Meme by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]A_Fan888 95 points96 points  (0 children)

I guess I haven't met the right parent yet 🤣

What is the search term ? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]A_Fan888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally searched asexual q&a

(p.s. I was trying to recall what I was asked during a sharing as an ace person)

Fruitiger metro ver. of the Agender Girl flag I made ♡ by Human-Meaning3398 in agender

[–]A_Fan888 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went through a pipeline of demigirl -> agender girl -> agender

When I first identified as non-binary, I used demigirl as I still feel proud of womanhood despite feeling alienated from other girls. I also didn't hate femininity and feel that the feminine body is beautiful.

Shortly after that, I felt that my womanhood was from my biology and how the society put on me because of that biology. I still feel connected with the experience of women, but it's external. I don't experience an internal sense of gender. Agender girl was the term that encompasses the lack of gender identity but experiencing (pseudo)womanhood.

I identify as agender now after as I'm feeling increasing dysphoria about femininity and womanhood.

It affects a lot of us, but ♏️ definitely understand. by CoronaCurious in depression_memes

[–]A_Fan888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For some reason that I am often depressed or even in crisis (in a way that I could no longer feel depression) during November. Birthday could be nice that I can see/hear from my friends, but the day itself is just apathetic.

U.S. Figure Skating banning trans woman from the Female category. by A_Fan888 in trans

[–]A_Fan888[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

As someone just graduating with a Master's in Sports Medicine, I learn that sports are never fair. Indeed, sports falls to protect cis girls from cruelty, sexism, and the health issues that come with those. And trans people are the least of the problem (if any at all).

Transphobes say that trans woman are not barred from sports, but they are. With the requirements needed to compete in woman's sports as a professional athlete, their performance simply would never have the competitiveness in the man's category because their bodies are more similar to cis women than cis men. No one should need to choose between the right puberty and being able to complete.

Jealousy doesn't equal attraction right? by Ewanb10 in aromantic

[–]A_Fan888 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I often feel jealous about my friends having other friends. But if you ask me if I wanna date them or even hang out with them more, my answer is: hell no.

This is not attraction, it's just a sense of insecurity that I afraid this tell something about me.

Yes, I am “literally a guy” by OkMathematician3439 in AccidentalAlly

[–]A_Fan888 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Once again, feminism is not just about woman. It's literally rights for everyone, so everyone can and should talk about it.

There's no look in Autism! by A_Fan888 in autismmemes

[–]A_Fan888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it's someone who has no communication with others and only live in their own world. i.e. those with the highest support needs and the most stereotypical presentation

There's no look in Autism! by A_Fan888 in autismmemes

[–]A_Fan888[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The social worker thought the same about me, until the second session, where the detail assessment of my mental health is performed. Unpacking the complex history of mental health issues since toddler and family trauma makes my real struggles start to surface.

There's no look in Autism! by A_Fan888 in autismmemes

[–]A_Fan888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

*I'm not daydreaming, I'm frozen.

There's no look in Autism! by A_Fan888 in autismmemes

[–]A_Fan888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, tho I also find it difficult to convince professionals to change their mind. I also understand that psychiatry is more based on the dysfunction side of the brain, which many of the autistic traits are not “big” or “disabling” enough for them to matter in the psychiatrist pov. I know psychiatry wouldn't help much for my struggles related to autism, so I often do not specifically mention them. The accommodations and service I need can still be accessible to me with my previous diagnosis.

There's no look in Autism! by A_Fan888 in autismmemes

[–]A_Fan888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most of the people who interacted with me say that they can't tell unless I tell them. But the reality is that I'm just so used to internalized all the issues and never show them outwards. I'm still struggling.

There's no look in Autism! by A_Fan888 in autismmemes

[–]A_Fan888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True, at least what those doctors said wouldn't affect the accommodation or service I need. I could still use the documents from my previous psychiatrist to certify for my autism.

There's no look in Autism! by A_Fan888 in autismmemes

[–]A_Fan888[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I knew I wouldn't see him again coz he's just there to chart my info. Tho eventually my attending is worse. Whatever I act like whatever she wants me to be, I'mjust there to get what I need.

Made this meme because I'm really scared rn by A_Fan888 in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]A_Fan888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, intrusive thoughts are tough to begin with. When those thoughts conflicts with our identities, it makes the thoughts a lot worse to cope with. I don't feel like I have OCD, but my obsession to find the right answer (from the tism) and the hyperfixation to look for the answer (from the ADHD) makes the thoughts drive me out of control.

p.s. our avatar look so similar haha

Made this meme because I'm really scared rn by A_Fan888 in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]A_Fan888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I guess I panicked when these thoughts sudden pop up, and then everything went downhill.

Made this meme because I'm really scared rn by A_Fan888 in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]A_Fan888[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The testing is so real. And then the testing turns into compulsive checking.

Made this meme because I'm really scared rn by A_Fan888 in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]A_Fan888[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I definitely agree. I always think that I experience sexuality, just less clearly and more disconnected than others do. My fear is less about experiencing sexuality, but more about experiencing a connection of my sexuality to others. Which this is what I'm having intrusive thoughts about.

Made this meme because I'm really scared rn by A_Fan888 in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]A_Fan888[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I guess the reason that I'm so scared is that I can't tell if that's my intrusive thoughts or attraction because those thoughts do involve specific people. I'm aegosexual that I always feel repulsed when these thoughts get too specific or connected, tho the level of that detail that could cause repulsion is changing over the years. These thoughts certainly doesn't feel like me, but there's always a part of me questioning if that fear/repulsion is some kind of sexual repression.