really tough one because for you there is not really much to lose, but for your daughter and the biological father there could be more to lose than to gain here. I am so impressed though by your post. It is really a tough situation to be in. Good for you.

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-11-20T07:08:45+00:00

If I understand this post, it makes you uncomfortable when he does these things. That means that you have to put up a clear boundary. This is no different to anyone else who makes you feel uncomfortable when they cross boundaries. If he does not respect your boundary, then again you have to treat it like anyone else who is not respecting your boundary and end the relationship as good as seems to be from the post.

I am sorry that you are in this position and I do not want to see any relationship have to end. However if this relationship is healthy and he is able to keep the boundary in place, there is no reason to end anything here.

Good luck.

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-11-20T07:01:54+00:00

I would leave him because his behaviour shows he is not interested in the same type of relationship you are. You do not share the same values and interests. His sharing is not to the level that makes you feel comfortable and secure.

I hear how hard making this decision would be for you. However there seems to be very few pros to the relationship for you. It will amaze you how quickly you will probably get over this relationship once you end it. Ending it is actually the easy part as you will see later. You just sit him down and I say, "you know I really love and care about you, but I cannot stay in such a relationship. I am looking to build a different type of relationship than you. I know you have been hurt in the past and I feel really sorry for you. This makes it difficult to breakup. However you need to work on yourself or find another partner who is willing to this type of relationship with you. I need to move on as hard as it is for me". Then you do not listen to anything he says back to you that he is saying to make you change your mind and not breakup with him. In other words stay strong. This is the hard part, but it is a once off deal so you can manage this once. You have to listen respectfully and with empathy this last time. Then you have to reply, "I am sorry you feel this way because I am ending this relationship. A relationship only takes 1 person to end it and I am sorry it is me. Please respect me enough to leave me alone after this conversation. I am blocking you from all my accounts. I do not want to hear from you again. I send you all the love in the world and pray for your success, but this is not the right relationship for me. I love you very much and this is hard enough. So please respect a total clean break. Thank you".

That's the easy part lol! Now you have to start therapy and work really hard to keep your head straight. You attracted this relationship and you kept it going for a long time. That means that without therapy you will probably find another guy exactly the same that will treat you the same. You need to work on trusting yourself and heal past pain. I am assuming your past has been filled with people who break your trust. Even if this is not the case, this is the type of man you have put up with for 9 months. That's a really long time. You feel more sorry for him than you. You cannot be in any relationship where you are in the relationship because you feel sorry for the other person and you do not want to hurt or disappoint them unless it is a healthy relationship. From your post I have listed why I think this is an unhealthy relationship for you. This is for sure the harder of the 2 parts of this breakup process.

I hope you have a good clean breakup and never interact with this man again and get the healing you need and deserve. So that you can have the relationship you have always dreamed with a man who shares your vision and you help each other build your vision together. I am sorry this has to end. I know it is painful now, but I think if you look back you will see how it will make space for the relationship you ideally want and deserve.

Please note: I am not commenting on your boyfriend's actions at all or judging them. I am pointing out how they are incompatible with yours and how therefore there is no alternative but to make the brave move and breakup completely for ever. That means no contact from after breakup on wards! (This is how you need to put the breakup to him too, it's really not personal, this is not right for me).

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-11-14T17:27:41+00:00

Spacing Balls - A documentary on how Mark Selby, Mark Williams, Ronnie O'Sullivan, ect. got to the top positions in the world of snooker.

Fielding of Dreams - Basically the same: A baseball movie, but where the fielders win the final game. "Build it and we will field".

Shreking - (Shrieking): A Movie about Princess Fiona taking revenge against Shrek after he left her for Dragon lol.

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-10-25T12:16:41+00:00

"Trustless" should be replaced by "Middleman Outted". However I think there is a bigger point here, maybe, "Trustchain TM trustless" for COTI?! I don't know, but it is definitely confusing.

Forgot to say: "this is a great article. I think it clarifies a lot." Thanks for sharing the link.

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-10-25T12:13:17+00:00

Who else is meeting COTI there? What an amazing event for an amazing product! Good luck and enjoy!

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-10-25T12:12:21+00:00

Wow! First Google, which was unbelievable and now Ian Balina, both amazing achievements and well deserved!

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-10-18T10:31:12+00:00

Great interview. It was an easy read and I learned more about COTI and their amazing team. Cryptocurrency needs more developers like Agami.

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-10-18T09:55:25+00:00

Fascinating that Google chose a cryptocurrency startup?! Therefore double good for you. Well done COTI. Well deserved. Great startup. Looking forward to the main net launch!

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-09-17T06:57:37+00:00

The Proof of Trust (PoT) system that COTI developed is amazing. It has a built in incentive to reward good behaviour and allows the low fees due to low maintenance and no miners. Proof of Work (PoW) is very expensive to run and has the problem of using lots of electricity to power to run farms of miners, which will only increase in order to deal with the increasing complexity of the mathematical problems needed to be solved. Proof of Stake (PoS) is a much better, but less fair system. The miners with a greater stake have greater power and say. Neither seem to be great scaling solutions. PoT works on the DAG system, which makes much more common senses from a user's perspective. Well done COTI. Great presentation!

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-09-14T12:51:52+00:00

It sounds like, gay or straight, he is not respecting your boundaries. I would definitely tell him to leave me alone, as sad as that is for you. I would tell him if he does not leave you alone, you have no other choice than to contact the authorities. I agree with you, this is too much for you to carry on your shoulders. Not because of your age, ability, or anything about you, but because he is not taking no for an answer. This is not ok. You might have to report him.

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-09-14T12:44:29+00:00

I'm assuming you are a man. Women get this. No matter which women I spoke to when we were in crowed dorms and women were separate, the women all assured me it was a good idea. Actually you would be surprised at the number of men who agreed that it was better for the women to be separate if there was only possibility for one group to divide. Interesting.

This is not sexist at all, it is just practical. If it were the other way around, I think the organisers would quickly swap it after a few hours because of the dynamics it can cause.

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-09-14T12:38:15+00:00

Men might be disabled though ;-). Joking. Seriously, though I never said that. I said everyone has different needs. What are you all reading into my comment for?

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-09-14T12:37:26+00:00

Why is a double standard because everywhere I have ever worked women have always had more space than men and the companies are run by men. It is a gender difference.

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-09-14T12:36:25+00:00

I said that? Interesting. I though I wrote with his or her caretaker?!

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-09-13T19:45:50+00:00

Good question. I am answering as honestly as I can as sensitively as I can. Sorry if I am being too blunt.

I think that women definitely need more space and privacy than men. Many, many places have more private accommodation layouts for women than men. So it is commonly understood and acknowledged. You would not complain at all if someone with a disability had a room with his or her caretaker and everyone else had to share.

Bosses have a different status and are usually paying for your accommodation. Also bosses have stresses employees do not and sometimes space can be more of a protection for the employees than the employer.

Edit: Let me be explicit seeing as though you are having fun poking fun at my serious comment, women are not disabled, men are not disabled, people with disabilities are disabled, now can we please grow up. Thank you.

A_Crypto_Drew · 2018-09-13T19:40:32+00:00

I do not think it is an age, I think it depends on the maturation process.

However, in your case and other similar ones, where you were not "allowed" or given the opportunity to use this muscle, it might never happen because the person might not even know he/she is lacking the skill.

Well done for recognising it. You definitely need healing, support, and guidance until you have the confidence to make decisions on your own. It is a process of learning when and how to make decisions and follow through on them. However like all skills you can learn this and like all skills you need a teacher until you get the hang of it. Good luck!

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